zonelistener said:
Out of curiosity...how bad was it?
Well....even after I lowered my standards considerably to that of a normal sloppy guy's housekeeping, I was still horrified. Let's put it this way: I squatted over the toilet like I do in a gas station bathroom.
Then it got worse. He's a yoga teacher (and an excellent one) and was showing me some poses to help prepare me for beginning yoga. I took one look at his toenails and knew when I walked out the door I would not return, nor would I return his phone calls. I mean, really. I was seriously offended. Sad thing is, I enjoy talking to him and have known him for many years, which is always a good way to begin a relationship. But his lack of grooming and housekeeping skills, while trying to impress a woman with his yoga and strong intellect, said all I need to know about him.
Attention men: GROOM for God's sake--nails, ears, nose hair, clean clothes, clean bathroom. It's kind of a no-brainer yet if you don't know how, get a gay friend. I can't say it enough, actually.
But the good news is that I didn't lower my standards and go into that self-deprecating mode of "well, he's the best I can do right now, I shouldn't be too picky because I don't exactly have a line forming outside my door and [worst of all] maybe he'll change."
And then a really, really stunning man asked me out for this weekend.
Funny thing is, because I'm not interested in Sloppy Man, I have unconsciously been following The Rules
http://www.therulesbook.com/topten.html which I always thought were dumb, but man are they working. I keep ignoring him, saying I'm busy and not returning his phone calls, and it's driving him crazy! Now he's got to have me! Tough luck.