Mulholland Drive
The Fly
Okay, here's the story. I met this girl a few years ago. We started a relationship. It was on again, off again for a year and a half. She had a boyfriend the whole time. I know, bad idea, but I thought I loved her. Anyways, we decided to just be friends six months ago. During that time, we've been just that...friends. I have not had romantic feelings for her at all during this time. She has lied about many things, and I cannot have feelings for someone who does that, but I chose to keep the friendship, because she seemed lonely and had problems. Anyways, I had a party Thursday night, she was here, and I got wasted and wrote her an e-mail saying I loved her. Which is really not true. I was in that emotionally drunk stage where you tell people things you don't mean, y'know? Anyways, she stopped talking to me. She was actually quite friendly with me after reading it, and I apologized and told her to disregard it. She stopped talking to me completely a few days ago. I went to her apartment to talk to her, and her roommate said she wasn't home, but her car was in the parking lot. I get home, and her away message says "to the person who knocked on my door...I DON'T WANT TO TALK TO YOU!!!" Then she sent me these e-mails...
E-MAIL #1
I hope you would have gotten the hint by my avoiding you the past few days, but obviously, you didn?t. The only reason why I?m taking any time to respond to your insulting emails and obsessive attempts to contact me is to clarify my position so you will STOP fixating about it. First of all, it is not just about the email you sent, though that email was annoying (and you know what you wrote?so stop dwelling on it!). It?s about a combination of things that have led me to strongly believe that being around you is a totally negative experience for me. Your negativity always brings me down, and I cannot stand constantly fighting with you. There is no changing that?and that?s been clear to me over the course of knowing you. Being ?friends? with you is just unhealthy, and I do not want it anymore. Can you understand that?
My idea of friendship doesn?t include threats, insults, judgments, and psychotic, obsessive rage?which is exactly what you offer me as a ?friend.? So let?s put it simply: it?s not about the email, it?s about you. And I don?t want to deal with this ******** anymore.
Do not call, do not IM me, do not threaten me, do not criticize me in order to make me feel poorly about myself (it will not work anyway), do not try to involve yourself with me through MY friends, do not try to prove yourself as a caring friend?it?s a lost cause, do not come to my apartment or stalk me in any other way. Just let it go and get on with your life.
This is as involved as I will get in your ******** drama.
E-MAIL #2
Again, I DON'T WANT TO TALK TO YOU!! Why do you insist on writing me back, only to try and insult and regain your self confidence while doing so?? It's just pathetic how you treat ME, and I do not need to prove that you are some "psychopath", as you prove time and time again in your emails that you send. You aim to insult, not to better. You could have just taken the hint, and walked away. Instead, you decide to stick around, and try and insult and threaten me. So, as much as you TRIED to hurt or scare me in your email, it makes me just realise even more what a wise choice I made in not talking to you again. A "friend" no matter how mad they are, would not backlash like this. If I wished, I could go on insulting you in this email, but I guess since I don't feel like making an ass out of myself, I'll stick to sanity. Speaking of which, you sound completely insane in your email and, as I thought you would, never even got the point of my last email. So please, take this time again and read over. I believe I said, do not email me....let me add in another one, DO NOT INTERFERE WITH MY LIFE. I'm not sure why this is so incredibly hard for you to understand. And again, you can tell me time and time again how ****ed up you think I am, or how insane you think I've been acting, but I really REALLY do not care! I obviously have friends who really DO care about me, unlike you, who constantly aims to hurt. So, looking at this, we can see that I am a good person, no matter how difficult of times I go through, or stages I go through in life. Any sane good friend would see this. You, obviously, don't. And I have treated you no worse than you have treated me. AND GET OVER THE ****ING EMAIL!!!!! As I said before, it's not even about that. As for threatening me, that's ****ing insane and desperate. Lay off the "I'm better than you" power trip. Again, for your sake so you see it this time I WANT NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU. LEAVE ME ALONE. DO NOT WRITE ME BACK. In closing, **** off.
This is where I'm bewildered. I have NEVER threatened her or become enraged towards her. I've treated her better than anyone else, and besides being moody sometimes, she has always seemed perfectly happy being around me. Then I get these. Her brother IM'ed me and said if I ever bothered her again, he'd come beat me. Furthermore, she met a guy online a while back, and decided to meet him in person. She told me he was nuts, and promptly cut him off. I just found out from him (with e-mail proof) that she told him she loved him, tried to kiss him, and even sent him love letters. She went to California a while back with her ex, and made a point of e-mailing me to tell me he was trying to force her into sex with him. She said he threatened to leave her there. She badmouthed the ex when she returned, and cut him off for almost a year before speaking to him again. She told me maybe four months ago that she did indeed willingly have sex with him. And that she had done it as recently as a few weeks prior.
Now, I don't want her as a friend anymore. I'm finished. But I'm considering trying to get her professional help. This is not normal behavior. This other guy she met online (who goes to my university) is stopping by tomorrow to talk. I know it sounds childish, but we're considering telling her boyfriend everything. He does not deserve this, and if he found out, maybe she'd realize she needs help. Some may say it's not my place, but I am making it my place. She needs to stop. She's destroying people's lives and screwing around behind this guy's back. Is she NUTS?!? Opinions please.
On a side note, I took her to our first U2 concert.
E-MAIL #1
I hope you would have gotten the hint by my avoiding you the past few days, but obviously, you didn?t. The only reason why I?m taking any time to respond to your insulting emails and obsessive attempts to contact me is to clarify my position so you will STOP fixating about it. First of all, it is not just about the email you sent, though that email was annoying (and you know what you wrote?so stop dwelling on it!). It?s about a combination of things that have led me to strongly believe that being around you is a totally negative experience for me. Your negativity always brings me down, and I cannot stand constantly fighting with you. There is no changing that?and that?s been clear to me over the course of knowing you. Being ?friends? with you is just unhealthy, and I do not want it anymore. Can you understand that?
My idea of friendship doesn?t include threats, insults, judgments, and psychotic, obsessive rage?which is exactly what you offer me as a ?friend.? So let?s put it simply: it?s not about the email, it?s about you. And I don?t want to deal with this ******** anymore.
Do not call, do not IM me, do not threaten me, do not criticize me in order to make me feel poorly about myself (it will not work anyway), do not try to involve yourself with me through MY friends, do not try to prove yourself as a caring friend?it?s a lost cause, do not come to my apartment or stalk me in any other way. Just let it go and get on with your life.
This is as involved as I will get in your ******** drama.
E-MAIL #2
Again, I DON'T WANT TO TALK TO YOU!! Why do you insist on writing me back, only to try and insult and regain your self confidence while doing so?? It's just pathetic how you treat ME, and I do not need to prove that you are some "psychopath", as you prove time and time again in your emails that you send. You aim to insult, not to better. You could have just taken the hint, and walked away. Instead, you decide to stick around, and try and insult and threaten me. So, as much as you TRIED to hurt or scare me in your email, it makes me just realise even more what a wise choice I made in not talking to you again. A "friend" no matter how mad they are, would not backlash like this. If I wished, I could go on insulting you in this email, but I guess since I don't feel like making an ass out of myself, I'll stick to sanity. Speaking of which, you sound completely insane in your email and, as I thought you would, never even got the point of my last email. So please, take this time again and read over. I believe I said, do not email me....let me add in another one, DO NOT INTERFERE WITH MY LIFE. I'm not sure why this is so incredibly hard for you to understand. And again, you can tell me time and time again how ****ed up you think I am, or how insane you think I've been acting, but I really REALLY do not care! I obviously have friends who really DO care about me, unlike you, who constantly aims to hurt. So, looking at this, we can see that I am a good person, no matter how difficult of times I go through, or stages I go through in life. Any sane good friend would see this. You, obviously, don't. And I have treated you no worse than you have treated me. AND GET OVER THE ****ING EMAIL!!!!! As I said before, it's not even about that. As for threatening me, that's ****ing insane and desperate. Lay off the "I'm better than you" power trip. Again, for your sake so you see it this time I WANT NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU. LEAVE ME ALONE. DO NOT WRITE ME BACK. In closing, **** off.
This is where I'm bewildered. I have NEVER threatened her or become enraged towards her. I've treated her better than anyone else, and besides being moody sometimes, she has always seemed perfectly happy being around me. Then I get these. Her brother IM'ed me and said if I ever bothered her again, he'd come beat me. Furthermore, she met a guy online a while back, and decided to meet him in person. She told me he was nuts, and promptly cut him off. I just found out from him (with e-mail proof) that she told him she loved him, tried to kiss him, and even sent him love letters. She went to California a while back with her ex, and made a point of e-mailing me to tell me he was trying to force her into sex with him. She said he threatened to leave her there. She badmouthed the ex when she returned, and cut him off for almost a year before speaking to him again. She told me maybe four months ago that she did indeed willingly have sex with him. And that she had done it as recently as a few weeks prior.
Now, I don't want her as a friend anymore. I'm finished. But I'm considering trying to get her professional help. This is not normal behavior. This other guy she met online (who goes to my university) is stopping by tomorrow to talk. I know it sounds childish, but we're considering telling her boyfriend everything. He does not deserve this, and if he found out, maybe she'd realize she needs help. Some may say it's not my place, but I am making it my place. She needs to stop. She's destroying people's lives and screwing around behind this guy's back. Is she NUTS?!? Opinions please.
On a side note, I took her to our first U2 concert.