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So . . .
A good friend on mine has decided to go back to school to get an M.F.A. in Screenwriting. He told me this a couple weeks ago. He received an undergraduate degree in Psychology or Business Administration about 5 to 10 years ago. From what I understand, his academic career was off and on and took him a really long time to finish.
My undergraduate degree is in Film Studies. I took a year of Screenwriting for my program. I also had an emphasis in English/creative writing.
My friend is only applying to UCLA and USC. I was VERY supportive when he told me his news of applying to grad school and I offered to read his screenplay submission and give comments, I offered to help him with his application and that whole process, and I offered to help him study for the GRE.
But I also suggested he should apply to some other programs as well, and that Chapman University has a really good Film program too. He didn't really say anything about my suggestion.
Saturday night, we were celebrating my birthday and driving from a gay bar in Long Beach to a gay club in Long Beach. On the way the screenwriting subject came up again and I made the comparison of UCLA and USC being the equivalent in Film to Harvard and Yale. UCLA and USC, for Film, are in the Top 3 in the nation (along with NYU). I also told him I was so happy for him that he's doing what he wants to do, and that it will be so exciting when he's finally in his program.
Last night he told me he doesn't need friends like me who aren't supportive and who doubt him. He needs his friends to be his cheerleaders and to support him 110%. And because of my TWO comments (never mind all the other wonderful, supportive things I've said and done) we can't be close friends anymore because I'm not the kind of friend he needs.
So basically he "de-friended" me last night. Told me I wasn't a good friend and if that's how I'm going to be he doesn't need close friends like me in his life.
And no matter what I said he wouldn't change his mind. I told him my suggestions were made just to look out for him because I didn't know how much he knew about graduate film programs, and I know a little bit, not a lot, but a little. I told him I was looking out for him and didn't want him to get hurt or be disappointed. I told him that when I was applying to colleges and graduate programs, that was the advice given to me: choose your top 3 and apply, and then apply to 5 or 6 more other programs that are easier to get into. And that was the advice I followed in my academic career.
But he had written me off before he even called to let me know he was mad at me. Saying that none of his other good, close friends doubted him or didn't not believe in him and his abilities. And that basically, with friends like me who needs enemies.
Am I missing something here? Was I being a total jerk and not realizing it?
So . . .
A good friend on mine has decided to go back to school to get an M.F.A. in Screenwriting. He told me this a couple weeks ago. He received an undergraduate degree in Psychology or Business Administration about 5 to 10 years ago. From what I understand, his academic career was off and on and took him a really long time to finish.
My undergraduate degree is in Film Studies. I took a year of Screenwriting for my program. I also had an emphasis in English/creative writing.
My friend is only applying to UCLA and USC. I was VERY supportive when he told me his news of applying to grad school and I offered to read his screenplay submission and give comments, I offered to help him with his application and that whole process, and I offered to help him study for the GRE.
But I also suggested he should apply to some other programs as well, and that Chapman University has a really good Film program too. He didn't really say anything about my suggestion.
Saturday night, we were celebrating my birthday and driving from a gay bar in Long Beach to a gay club in Long Beach. On the way the screenwriting subject came up again and I made the comparison of UCLA and USC being the equivalent in Film to Harvard and Yale. UCLA and USC, for Film, are in the Top 3 in the nation (along with NYU). I also told him I was so happy for him that he's doing what he wants to do, and that it will be so exciting when he's finally in his program.
Last night he told me he doesn't need friends like me who aren't supportive and who doubt him. He needs his friends to be his cheerleaders and to support him 110%. And because of my TWO comments (never mind all the other wonderful, supportive things I've said and done) we can't be close friends anymore because I'm not the kind of friend he needs.
So basically he "de-friended" me last night. Told me I wasn't a good friend and if that's how I'm going to be he doesn't need close friends like me in his life.
And no matter what I said he wouldn't change his mind. I told him my suggestions were made just to look out for him because I didn't know how much he knew about graduate film programs, and I know a little bit, not a lot, but a little. I told him I was looking out for him and didn't want him to get hurt or be disappointed. I told him that when I was applying to colleges and graduate programs, that was the advice given to me: choose your top 3 and apply, and then apply to 5 or 6 more other programs that are easier to get into. And that was the advice I followed in my academic career.
But he had written me off before he even called to let me know he was mad at me. Saying that none of his other good, close friends doubted him or didn't not believe in him and his abilities. And that basically, with friends like me who needs enemies.
Am I missing something here? Was I being a total jerk and not realizing it?