Laura M
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To cut a long story short my Mum's family all fell out with her and my Dad, for 6 years we heard nothing from them and over the past year we have had a lot of problems at home my brother was in hospital, my sister was in intensive care last March and my Mum was in hospital over Christmas and is still ill. My parents have no interest in my Mum's family as they are all spiteful, my aunts will even ignore me now if they see me when I am out even though they stopped talking to my parents when I was 12.
All of a sudden 2 of my cousins started texting me, they kept pressuring me into meeting them and kept phoning me asking questions about the family anytime something was happening like at my Mum's birthday/ their wedding anniversary they would text me asking me what I was doing. I didn't like it but I, believing that they really might be good folk (i.e. being completely naive and blind idiot) spoke to them but didn't give out any info. I told them lies or changed the subject and they got bored and hung up. Two of my other cousins go to my university and they got my number from the first set of cousins, they started meeting me and questioning me, they asked me was I still living were we used to live and they obviously knew this as my cousin shouted out that he drove past our house and was able to tell me our registration plate number, not even we know it , you can't jsut drive by our house, our street is never used unless you live in it as it is not near the main road. I was getting really sick of them phoning me all the time and trying to get me to meet them out one night, they started guilt tripping me by saying i was always their favourite cousin (they are all 6- 10 years older than me) and that Granny would be disappointed because I had changed so much ( My Granny died when I was 6 or 7 and I don't have much memory of her) They must have known my sister was sick as the two times I met them at university they mentioned diabetes 13 times, even my friend asked why they brought it up so mcuh and had they known about my ssister, they also kept asking if my mum was still at work and they obviously knew she wasnt. Our cousins (their other brothers and sisters) are doctors so they can read our medical files as they read my Dad's before. I was clearly being told lies as they were btoh telling me different versions of the same stories and I was finding out information like my cousin got married and one of our relatives died from strangers, when I asked them they told me they didn't know but they had been at the wedding/ funeral then they changed their minds and said they had gone but just forgot about it.
Last week was the final straw though as they had been phoning me all over Easter and kept saying how much of a bad cousin I was as I couldn't even find the time to meet them, then 2 of my cousins walked past and I said hello they looked down and started sniggering to each other, the next day I seen them again when I was crossing the road and they ddi the same thing, kept glancing over and sniggering, yesterday another cousin (sorry if this is confusing ) texted me asking why I was ignoring her so I lied and said my phone was broken over Easter and I lost everyones numbers and sure enough today the cousin who ignored me and sniggered was phoning me questioning me, trying to go to hish ouse and "meet all the rellies" I went mad. I told him that he could cut the pretence and that he obviously wanted something, I told him that him and his sister scuttled past me like 2 rats with their heads down sniggering 2 days in a row and I wasn't that much of a walkover and I didn't want to hear from them anymore. Then I hung up. Now the other cousins are on the bandwagon texting me asking me how I am and what my problem is, I told them I didn't want to hear from them either and now they are telling me I am overreacting and if I cause a massive split between everyone only I can be held responsible. Then the cousins who ignored me said that they just didnt see me (thats right because my friend who walked behind them heard me and then asked why I was calling to strangers!) and they don't know what I am talking about, they know I am mad at everyone (who is everyone? Nobody speaks to me) and that if I fall out with them I am doing the wrong thing.
I know they are bad news and I know they heard me. My Mum said my aunts did the same thing, when I told my cousins one of my aunts told my sister I was ugly and chubby and ignored me but insinuated all sorts of things because she seen me walking home with a friend I was really angry he must have told her because now she doesnt ignore me but pointed and laughed last time I seen her.
I really don't appreciate being put on a guilt trip from people I haven't seen in 6 years, I never needed them and I won't need them now as they say I do, it's not me crawling to them looking for info, I have more important things to do than wonder what people I care nothing for are doing. They are trying to make me feel bad and it is working, I don't like it. My Mum told me that I will only feel bad if they let me and my aunts have done this to her and Dad for 20 years and to ignore them, even I know this will annoy them as they love a good fight. I am just worried now incase they approach me at university and start harrassing me and making me talk to them, I can never stand up for myself.
All of a sudden 2 of my cousins started texting me, they kept pressuring me into meeting them and kept phoning me asking questions about the family anytime something was happening like at my Mum's birthday/ their wedding anniversary they would text me asking me what I was doing. I didn't like it but I, believing that they really might be good folk (i.e. being completely naive and blind idiot) spoke to them but didn't give out any info. I told them lies or changed the subject and they got bored and hung up. Two of my other cousins go to my university and they got my number from the first set of cousins, they started meeting me and questioning me, they asked me was I still living were we used to live and they obviously knew this as my cousin shouted out that he drove past our house and was able to tell me our registration plate number, not even we know it , you can't jsut drive by our house, our street is never used unless you live in it as it is not near the main road. I was getting really sick of them phoning me all the time and trying to get me to meet them out one night, they started guilt tripping me by saying i was always their favourite cousin (they are all 6- 10 years older than me) and that Granny would be disappointed because I had changed so much ( My Granny died when I was 6 or 7 and I don't have much memory of her) They must have known my sister was sick as the two times I met them at university they mentioned diabetes 13 times, even my friend asked why they brought it up so mcuh and had they known about my ssister, they also kept asking if my mum was still at work and they obviously knew she wasnt. Our cousins (their other brothers and sisters) are doctors so they can read our medical files as they read my Dad's before. I was clearly being told lies as they were btoh telling me different versions of the same stories and I was finding out information like my cousin got married and one of our relatives died from strangers, when I asked them they told me they didn't know but they had been at the wedding/ funeral then they changed their minds and said they had gone but just forgot about it.
Last week was the final straw though as they had been phoning me all over Easter and kept saying how much of a bad cousin I was as I couldn't even find the time to meet them, then 2 of my cousins walked past and I said hello they looked down and started sniggering to each other, the next day I seen them again when I was crossing the road and they ddi the same thing, kept glancing over and sniggering, yesterday another cousin (sorry if this is confusing ) texted me asking why I was ignoring her so I lied and said my phone was broken over Easter and I lost everyones numbers and sure enough today the cousin who ignored me and sniggered was phoning me questioning me, trying to go to hish ouse and "meet all the rellies" I went mad. I told him that he could cut the pretence and that he obviously wanted something, I told him that him and his sister scuttled past me like 2 rats with their heads down sniggering 2 days in a row and I wasn't that much of a walkover and I didn't want to hear from them anymore. Then I hung up. Now the other cousins are on the bandwagon texting me asking me how I am and what my problem is, I told them I didn't want to hear from them either and now they are telling me I am overreacting and if I cause a massive split between everyone only I can be held responsible. Then the cousins who ignored me said that they just didnt see me (thats right because my friend who walked behind them heard me and then asked why I was calling to strangers!) and they don't know what I am talking about, they know I am mad at everyone (who is everyone? Nobody speaks to me) and that if I fall out with them I am doing the wrong thing.
I know they are bad news and I know they heard me. My Mum said my aunts did the same thing, when I told my cousins one of my aunts told my sister I was ugly and chubby and ignored me but insinuated all sorts of things because she seen me walking home with a friend I was really angry he must have told her because now she doesnt ignore me but pointed and laughed last time I seen her.
I really don't appreciate being put on a guilt trip from people I haven't seen in 6 years, I never needed them and I won't need them now as they say I do, it's not me crawling to them looking for info, I have more important things to do than wonder what people I care nothing for are doing. They are trying to make me feel bad and it is working, I don't like it. My Mum told me that I will only feel bad if they let me and my aunts have done this to her and Dad for 20 years and to ignore them, even I know this will annoy them as they love a good fight. I am just worried now incase they approach me at university and start harrassing me and making me talk to them, I can never stand up for myself.
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