When I die, I don't want a funeral. For one thing, I know that I'd be the person nobody would come for, they'd say they 'had to work' or 'had a deposit on a beach house' or excuses like that and it would hurt my feelings, even as a ghost
But what I really mean is, I don't want a service done by some preacher who doesn't know me and can't even pronounce my name (like my grandma and Dad got) or the one my Mom got who was the preacher of someone in the family who forgot her name and called her 'your loved one' for most of his speech. I don't want a preacher I don't know making up fake details of my life, playing hymns I don't even know and saying 'that was a favorite of hers!' I don't want a preacher spending 15 minutes dragging out a 30 second Bible story that has nothing to do with my life. I honestly feel these things are not a tribute to the person.
I would rather just have people I know get up and say a little something about me, she liked to roller skate, she loved U2, she loved cats and fed all the strays and wildlife, she loved the mountains, lilacs and honeysuckle in the springtime, and wasted too much time online. She never accomplished anythiing great or owned anything of value but hey, she was here, she cared and somebody should care.
What do you all think of this? Would you rather have a standard service or one like I'm talking about? Play MY favorite songs, tell stories and memories that remind you of me. Then put me away. Isn't that what a last tribute should be about anyway?
But what I really mean is, I don't want a service done by some preacher who doesn't know me and can't even pronounce my name (like my grandma and Dad got) or the one my Mom got who was the preacher of someone in the family who forgot her name and called her 'your loved one' for most of his speech. I don't want a preacher I don't know making up fake details of my life, playing hymns I don't even know and saying 'that was a favorite of hers!' I don't want a preacher spending 15 minutes dragging out a 30 second Bible story that has nothing to do with my life. I honestly feel these things are not a tribute to the person.
I would rather just have people I know get up and say a little something about me, she liked to roller skate, she loved U2, she loved cats and fed all the strays and wildlife, she loved the mountains, lilacs and honeysuckle in the springtime, and wasted too much time online. She never accomplished anythiing great or owned anything of value but hey, she was here, she cared and somebody should care.
What do you all think of this? Would you rather have a standard service or one like I'm talking about? Play MY favorite songs, tell stories and memories that remind you of me. Then put me away. Isn't that what a last tribute should be about anyway?