tryan101 wrote:
now add in the 4 or 5 obnoxious a-holes one row in front of us on Edge's b-stage rail that were so intent on protecting their space they had no problem elbowing out my 10 and 13 yr old kids who were just trying to get a glimpse of the stage all the while allowing their late coming friends rail access and you really start to question what the hell is wrong with these so-called fans. you know who you are mr. all in red 50 yr old guy [/B]
i'm the guy in red, 53 years old to be exact, who kept your son from being 'on the rail'. here's my story:
somewhere, at sometime, i looked down, and noticed a boy of about 10 years old, and saw his hand on the rail. i asked him 'how many shows have you been to?' i think he told me a number, but i forget. i said 'cool!', and turned away. the woman to my right said, 'don't be fooled by his shy manner, he's just trying to get 'rail'. and i looked back at your son, and told him, 'i will let you have a hand here, for stability, but i'm not going to let you stand at the rail. it's not just me, there are other people around here to deal with as well'. your son continued to look up at me, not saying a word. i turned to you and said, 'your son can have a hand on the rail, for stability, but he can't stand on it. people have waited overnight for this'. i was calm with you, and i was calm with your son. neither of you spoke to me again.
your son continued to stand there, ever so slowly trying to work his way between me and the woman on my right. again, i told him what he could have, and what he couldn't have. there WERE friends of mine behind me, who also would have liked to stand next to me, but STILL ended up behind me. so it wouldn''t have mattered to me, small child, big adult, there was no space between us for your son.
a while later, i turned to see your daughter in the same space as your son had been earlier, and at that point, i had nothing else to do with the matter. i knew that there was no space for ANYONE between me and the woman on my right, and left it to others to agree/disagree over the situation.
your son had few words to say to me, even as i understood that he may be shy in a situation as we found ourselves. i tried to draw him out, to talk with him, and had he given me some thing to work with, had he been even a little bit excited about being there, a little more forthcoming, and not appearing to be trying to get rail space that he wasn't entitled to, i would have found him a spot on the rail. but he wasn't. and every time i looked back at you sir, your face was the same. while i can't make assumptions about what your intent was, it APPEARED, that all you wanted was for him to 'get' that spot. and that some how, he deserved it, simply because he is a child. and that wasn't going to happen.
i've been at plenty of shows where parents bring their children, and are happy with the place they end up with, without trying to get them further forward. like any fan who has spent nearly 48 hours in a line, overnight, eating crap food, enduring line drama, i'm not inclined to give over space that isn't there, to someone who comes late, without some feedback, some input, some friendliness, from the person seeking that space. your son was no different. nor were MY friends, who also had spent hours in line, for their spot. they were either next to me because they put in the time and got their first, or behind me because they hadn't. children don't get a pass at an adult concert where there are plenty of 4 foot adults in the same predicament. why you feel your son should be entitled to squeeze his way in, i can't understand.
there is also a safety issue. if you paid any attention to me, (which is seems you did), you saw a 6'1", 230lb man being boisterous, and crazy as hell during the performance. who's going to be responsible if your son or daughter gets injured in a situation like that? many adults do...broken toes, sprained ankles, bruises...it all happens. i'm of the opinion that young children don't have a place in GA. it's too rowdy, the chance of brawls is ever present between drunken fans, and it's too loud. but hey, he's your son. and you would be responsible for him. not me. which is another reason i didn't want him standing next to me.
i can't speak to what you heard from others around me. but i was reasonable with you, AND your son. i was never rude, i never talked 'down' to him, i did my best to talk with him, and see just what he was about. and in the doing, all i could discern was, that YOU wanted him there. and if there is a 'next' time for you, you need to be there for a rail spot, so that he can have it with you. other parents do it, because that's how it's done.