marik
Refugee
just curious as to what others have experienced....
dated girl for 4 yrs (from age 19 to 23, now 24), first love, thought we were going to get married one day, etc.
broke up....for no real important reason, we were just getting tired of each other...arguing....no betrayal or anything.
tried to stay best friends, or at least friends.
I couldnt cuz it was too hard hearing about her moving on, liking new guys, etc. so i told her she can't be part of my life. (this is very strange behaviour for me, i cant believe i did that) we have stopped talking for many months now.
OK, SO THIS IS MY ISSUE...
she does still cross my mind somedays, and i think fondly of our times, but by no means am i hung up on her. at least i dont think so. HOWEVER, i feel that maybe indirectly it is still affecting me, as i have next to NO interest in getting to know new girls. other girls are wanting to get date, get close to me, etc, and they have remarked (and i've also felt) that i am refusing to let them close to me. it's almost like my heart has hardened. the thought of feeling strongly for a girl and letting myself go again, is not appealing at all.
i assume the 2 things are connected (ex, and current feelings)
anyone ever have similar experience, or interesting comments (other than the expected "let yourself love again" )
dated girl for 4 yrs (from age 19 to 23, now 24), first love, thought we were going to get married one day, etc.
broke up....for no real important reason, we were just getting tired of each other...arguing....no betrayal or anything.
tried to stay best friends, or at least friends.
I couldnt cuz it was too hard hearing about her moving on, liking new guys, etc. so i told her she can't be part of my life. (this is very strange behaviour for me, i cant believe i did that) we have stopped talking for many months now.
OK, SO THIS IS MY ISSUE...
she does still cross my mind somedays, and i think fondly of our times, but by no means am i hung up on her. at least i dont think so. HOWEVER, i feel that maybe indirectly it is still affecting me, as i have next to NO interest in getting to know new girls. other girls are wanting to get date, get close to me, etc, and they have remarked (and i've also felt) that i am refusing to let them close to me. it's almost like my heart has hardened. the thought of feeling strongly for a girl and letting myself go again, is not appealing at all.
i assume the 2 things are connected (ex, and current feelings)
anyone ever have similar experience, or interesting comments (other than the expected "let yourself love again" )