Peaseblossom
War Child
(Let me preface this by saying that I may be reacting a little quickly. I generally give a person one week after final contact before they are considered a bastard.... but I digress.)
Since when did common decency fly out the window in the dating world? I am so sick of all the games, and lies and shit that we put ourselves through in the name of finding the "right person."
Don't tell someone they're fantastic if you don't really think so, because when you disappear, the harsher reality is that you didn't mean it, and you don't even care enough to explain why you're not going to call again. Is it truly that hard to just be honest with someone, "You're really nice, but I just don't feel a romantic connection..." THAT"S NOT HARD. It's called letting someone down easy.
How hard is it to NOT kiss someone if you don't mean it? Kisses are special, why would you waste that on someone you never wanted to see again. Why would you make an incredibly romantic gesture if you're never going to call someone again? Damnit! Don't say you're going to call if you're not going to because after being swept off ones feet, the other person will most likely sit by the phone and wait. And when you don't, they'll spend the next days listing what they did wrong, or what's so terribly unattractive about them that it made you want to go away.
I know it's okay to be single, and I'm happy on my own. But it's also okay to want to find the happy ending. I fell in love once, and it was great. I'd like for that to happen again. It's OKAY to want to be romanced. It's not a CRIME to want to be held. I know I'm not ready to get married yet, but boy would I like to stop dating.
Since when did common decency fly out the window in the dating world? I am so sick of all the games, and lies and shit that we put ourselves through in the name of finding the "right person."
Don't tell someone they're fantastic if you don't really think so, because when you disappear, the harsher reality is that you didn't mean it, and you don't even care enough to explain why you're not going to call again. Is it truly that hard to just be honest with someone, "You're really nice, but I just don't feel a romantic connection..." THAT"S NOT HARD. It's called letting someone down easy.
How hard is it to NOT kiss someone if you don't mean it? Kisses are special, why would you waste that on someone you never wanted to see again. Why would you make an incredibly romantic gesture if you're never going to call someone again? Damnit! Don't say you're going to call if you're not going to because after being swept off ones feet, the other person will most likely sit by the phone and wait. And when you don't, they'll spend the next days listing what they did wrong, or what's so terribly unattractive about them that it made you want to go away.
I know it's okay to be single, and I'm happy on my own. But it's also okay to want to find the happy ending. I fell in love once, and it was great. I'd like for that to happen again. It's OKAY to want to be romanced. It's not a CRIME to want to be held. I know I'm not ready to get married yet, but boy would I like to stop dating.