Varitek
Blue Crack Addict
No problem. Chose the name Varitek (I assume that's what's confusing you) because he's been my favorite player since about 2000. In hindsight, probably should have picked something U2 related.
BostonAnne said:
LOL!
My two cousins grew up with 2 mothers that blended families. My Uncle died in a car accident when my Aunt was divorcing him. My family seemed to have a grudge or just didn't make sure that the relations were open with my Aunt (my uncle is my father's brother) and we didn't see my cousins for a lot of years. When the oldest cousin graduated, his father's side of the family was invited and the communication opened up again.
I have always been bothered that my grandparents, father and aunt (Dad's sister) didn't make sure that they were part of my cousin's lives. Honestly, I don't know all of the details - and in fairness to my family - their reaction could have been as strong if they lost their son/brother when he was heavily charged emotionally because she left for another man instead of for a woman. All I know is, my cousins are totally normal and their mothers are too. Thank you for some insight to their thoughts. I'm 16+ years older than my cousins and haven't gotten into an intimate conversation with them to ask the questions you are answering.
martha said:
I was waiting for them to show up as well. But I'm sure that faced with an actual person, rather than a hypothesis, stereotype, or sermon, they'll sit this one out.
AEON said:
I am happy that Varitek has love in her life. Love is essential. The Christians I know would never want to remove the relationships in her life.
I think many of us can be guilty of discussing "theories" and "best case scenarios" at the cost of understanding individual stories. I also know that even a group of single friends can make a "family."
That being said - Merry Christmas Varitek to you and your family.
BrownEyedBoy said:From a first view, one would think that a male child growing up with gay male parents would learn to be attracted to other males.
Irvine511 said:did you ever consider your situation as "less than the ideal"? do you think that, despite all the love and support that you received from your parents, children are still always better off with opposite-sexed parents? if so, do you think adoption should be limited to straights only so that children don't miss out on having a mother and a father?
martha said:
You really think sexual orientation is a learned behavior?
BrownEyedBoy said:
My guess would be that if a child sees his parents doing certain things the child would do that.
BonoVoxSupastar said:
Are you serious?
BrownEyedBoy said:
Yes. I don't see how close-minded you have to be to ignore the fact that parents are role models for their children.
BonoVoxSupastar said:
Close minded? Of course parents are role models, but some things are not learned.
I grew up with unaffectionate sexless parents do you think I learned how not to have sex? My friend grew up in a single parent's home where the mother never dated again, do you think she learned how to be single all her life?
No, we are both very sexual beings.
Sorry, I'm not going to divert this thread anymore.
BrownEyedBoy said:
Well, since you've clearly mentioned the majority of the people in the world and all two of them turned out ok I guess that it MUST be true.
BrownEyedBoy said:
Yes. I don't see how close-minded you have to be to ignore the fact that parents are role models for their children.
Irvine511 said:do you think there's anything you've gained by having same-gendered parents? are there certain attitudes or insights that you possess that the children of opposite-gendered parents might not?
martha said:I was thinking about this thread on the Stairmaster this morning.
It's the young people that make me think our country will recover and be ok. See, when young people think that having gay parents is ok, they will be unwilling to allow others to discriminate. I thknk this always has to happen; the kids have to grow up with acceptance and then change what the unaccepting adults have done.
I may not be making much sense, but it's been a long day today.
Dreadsox said:
You and I have very similar thoughts. WE may be near the end of the lifeline when we see progress.
jonnytakeawalk said:You said you have a family of four girls, 3 other sisters am I right??! So I guess I'm wondering would your opinions and thoughts on your parent situation be different were you a male??! Obviously it's impossible for you to answer this, but its often said 'a boy needs his father.' It would be hard to deny that a male would be disadvantaged having lesbian parents, i'm not sure that would be an ideal parenting situation in this regard. I read myself that according to many crimonologists boys with absent fathers have often been lead to violence and crime. The relationship between a boy and his Father is such a vital and important one that really shapes a child, more so I think then between a girl and her Father.
Its great that you dont feel disadvantaged at all and are totally content with your family structure but just throwing it out there do u think a male might feel differently??!
Pearl said:Do you read the New York Times Magazine? Because two years ago, it did a cover story on a girl who was born to and raised by lesbian parents. I found the feature fascinating and very informative, but it did raise a lot of questions for me, mainly about how having two parents of one sex affects a child. Now, I have nothing against homosexuals having children, but I admit I can't help but wonder a few things, (maybe because I'm into psychology) and I hope I don't offend you with my questions.
One thing I do wonder, if a child is raised by two parents who are of a different sex than the child (like a boy raised by two mothers, or a girl raised by two fathers), are they more likely to respect the opposite sex more or feel insecure around them?