Here's an essay from the Huffington Post about today's men:
Dr. Peggy Drexler: Are Men What They Used to Be?
I think its cool that more men are more interested in being involved fathers. That could help children, especially girls, grow up feeling more secure with themselves.
I have to admit I still will like to see men keep their traditional traits. Meaning, I wouldn't want to be involved with a guy who is emotional, overly sensitive, etc. But at the same time, I wouldn't want someone is really macho. Somewhere in between is good.
So, is it best that men and women balance masculinity and feminity between each other, instead of one being masculine and the other being feminine? Do you think women will become the masculine ones in the world in the future, being the breadwinners, career focused, emotional distant? Or do you think men and women embracing their male and female traits is here to stay? Would the world be better this way?
Thoughts welcome!
Dr. Warren Farrell, the author of the book Father and Child Reunion, points to the growing desire of dads to be a bigger part of their children's lives. This new paternal involvement, he writes, "is to the twenty-first century what women's desire to be in the workplace was to the twentieth century."
A 2007 survey by the employment website Monster.com found that 70 percent of fathers would consider being a stay at home parent if money were no object. Almost 50 percent of dads of school aged children took paternity leave when their employer offered it.
The evidence is also accumulating in smaller increments. Men are free to hug more, they help with homework, they listen more, and -- especially with daughters -- are part of their lives in ways long denied to fathers of earlier generations. Is it feminization that has brought fathers so far from the distant, silent providers of the past?
Pick any organization, and you'll find awareness, backed by shifts in culture, that the days of the my-way-or-the-highway manager are past. Is it feminization to realize that leadership by brute force of title must be replaced by the so-called "soft skills" of communication, cooperation and engagement?
While some wail over the declining state of manhood implied by the statistics, there is also the very real possibility that men are evolving from swaggering through life in some cartoon interpretation of what men are supposed to be -- to becoming more fully-formed human beings free to find out what they can be.
Dr. Peggy Drexler: Are Men What They Used to Be?
I think its cool that more men are more interested in being involved fathers. That could help children, especially girls, grow up feeling more secure with themselves.
I have to admit I still will like to see men keep their traditional traits. Meaning, I wouldn't want to be involved with a guy who is emotional, overly sensitive, etc. But at the same time, I wouldn't want someone is really macho. Somewhere in between is good.
So, is it best that men and women balance masculinity and feminity between each other, instead of one being masculine and the other being feminine? Do you think women will become the masculine ones in the world in the future, being the breadwinners, career focused, emotional distant? Or do you think men and women embracing their male and female traits is here to stay? Would the world be better this way?
Thoughts welcome!