I'm single. In the past 18 months I have tried dating folk, one of them was a lot older with a daughter and that was going nowehere, another one was an ex with a pregnant girlfriend who he had just bought a house with and didn't bother to tell me. I only just found out last week that he bought this house wit her last year. He told me he still lived at home. The rest I just wasn't compatible with, there were one or two oddballs though.
I'm a contented single person although my Mum and sister seem to think I should meet someone. They are always eager for me to take up anyone's offer of going for a drink and try to tell me I need to flirt more. My sister was going out with someone for 18 months, 2 weeks after they broke up she launched into her current relationship. She can't understand why I don't want that but I don't understand why she doesn't want to enjoy being single for a while. We are both very different. When we go out there is always an emphasis on meeting someone, even her friends are like that. Most of my friends are single and happy or in a longterm relationship there isn't that pressure of going out just to meet someone when we're out.
I do have moments when I think it would be nice to have a boyfriend to do things with. When I have bad dates I always think that I could have worked thing out with my first boyfriend (we went out over a 2 year period when I was at school). I really liked him and we never fought or had a nasty breakup, he jsut went away to a different university and we didn't live near each other or drive at the time.
I try and let my mum, sister and friends have a say in what I should be like when I go out meeting folk but I always feel awkward. I don't like acting like someone I'm not. I have quite low self-esteem and everyone tells me I could meet someone if I just had more confidence. Right now I'm enjoying being independent and sorting out the problems I have with myself rather than trying to meet someone.