Yes - so then why are we having this discussion if you think that is all there is to it?
i'm pointing out how anti-sex attitudes can create more harm than good.
and being pro-sex doesn't mean pro-teen sex.
I don't assume that would be her default behavior. Again - I was presenting a worst case scenario to prove a point.
what is the actual point?
Why do you think monogamy is best? Just curious. Would you teach that to your son or daughter if ever adopt? If so - why?
with monogamy you have accountability, and the negative consequences of sex are virtually nil. if two people are std free and they only have sex with each other, they will never contract an std.
some couples may negotiate with monogamy, and it can be said that monogamy is not natural and difficult for many people. adults skilled enough to explore the world of open relationships are certainly free to do so, but i do think the cultural expectation is monogamy.
And that is the main point - there ARE negative consequences to sex - it is not just a scoop of ice cream raising endorphin levels.
of course. so encouraging good, healthy sex seems a better way than forbidding it and encouraging a double standard for boys and girls.
i'm not saying you're doing this, i'm responding in general, and keeping in mind the article i posed where the father wishes his daughter a happy sex life, whether it's only within the bounds of matrimony or otherwise. the point he's making is that he wants his daughter to view sex as a good thing, and not as a thing she "gives up" to a boy that wants it.
and, in my opinion, it's this "getting" of sex that contributes to Rape Culture and things like Stuebenville, Tailhook, etc.
Are you suggesting teen pregnancy is a bad thing?
yes.