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War Child
I need to vent to this, so I thought about Interference.
I've been married for Six months now. Happily married, to my collage sweetheart no less. We have a new apartment, we're both doing great at our jobs, we're very happy.
Shortly before marrying I switched jobs, and it's been going pretty good for me. I'm the head of a small team, three people. One of which is a girl I've grown quite fond of.
She'd been living with her boyfriend for three years until last month, when she left him because the guy was kind of a douche bag. Now she's pretty depressed and moving on with her life. And I'm happy for her, because what she had was really not going anywhere, and she was constantly hurt and she's a really nice person.
And basically I'm having a hard time coping with caring for someone, other than my wife, so much. Specially because of all the circumstances; I work with her, I'm married, I'm her boss, but I really like her and I care about her.
So I'm constantly holding back trying to keep it strictly professional. But it's hard not to be supportive when she's all bummed out. And I'm trying to not let it affect me at home, but she's constantly on my mind. I don't want to cheat on my wife, I don't want to jeopardize my job. But I also don't want to shut myself emotionally off to other people, you know?
When I made the commitment to my wife, I knew that I wasn't gonna fool around on her. But it never occurred to me, that other people would actually grow on me, you know? No one told me I would have a crush on someone else, and it's just eating me up inside. I know that I probably just have to let it pass, and everything will go back to normal. But still, it's very difficult to spend most of my time with someone I'm starting to feel something for, even though it's not what I want.
Has anyone out there been through something like this? How did you cope? What did you do?
I've been married for Six months now. Happily married, to my collage sweetheart no less. We have a new apartment, we're both doing great at our jobs, we're very happy.
Shortly before marrying I switched jobs, and it's been going pretty good for me. I'm the head of a small team, three people. One of which is a girl I've grown quite fond of.
She'd been living with her boyfriend for three years until last month, when she left him because the guy was kind of a douche bag. Now she's pretty depressed and moving on with her life. And I'm happy for her, because what she had was really not going anywhere, and she was constantly hurt and she's a really nice person.
And basically I'm having a hard time coping with caring for someone, other than my wife, so much. Specially because of all the circumstances; I work with her, I'm married, I'm her boss, but I really like her and I care about her.
So I'm constantly holding back trying to keep it strictly professional. But it's hard not to be supportive when she's all bummed out. And I'm trying to not let it affect me at home, but she's constantly on my mind. I don't want to cheat on my wife, I don't want to jeopardize my job. But I also don't want to shut myself emotionally off to other people, you know?
When I made the commitment to my wife, I knew that I wasn't gonna fool around on her. But it never occurred to me, that other people would actually grow on me, you know? No one told me I would have a crush on someone else, and it's just eating me up inside. I know that I probably just have to let it pass, and everything will go back to normal. But still, it's very difficult to spend most of my time with someone I'm starting to feel something for, even though it's not what I want.
Has anyone out there been through something like this? How did you cope? What did you do?