gvox
Ghost of Love
melon said:
So if one of them was gay and had a same-sex spouse, would you be against them adopting children? Or would you be against it?
Melon
I don't have to worry about it. They are straight, they were born that way.
melon said:
So if one of them was gay and had a same-sex spouse, would you be against them adopting children? Or would you be against it?
Melon
melon said:
How amusing...Western cultural bigotries rear its ugly head again. What about a lesbian couple? It always goes down to disgust over gay males, mostly because society immediately thinks of how children would be raised, if done by two straight males. Men should be insulted by such a statement, because it implies that men are automatically bad parents and women are automatically good parents. How often does the court system, in divorce cases, give the children to the mother? That's right. Almost always.
FYI, it is a phenomena, but, if you didn't know this, in both gay and lesbian couples, one usually takes on the emotional equivalent of the opposite sex. The "dominant" (father) figure and the "subordinate" (mother) figure. I think the best couples are the ones that don't take either polar opposite and have both elements--and that happens a lot.
Trust me on this. You don't have to worry about this.
Melon
gabrielvox said:Melon, for once I am going to tell you to grow up.
melon said:
And, for once, I'm going to tell you to shove it. Don't throw some pedantic statements like that in here.
I hate these discussions, and I'm finished with it.
gabrielvox said:I told you that because it is clear that for the first time in as long as I can remember, you are clearly losing control of your normally objective unemotional composure.
As I mentioned earlier, I'm quite shocked, but everyone has their 'button' I suppose.
gabrielvox said:
The simple fact is that gay marriages and adoptions have not been around long enough or in significant enough numbers for exhaustive studies to be performed in this regard.
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And from the studies that are out there, the problems that I noted and learned about centred more on some of the children's natural inclination to form heterosexual relationships, but having conflict with a deep-seated issue of displeasing or somehow going contrary to their gay parent's overt or implied wishes, much like a child may harbor a secret guilt for becoming an actor rather than following in his father's footsteps and taking over the family business.
Now, as for the decades of research that HAVE been carried out on well-adjusted adults of all sexual persuasions, the studies are conclusive that a person, male or female, requires the proper mix of masculine and feminine adult influence on a daily/regular basis to grow into a well rounded person. A gay couple cannot ever give that to a child, and there is no study now or in the next 100 years that will be able to disprove that.
Therefore, putting aside any personal or societal beliefs on what is a 'normal' or 'abnormal' family, for the benefit of future generations of children I am against gay couple adoptions.
martha said:I'm not as generous as melon; I am disappointed that you think this way, gabriel. [/B]
paxetaurora said:Please consider spinning off further debates about homosexuality/gay adoption into a separate thread. I know there are no hijackers here; just a friendly reminder...