I'd like to engage you on this one actually. I am white. I don't use the word in casual conversation or whatever but I am a massive hip-hop fan as you know and often sing/rap hip-hop tracks, just like I would any other song that pops into my head. I don't see what the big deal is? I quote those songs because I love them. I quote Samuel L Jackson's lines from Django Unchained because they were funny.
Kanye West gets crowds of tens of thousands to scream the line "MJ gone / our nigga dead" at every show he does.
I've always found it extremely odd that if someone sings a line containing the word that all of a sudden they're ignorant, or bigoted, or whatever, when they're just singing a song they like
Hmmm. Well, perhaps you're right. While I definitely appreciate and respect good hip-hop music, I can't pretend to be as familiar with the culture as you are (though yeah, I know how prevalent that word is). I guess I'd ask if your black friends are comfortable with you using it? I really don't know. I can't think of a single Africa-American colleague or friend of mine who would appreciate me using it any context.
I guess I have mixed feelings about it, because I'm a bit of free speech absolutist, and am uncomfortable with there being certain words people cant say, especially in context. I actually think people can be way too sensitive about a lot of topics. But on the other hand, that word has such power in our society that the baggage that goes with it often can overwhelm context. I just think that in this case it's better to avoid using it altogether. Perhaps there's a double standard, but I know that in the African-American community use and "ownership" of the term is a kind of empowerment. But otherwise...hmmmm. I don't know. As a personal decision, I wouldn't use the word in any context, except perhaps an academic one. I do think there's a difference between people singing along at a Kayne West concert and using it in a venue like this or casual conversation.
Would you use "faggot", for any reason, because it's a common word in certain types of music? I'm not equating the terms, just kind of thinking about it out loud.
In any event, as I said at the beginning, I don't think you're a bigot, which is why I responded to you the way I did (rather than something stronger). I'm just saying you might want to think about it before you say it, and consider that the internet is forever, and you might regret it one day. Most people don't want to hear about context when it comes to that word, and aren't interested in why you said it, they're just going to make instant assumptions about you. You might not care, but perhaps someday you will. Just a thought.
Anyway, this discussion perhaps belongs in Free Your Mind. Thanks for the civiil exchange and perhaps we both have something to think about.
We can go back to arguing about U2 now.