Would you be mad if you caught your lover looking at porn?

[MrsSpringsteen]

We have been intimate a lot more since this incident happened

Well see it has already helped your relationship, the fact that you communicated honestly about it is probably the likely reason for your improved intimacy. Intimacy means just that, it is all about everything else that happens outside of sex. And that combined with you using your imagination and not porn, well that has probably helped your intimacy too.

Signed, Dr. Ruth

Seriously that's great, I applaud a guy who deals with issues in his relationship in such a way.

 

[love2bmama]

yes, I'd be mad. Or at least, very annoyed.

 

[Caroni]

I´ve heard that some people are "sick" and see so much porn that they cant´t get satisfation in the real life, if it´s not your case, then it is not a bad thing, in fact if I catch my couple (read as husband, I don´t believe in premarital sex) seeing porn, I just join him and do something


What I can´t forgive is reading your history

 

[sulawesigirl4]

Funny, I just assume men look at porn; I'd never need my boyfriend to tell me. It's his business.

Ditto. Just like my collection of erotica is my business.

 

[MaxFisher]

Porn is addictive and often creates unrealistic expectations for sex and body image.

So yes, I'd be upset.

 

[Angela Harlem]

I really couldn't care less. My knowing about it changes nothing. I'd only care if it were an addiction or bordering on the strange. But that's like anything. He's addicted to Pringles, and that bothers me.

 

[fly so high!]

As a result, we're now in couples therapy because we've got to get over this bump in our relationship.

I'm sorry...i don't mean to laugh.

On a serious note..........i have no problem with my hubby looking at porn....it's not like he does it 24/7 and in broad daylight for the world to see...but if she has such an adversion to it you will need to prolly respect the fact she does not like it , so you will need to be more seeeeekrit about this stuff and delete your history,cookies and temporary files so if she goes snooping again she won't worry about it anymore!

 

[MrPryck2U]

Well, I sure do appreciate everyone's feedback. I guess I just wanted to gauge the womens' perspective, but of course the mens' was certainly welcome as well.

 

[WinnieThePoo]

if you get bored again
use your imagination , man
there's a whole bunch of very good literature , which is much better then any erotic video
Tropic of cancer by Henry Miller , for example

 

[Irvine511]

Porn is addictive and often creates unrealistic expectations for sex and body image.

so does television.

 

[MrsSpringsteen]

Re: Re: Would you be mad if you caught your lover looking at porn?

I'm sorry...i don't mean to laugh.

Why are you laughing at that?

 

[UberBeaver]

Porn is addictive and often creates unrealistic expectations for sex and body image.

Uh...not for everyone.

 

[MrPryck2U]

Back when I was single, I did watch porn a lot more and go to strip clubs every now and then. But, once I was in a relationship, I saw no need to go to strip clubs anymore. Plus, now that I'm a little older and wiser, strip clubs to me are just kinda gross. As for the porn, I'd only watch it if my lady wasn't around. For me, pleasuring myself was just part of the daily maintenance. You know, like brushing your teeth.

 

[deep]

if you get bored again
use your imagination , man
there's a whole bunch of very good literature , which is much better then any erotic video
Tropic of cancer by Henry Miller , for example

too muck work

for a 30 second activity.

 

[MrPryck2U]

30 seconds? I'll have you know I can last 3 whole minutes with myself.

 

[deep]

perhaps
you should change your name to:

eggtimer

 

[Canadiens1131]

In response to the original question....














Aroused

 

[diamond]

i try and avoid porn these days.
if i ever take a peek at it, i feel it dishonors my marraige commitment and i don't feel right about it.


i feel it dishonors and degrades women for the most part.


dbs

 

[Caroni]

i feel it dishonors and degrades women for the most part.


dbs

Porn is really a degradating thing, not just for women but for all the people involved with it, I don´t know how is possible that someone can do that kind of things

 

[diamond]

Porn is really a degradating thing, not just for women but for all the people involved with it, I don´t know how is possible that someone can do that kind of things

agreed

 

[Irvine511]

it's called capitalism.

but then, we only like capitalism when it supports our specific moral systems.

 

[vaz02]

My Mum and Dad watch porn together, im happy with that as long as i dont walk in while they watching it.

I know my dad checks out porn when he's on the pc, im happy with that as long as he doesnt blame me when he gets a virus.

Porn is a personal thing, as long as its not illegal porn i dont see there being a problem.

 

[diamond]

it's called capitalism.

but then, we only like capitalism when it supports our specific moral systems.

true, but there is a lot of free porn and as a whole we are a nation of morals.

 

[Irvine511]

true, but there is a lot of free porn.

i guess i think that if you don't like porn, don't watch it.

if you think it does bad things to people, warn them about it and do some advocacy.

but seeking to ban it (not that you are) seems really quite silly.

 

[Caroni]

My Mum and Dad watch porn together, im happy with that as long as i dont walk in while they watching it.

I know my dad checks out porn when he's on the pc, im happy with that as long as he doesnt blame me when he gets a virus.

 

[yolland]

I don't know that 'banning' porn has anything to do with the thread topic really. The reality is there are some people who would be uncomfortable with their lover looking at it, even if they have no abstract moral issue with it, even if they simultaneously feel embarrassed about feeling uncomfortable. I wouldn't feel that way but I can understand why some people do.

 

[fly so high!]

Re: Re: Re: Would you be mad if you caught your lover looking at porn?

Why are you laughing at that?

I was thinking to myself if they needed to go to "couples therapy" for this ie: caught looking at porn. Imagine what they are in for when they experience financial problems, a sick child, the bloody "in-laws"(from both sides!) and arguing over whether or not to put paving or concrete in the backyard!

No biggie!....I was not trivialising what probs these guys were having....i just found it amusing as this would be the last thing that ( I ) would worry/argue about.

 

[Liesje]

Maybe they went to couples therapy for trust issues? I agree with many other posters about the snooping maybe being a bigger issue than the porn. If she doesn't trust him and has to go searching on his computer, they're not even going to last long enough for the stuff you worry about. IMO couples therapy can never be a bad thing, even if the issue seems silly. Many couples would rather strangle the life out of their relationship than consider therapy.

 

[AussieU2fanman]

Maybe she should put out more







No offence....but seriously, it'll help.

 

[Angela Harlem]