Bear with me, this is long...
Originally posted by Tabby
Oh for Heaven's sake, it's just for fun! There is no need take it so seriously! Don't be a killjoy! At least no one is bashing a U2 member, or each other! True, we don't know her, but neither do any of you. She could be worse than we even imagine! What I really mean is, I don't see any harm in this, and it's about the last thing I ever expected anyone to fight over Give us a break already! Lighten up!
I didn't think I was being a killjoy by stating my opinion that Naomi is a human being like the rest of us. I would have said the same thing had it been someone on the board bashing someone else. No matter who it is, the things that were being said were inappropriate, in my opinion. You're right, she COULD be worse than we ever imagine...but that's not for us to decide without knowing her. Tabby, you might not see any harm in this, but I do. I stated that opinion and am now being told to "Lighten up!" because I spoke out against openly against the blatent hatred being shown on this board. In fact, I did not intend to start a fight. It seems that what I stated has been taken out of context and percieved as a personal attack, when in fact it was simply a woman stating a deeply held opinion.
Originally posted by FishNeedsABicycle
You expressed your opinion...others expressed theirs...don't put out such harsh opinions if you can't take others expressing theirs...
All they are saying is we could stand to give the girl a break...
Thank you, Fishy. As I've said countless times already, I was simply stating my opinion.
Originally posted by Tabby
Fishy, the saddest thing is I don't even really have a strong opinion! I just saw people making fun of her on other threads, and I thought this would be hilarious, and a chance for FUN! I posted this with the most lighthearted and comical intentions. I wanted to be funny and play around, what a nice change from some the bickering! How anyone turned this into a controversial fight is beyond me.
LIGHTEN UP!!
Once again the words "lighten up" come into the discussion. I am being light. But the lighthearted way people were saying things like "Why doesn't she just die?" and "She serves no purpose on earth." struck me as callous and inappropriate. I felt I needed to speak up. And I did and you seem to be taking personal offence at that, though nowhere was your name ever mentioned.
Originally posted by Sicy
Ok I'm confused.
Superhooch is a big joke around here.. I've seen thread after thread dedicated to barfing at her, laughing at her and whatever else.. but everyone decides to pick on this thread? One person defends Naomi and then everyone else jumps on the poor helpless Naomi bandwagon?
Since when do you guys like her? Didnt she totally screw over Adam? Of course she's a human being but I dont think this thread was posted to hatefully bash her. People post pics of Bono and other girls all the time and get jealous.. its just what you guys do around here! I've seen it a million times!
Anyway.. I'm sorry but I think its kinda blown out of proportion.
You're right, Sicy. Superhooch IS a big joke around here. It just seemed to me that the joke was being taken a little too far. I don't think it's a big deal to share how jealous we are of her and her relationship with Adam, but I do think it's incredibly inappropriate to be continually bashing her for "sport." I never said I liked her and I never said she was "poor and helpless", but coming from a background of physical and mental abuse from people for being the way I am and acting the way I act, I felt I needed to say something about the mean-spirited comments being made. You're also right that it is being blown out of proportion, but did I blow it out of proportion by calmly stating an opinon?
Originally posted by SkyBlueDreamer
That's how it looked to me! I thought she was a running joke on here! Why is suddenly such a terrible thing to joke on her? Oops, I just posted something rude about her on the 'got married' thread, and the charity dinner thread, please don't hurt me! I thought it was just the thing to do and I was playing along trying to fit in with the crowd. Maybe that's what Tabby thought too. I'm sorry but this just hits me as ridiculous. Will somebody please make a list of things you're not allowed to say so us newer girls won't get into trouble?
I never said it was a terrible thing to joke about her. I said it was a terrible thing to forget that she's a human being also. Regardless of whether she will ever read this or hear about this, something inside of me rebels at the thought of having my name associated with hateful, spiteful bashing of another person. When I say having my name associated with this, I mean by rights of being a PLEBAn we are ALL associated with what's going on here. And in a way, we are all responsible for the content. I didn't like the content, so I said something about it because I don't want to belong to a group who seem to get so much pleasure out of mocking and ridiculing other people. Been there, done that, and I'm still paying the emotional costs for having things like this happen. I wanted to stop it. You're right that this is ridiculous. I should be allowed to express an opinion without being attacked from all angles by people on this board. And there is no need for a list of things not to do. This is a board where intelligent people gather, that should be enough. Intelligent people know when they've crossed the line.
Originally posted by Hallelujah Here She Comes
You're not in trouble. Some people just disagree with what was posted, that's all. If you think it's funny, go ahead and join in. Nobody's going to burn you at the stake for it. I think this is getting blown a little bit out of proportion. Some people find it funny. Some people don't. Can we just leave it at that?
Thank you, Gina. I am also one of the people who don't find this funny.
Originally posted by Tabby
Thank you Sicy, everything you said is true! Thanks Sky, Hallelujah, and anyone who understood.
What I cannot understand is why Superhooch bashing suddenly "GOT OLD" as soon as *I* started it. I had never even done it before, but I sure have seen a shitload of it around here! As a matter of fact, I see a new negative Superhooch thread on the page now, ironically started AFTER this mess! Hmm, must not be quite so "OLD" after all
I really was just trying to be fun, just like the rest of you, and I don't get this at all.
Tabby, I also understood what you were saying. But you seem not to understand what I was saying. I didn't know that you would take it so much to heart and think I was attacking you personally. I'm sorry you felt that way. There is and was no need for you to attack me in such a vitrolic manner. I do not appreciate you saying some of the things you did, but I will not dignify them with a response.
As for Superhooch being "old", it's not. In fact, it'll probably never get "old" because new people will always be upset about the way her relationship with Adam ended up. What's getting "old" is the continually increasing vehemence and bite with which the remarks about Naomi are being presented. I do not appreciate that so I posted to remind everyone that Naomi is a human being, since that seemed to be getting lost.
Originally posted by Hallelujah Here She Comes
Don't feel too bad, Tabby. I don't think there was any particular reason your thread was singled out. And there *is* a lot of Superhooch-ness around here, but that doesn't mean everyone agrees with it. I personally don't, and I think we should think about what we say about someone we don't really know. But I also don't think you meant any real harm by it. K?
There was no particular reason I choose to post in your thread, but it seems that you interpret it that way. It seems there has been an abundance of people posting about Naomi recently and yours happened to be the thread in which I finally decided I needed to say something about what was going on. I don't think you meant any harm by posting this thread, but I wanted to curb the dehumanization of Naomi before it started to get really ugly again.
Originally posted by daisybean
Tabby, I wouldn't take it personally, I don't believe that anyone blames you or thinks it's your fault.
I think it's just that some of the comments made about Naomi (not necessarily in this thread), were out and out rude, they crossed the border of humor and straight into mean and vindictive.
Personally, I don't know very much about her...I'd heard of her diva rep, but that's about it.
While I see the humor in the "eeeeeeeewwwww hoochie cooties" that you intended, I think a lot of the girls were still mad over some comments ("Why can't she just die...she is a waste to humanity") made in another thread, which crosses that line. I know you didn't have any malicous intent...however others did, and I think some of the girls were still a bit sore over that.
Frankly, I'm surprised you took it personally, Tabby. The things I said were not directed at you in particular. I do not blame you for posting these pics. And it's not your fault other people were so scathing in their comments about Naomi. As Daisy said, the comments here and in other threads were getting pretty heavy and actually scary. The playful jealousy was turning into something that was getting very vicious.
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I know this has been a long post, but I felt that I needed to respond and make what I said clear. I do not appreciate the personal attacks against me because I hold an unpopular view and I do not see myself as a hypocrite because of anything I've said. I'm deeply sorry if I've offended anyone; nothing that I have said was meant to infuriate or start a fight. I'm sorry people felt this needed to turn into a shouting match. Thank you to those of you who posted comments and participated in this discussion. Hopefully, this never has to happen again. I feel that I've expressed myself clearly and I've done nothing I regret and nothing that goes against what I have always proclaimed were my beliefs and personal values. I would ask that all personal judgements of anyone on this board or anywhere in life, be carefully considered before they are posted. Though this is a message board, the things that go on here are very real. So please, think and act carefully. To use a very old cliche, "walk a mile in their shoes" before you criticize.
~hippy