where in my post did you see anything about a perfect world? learn how to read and understand what you read. why didn't you answer any of the questions i asked? you know why? you can't? if you truly learned at all from your mistakes yo wouldn't keep making them now would you? you wouldn't be knocked up by a married man. this my dear is the height of stupidity for any woman.
you were used by this scum bag and you went willingly. now your child is going to pay the price of your "love".
these men cheat because the weak women in their lives let them. their wives and their "outside women" don't have the fortitude or self respect necessary to say "enough is enough".
bono said it best, " a liar won't believe anyone else". alot of despicable behavior can be ascribed to "human nature". does that make it right? no it doesn't.
i stand by my original statement. you and your lover are contemptable human dregs and i pity the child that will share the DNA as well as the influence of such flawed individuals.
You are right, I was used and went willingly, I still can't understand why I let myself. It was like he kept using up all his coupons and still somehow I managed to overlook his flaws. I have plenty of other good guys in my life. I just don't sit and pine for this married guy, and I'm not so sure that I love him after reading up on all this, I think I'm just fascinated by what I can't have. His wife knows he cheats on her, I know he cheats on us, and yes, we don't have the fortitude to say ENOUGH. But I don't think of this pregnancy as a mistake or proof that I'm a contemptable person, so I stand by my original statement as well. We are all flawed individuals, are we not?
I've made my decision recently. I'm not going to keep this child out of vengeance, or just because I don't believe in abortion. I'm getting an attorney to draw up papers that will keep the father out of our lives, physically and financially. I can afford to raise a child on my own. I won't let this scumbag near my precious offspring. And I'll learn from it and teach new values to my child. I want this child. I love it already and it's only a little bean. It's going to be a beautiful and smart child and I can't wait for my future endeavors and tribulations as a single mother.
I forgot to mention, my best friend was the product of a man and his mistress. He wanted to leave his wife for his mistress and the baby, but the mother refused. They substantially broke up and she raised the child all on her own and the girl never knew her father or her father's family and you know what she said to me? "As long as I knew I had a mother that was willing to endure the struggle that proved to me how much she wanted and loved me, I really didn't need a father."
But she is now successful and happy.
So don't go waving a flag around saying "Don't bring any more flawed individuals in this world."
People do make mistakes, but I'm willing to bet God never does. And I believe in God's view of perfection rather than that of society's.