gluey said:
Hey there....How are you doing?
I hope your weekend has gone ok and you're taking the time to look after yourself!!!
I don't know if it's relevant, any use, or just plain nonsense, but I thought I'd share with you something I learned while nursing my dear father in law through 5 months of Acute Leukaemia......I was stressing, letting everything get on top of me, and not coping very well at all with what he was going through, and the fact we were going to lose him. I was the main support person for him and my mother in law and spent literally every day with them, helping them. I got to the point where I suddenly realised that I needed to have a 'mental shift'. That there are things in life you literally have no control over, and stressing about things you cannot change only puts more burden on what sometimes can already be a troubled soul. I decided that I was going to live and enjoy the 'here and now', and no longer stress and be chewed up by the stuff in life I can't change or control. I tell you what, although it doesn't solve a lot of stuff, it helped me incredibly and I was then able to 'enjoy' those last precious months with a wonderful man. It put things in perspective, and although there were many horrible hospital visits in the visiting sense, it changed my focus....then of course I would blast my U2 cd's in the car on the way home for therapy!
Sorry if I've babbled on, but I just thought maybe sharing with you might open up another window for you, then again, maybe not!! But at the end of the day you're not alone, because we'd never let you escape from our clutches !!!
Thank you for this, Gluey.
I know what you're saying. I'm quite good at telling other folk not to worry over what you can't change but am I any good at doing it myself? No, not especially. I am trying to change who I am when it comes to worrying. I'm much better then I was and I do try to see things from different angles now. Things don't worry me as much as they used to. I learned that last year when I ended up being off work due to stress...ack.... I simply took things far too seriously, got weighed down with all the things I have to do and they kept on piling it onto me until I finally lost it.
Now, I try to think; 'bugger it' only not quite so politely!
I guess I'll always be a worrier... I just have to remind myself that not everything is as 'bad' or as 'important' as I first think. And regarding accepting things you can't change makes a lot of sense. It's getting there that's the problem. Still, I am trying. I am trying to be more laid back. And I wish I was the laid back type. I'm sure they live longer then the worriers...
And it's so nice to come in here and spend a little time with ppl who share my likes (and drools) and interests. And it goes without saying that loosing oneself in U2 is the best tonic one can have. I thought it was only me whose mood lifted whenever I heard the band on the radio or blasted them when I got home. (I've only got a crappy tape deck in the car...
and that runs slow. Bono sounds like he's dropping off to sleep, hee hee), so I have to wait til I get home to do some serious damage to my eardrums.
....I know, I'm rambling again. I seem to be getting worse as I grow older..ack.. Anyway, thanks again Gluey.
BTW, I'm almost ready to post... I'll tell you here so that you don't venture over to fanfic to find I'm just rabbiting..