Recently, I was asked when I would be settling down, marrying, and having children.
My response was, "Not. Going. To Happen." Point blank.
That was when heads exploded, with the oh-so-condescending and predictable, "You're too young to make such a choice; you'll change your mind in a year or two."
Or, my favorite, "That's so selfish!" Damn straight. I'm definitely selfish and hedonistic. Which is why I spend so much time actually helping out the teenagers who seem to think I'm actually a nice person. But ignore that for now.
Keep in mind that I'm 31, and well aware of my choices. Also keep in mind that I'd been perfectly clear about babies since I was aware of the existence of babies: I'd rather cut off my arms and dig out my eyeballs. Never wanted them; can't stand the sound of them, would really rather not be bothered with them.
So, anyway, my question is this: What's up with all those people out there who seem to think that having children is what all female bodied folks want to do with themselves? I mean, really, is it so hard to understand that not everyone wants, or can tolerate, children?
My response was, "Not. Going. To Happen." Point blank.
That was when heads exploded, with the oh-so-condescending and predictable, "You're too young to make such a choice; you'll change your mind in a year or two."
Or, my favorite, "That's so selfish!" Damn straight. I'm definitely selfish and hedonistic. Which is why I spend so much time actually helping out the teenagers who seem to think I'm actually a nice person. But ignore that for now.
Keep in mind that I'm 31, and well aware of my choices. Also keep in mind that I'd been perfectly clear about babies since I was aware of the existence of babies: I'd rather cut off my arms and dig out my eyeballs. Never wanted them; can't stand the sound of them, would really rather not be bothered with them.
So, anyway, my question is this: What's up with all those people out there who seem to think that having children is what all female bodied folks want to do with themselves? I mean, really, is it so hard to understand that not everyone wants, or can tolerate, children?