U2democrat
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i was a mischevious little tomboy. my dad loved it cause i was like the little boy he never had but i drove my mom crazy. in fact, that's still the case!
nbcrusader said:I would hold spanking as one of those "ultimate punishments".
I am not opposed to spanking, but I have not reached the point where I've needed to spank my children.
Clear, direct expectations handle most discipline situations.
pax said:I think physical discipline should be reserved for times when a child in physical danger--e.g. smacking a child's hand away from a hot stove.
Originally posted by pax
That said, though, there definitely has to be a balance between discipline and letting a kid do some exploration and having fun. I think my parents had a pretty good mixof that; there were things I was not allowed to do under any circumstances, but I also remember being let loose pretty frequently. I think it helped me grow up into a person who is creative and independent-thinking, but also responsible.
Very trueAnthony said:Modern kids are horrible little shits, and should all be spanked once in a while. Bring back the cane, I say.
They've had it coming for years.
Ant.
U2Bama said:I will say that I think a risky, negligent trend I see more and more these days is young parents letting their kids do and get away with "whatever" because "kids will be kids." That is only going to be bad for the kids as they mature.
U2Bama said:I think kids need some discipline, and if a parent spanks a kid as a last resort in the heirarchy of discipline, it is not necessarily bad. I definitely don't see it as failure on the part of the parent. Keep in mind, I am talking about harmless "swats" as some of you termed them. Regarding the "mention" of woode spoons, belts, etc., I don't think those are so bad as long as they are only "mentioned" (as some elusive double-secret threat). And what I received as a kid was never "bare-bottomed" fortunately. All of you I see here who got some forms of physical punishment as kids seem to have turned out alright.
I will say that I think a risky, negligent trend I see more and more these days is young parents letting their kids do and get away with "whatever" because "kids will be kids." That is only going to be bad for the kids as they mature.
~U2Alabama
U2Bama said:I will say that I think a risky, negligent trend I see more and more these days is young parents letting their kids do and get away with "whatever" because "kids will be kids." That is only going to be bad for the kids as they mature.
pax said:That said, though, there definitely has to be a balance between discipline and letting a kid do some exploration and having fun. I think my parents had a pretty good mixof that; there were things I was not allowed to do under any circumstances, but I also remember being let loose pretty frequently. I think it helped me grow up into a person who is creative and independent-thinking, but also responsible.
nbcrusader said:It will help remind them to pull up their pants
bonosgirl84 said:
pax, you will make a great parent.
we need more who think like you.
I can remember pissing my mom off so much when I threatened to report her for "child abuse" when we had a dispute. While it is a very good thing for kids to learn about it, I suppose I may be a little cynical to divulge it like this, but every rose has its thorn.Bono's American Wife said:I think this post sums up my opinion of spanking fairly well.
Over the past 10-15 years or so, I've seen a real change in the parent-child relationship, wherein kids have more power and parents are less willing to use discipline. A lot of this has to do with schools and the media better educating kids about child abuse and innapropriate touching (a VERY good thing, don't get me wrong here) but some of the unintended effects of this have made some parents afraid to use discipline.
A good example of this happened when my then 5 year old son received a well deserved swat on the behind and the first thing he did was pick up the phone and start to dial 911 to report me for child abuse
I see a lot of disrespectful kids these days, doing things that I wouldn't have dreamed of doing simply because I knew I would suffer the wrath of mom, which caused just enough fear to make me stop and think twice. Kids today have the upper hand and they know it.
Irvine511 said:
ah, but if their pants are already too low, it makes it that much easier to give them a swift spanking ... low riders are simply *begging* for a smacked bottom.
nbcrusader said:
Or a wedgie - or is that illegal too?