Meghan said:
I wasn't attacking the way she looked!!! I was just thinking out loud that she seems skinnier than usual. How are you to know I wasn't complimenting her?
I don't think there's anything wrong with saying what I think, even if it might strike some people as inappropriate. And I don't think Bono was laughing at the thought of Gavin's dad dying either -- How is that any different to me making an observation?
Just because I state a thought, doesn't mean that's the first or only thought I had.
If you must know, my thoughts went (simplified version):
--Oh, no, poor Gavin...
--Gosh, Ann looks skinny....
--Oh, no, poor Gavin...
It wasn't aimed just at you, Meghan. You didn't say anything inappropriate, and neither did I. In fact, where I come from, in the time it takes a woman to enter the wake, go up to the casket, express condolences to the family, then take her place in the crowd, the women already in attendance have assessed her hair cut, hair color, weight, height, complexion, make up, clothing, shoes, marital status, walk and the expression on her face. When she kneels at the coffin, they're checking out the soles of her shoes to see if there are any price stickers on them.
If we want to toss around "inappropriate," my vote, and I think I am entitled to one without being accused of rank insensitivity, I have a dead father, too, is for a woman in her early 40s who not only dresses like a fifteen year old on her way to the Mall, which is fine if you are a fifteen year old on your way to the Mall, but chooses to wear that get-up to a funeral. I was shocked that she doesn't know better -- she has the benefit of age, experience, travel and money.
And let us keep in mind that within hours of these photos being taken, these people (except for Our Adam, of course) were so drunk they couldn't even recognize their own reflections -- that's appropriate, because that is how it is handled in THEIR culture. Anyone who thinks that funerals and wakes are for the departed hasn't been to too many of them.