Liesje
Blue Crack Addict
I didn't suggest you wanted to change either one of your parents, I said you can't change "it" meaning their relationship with each other. And detaching doesn't necessarily mean cutting either one of them off completely. It means not letting yourself feeling responsible for your mom's happiness or unhappiness, not obsessing over why she won't leave or your dad's behavior toward her. Those are things you can't change or control. I know it's hard, believe me. But the best thing you can do for yourself is live your own life and let them live theirs.
Exactly. Personally I could never live in a home with parents that are disrespectful to each other and themselves, so I would cut myself off, but what I mean is you can offer your mom help and make suggestions but if she refuses to listen to you or accept your help and make changes, you shouldn't let yourself feel responsible and let their relationship effect how you feel about men in general and effect your future relationships. Some people really are poisonous to others and need to be cut out or kept at a distance.