joyfulgirl
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80sU2isBest said:
I would, because I would never be able to trust that person again.
Forgive? Yes, I might be able to forgive. In fact, I need to forgive - it is a command.
I've seen relationships that were strengthened when an infidelity came to light. For a lot of reasons, communication in the relationship had broken down, and both parties were acting out in different ways. When the infidelity was exposed the relationship went into full-blown crisis, the couple got counseling to save the marriage, and not only did it work but it totally re-enlivened what had become a dead marriage. Things that appear to be bad or negative on the surface are often just symptoms of deeper issues and once those issues are worked through there's no reason not to trust again because both parties are taking responsibility for the one indiscretion instead of just casting blame at the other and playing the victim, and both are recommitted to working through it and they can even fall in love all over again. For me it wouldn't be a deal-breaker in and of itself. It would depend on many issues going on. A person can be disloyal in sex but completely loyal on a million other different and, imo, equally important levels.
An inability to trust a person again in some cases reveals more of a weakness on your part than theirs. Just a thought.
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