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I agree...he sounds like he has some anxiety issues about being sufficiently assertive with women, which is his problem not Hallmark's, however materialistic their motives may be (well, are).on a more serious note, there do seem to be structural inequalities built into industries that make their money off of heterosexual relationships, and i can't help but think that those may play out in certain heterosexual relationships. that really is his point, i think, but why does he have to resort to male-bashing (precisely the crime he accuses Hallmark of) to do so? he's really obsessed with testicles. or the metaphorical lack thereof.
on a more serious note, there do seem to be structural inequalities built into industries that make their money off of heterosexual relationships, and i can't help but think that those may play out in certain heterosexual relationships. that really is his point, i think, but why does he have to resort to male-bashing (precisely the crime he accuses Hallmark of) to do so? he's really obsessed with testicles. or the metaphorical lack thereof.
I don't necessarily interpret it as male-bashing per se. If is true, as he claims, that the cult of Valentine's Day perpetuates female entitlement, then actually males are partially 'to blame' by enabling this sense of entitlement - hence, they need to man up and grow a set.
What are the characteristics of an "entitled female" and why would a man choose to date such a woman?
Hmmm. I honestly don't think I know anyone like that. I don't have too many "monied father" friends though, of either sex.
This guy sounds like he has issues with women and with himself.
there seems to be an expectation of a male suitor of a certain income level who is both a guy's guy and yet able to not just meet but anticipate her every emotional need. there is an expectation that they will be treated in the manner in which their monied fathers have treated them, but yet be right in every disagreement. apologies, flowers, and homecooked dinners should follow each fight. genuinely interesting boyfriend prospects are discarded after a few dates because they don't measure up to a certain ideal that encompasses not just a specific physical ideal (actually, they are more forgiving on this than their male entitlement counterparts), but an economic and emotional one as well. failure to live up to specific expectations are not even just personal shortcomings, but actually slights against the female involved. you tell yourself that you won't just "settle," and you can point out the various numerous flaws in the spouses and relationships of all your female friends who have "settled," and you won't make those mistakes.
i love these women, but i would never, ever want to date them. it seems an impossible task. i would initially tend to blame the makers of hollywood rom-coms, but then, people like these women spend $$$ to go see such films, so wash, rinse, repeat.
Being a man, being masculine, whatever you want to call it, is about so much more than what this guy is talking about. It all seems so high school to me.
But who decides what being masculine is all about - and why should women even have any input into defining it?
Seems like all the women replying to this thread have had pretty much the same reaction to V-Day.
yes, but this is Little San Francisco. the women in here hate men to begin with.
The others are too busy imagining the perfect Valentine's Day.