I'm extremely shy about my body

[u2bonogirl]

I dont think I could endure 11 hours in the car on my honeymoon

 

[Carmelu2fan]

That is a bit too long to be on the road!!!

 

[the soul waits]

yes, I agree, you cant change what lies beneath the surface as easily as what covers it.

for me though, I need to change part of what lies beneath the surface to think differently about how I see my body
Otherwise I will always hate how I look no matter what. And will always feel bad about myself

Not intending to sound condescending (that rhymes! ) but I think that feeling will change over the years - yes I'm a 32-year old granny, lol.
My body has changed since the competing-days and the shape (ripped, lean) that came along with that, but mentally, I feel so much stronger.

That's not due to the change of lifestyle (working more, working out less) but it's due to the spiritual and mental growth I've allowed myself to invest time in, much needed time.

So, putting it bluntly, I can't be arsed to worry about the physical changes. (which I seem to notice more than the people around me, since I'm never nekkid in front of my friends obviously, haha)

 

[u2bonogirl]

32 cant be granny status.
My hubby to be is 31 that would mean I was marrying a senior citizen

It gives me hope for myself that people grow out of this sort of obsessiveness, or self consciousness.
I think being married and knowing that somebody loves me for who I am and not my body will do me a lot of good.
He knew he wanted to marry before he ever even saw my body

 

[the soul waits]

32 cant be granny status.
My hubby to be is 31 that would mean I was marrying a senior citizen

It gives me hope for myself that people grow out of this sort of obsessiveness, or self consciousness.
I think being married and knowing that somebody loves me for who I am and not my body will do me a lot of good.
He knew he wanted to marry before he ever even saw my body

I don't want to be negative, but I believe that noone other than you can stimulate you to love yourself. No partner, no husband, how wonderfull he might be for you can get into that conversation between you and you - that's my opinion, for what it's worth.

 

[Windmilllane]

I have a hairy chest, hairy arms, hairy back. I am also slowly losing my hair and I have a belly gut.


I love my body

 

[starsforu2]

Oh, and Freeport Maine is actually an 11 hour drive from Halifax.

Drat! Oh well, think of us next weekend when we're only 12 hours away from you

 

[u2bonogirl]

I never was so negative about myself until I was constantly made to feel worthless by this one person from my past.
Its not something Ive always had, but something beaten into me.
When I feel loved and accepted I tend to not think of myself with as much contempt as I do when Im just around a bunch of people I think are far more beautiful than me.
I need to search myself and weed out the things that make me hate my body
But having somebody to help me is going to be something good I think

 

[Carmelu2fan]

I am in shock you feel that way about yourself...I think you are very pretty!! I used to be ensecure too but I found peace with myself beacuse I know that I am loved for who I am not what I look like.

 

[starsforu2]

I never was so negative about myself until I was constantly made to feel worthless by this one person from my past.
Its not something Ive always had, but something beaten into me.
When I feel loved and accepted I tend to not think of myself with as much contempt as I do when Im just around a bunch of people I think are far more beautiful than me.
I need to search myself and weed out the things that make me hate my body
But having somebody to help me is going to be something good I think

I just deleted a post that basically said the same thing. If you can lose confidence because someone mind-fks you, why can't you gain confidence because some one that you love believes in you?

Fortunately, you're not marrying me because you need this solved, you're marrying me because you love me. I love you just the way you are, insecurities and all. It's not fair to marry someone with the purpose of fixing them. You'll probably end up disappointed. But that doesn't mean that I don't carry hope that I can be there as you grow and be happy when you eventually leave some of that garbage behind.

 

[Carmelu2fan]

I have a hairy chest, hairy arms, hairy back. I am also slowly losing my hair and I have a belly gut.


I love my body

That is how it should feel !!! I know I am not perfect but what the hell...it is all good BABY!!!

 

[Windmilllane]

Damn straight!!

*heads to the beach shirtless*

 

[u2bonogirl]

I feel inspired to streak

 

[dazzlingamy]

weeeeeeeeee! go u2bonogirl!!!

see the thing is, is that it doesnt MATTER what anyone else thinks. Life is not about pleasing other people, its about living it for YOU, doing what you want and being kind and tolerant to people around you.

You only get one life, and who wants to go through it thinking other people think im ugly/scrawny/short/fat etc

I could say you're pretty (which i think you are! ), but i'm sure it won't make a difference. Just understand that all women are beautiful. And laughing, enjoying life, having a great personality makes your more beautiful, then a size 2 waist, big boobs and a perpetual surpised porno look or your face...

you want to be loved for YOU, not just for what you look like!

okies i've banged on enough... lol

 

[u2bonogirl]

That was an excellent post dazzlingamy
Im actually like.....inspired by that

surprised porno look


really, thank you for the post.
It actually made a lot of sense to me
whoa

Im Tara by the way, if anybody wants to call me by my name

 

[dazzlingamy]

im glad tara

Its just, it makes me sad when i see intelligiant, kind women with great personalities (i can tell you have one, plus YOU LOVE U2!!! ) look down on themselves. I wanna shake them and say, you're wonderful, if only you believed that you would see how much life has to offer you!!!

I mean, i know it probably sounds so mushy and all weird to be so happy and stuff. im not saying i dont have days when i feel sad, or even be a bit 'oh i wish i was thinner' but for 99% of the time, i just love who i am, and am so happy with life you know?

Plus you seem to have a very lovely hubby to be as well.

 

[briarrose]

Hi Tara

I've struggled with this issue for years, mainly because, like you said, a person from the past said things to me. That person was my mom. She was forever putting me down about my weight and how I looked nasty all the time. I married a wonderful guy (at age 19, I'm 23 now) who loves the way I look. I'm always saying I'm fat and it frustrates him so much. I don't wear shorts either and my stomach kind of curves out (I hate that! It used to be completely flat!) I haven't gained weight either. I'm in my normal weight range, as I'm sure you are. I think Hollywood stars affect me greatly. I always think I need to look like them. My friend always reminds me that curves are normal and good. I need to be more thankful for the way I am rather than criticizing how God made me.

I always tell myself that I am God's masterpiece. This helps most of the time. Good luck!

Michelle

 

[u2bonogirl]

Thanks ladies for the awesome support.
Usually I feel so alone in how I feel about myself, feeling like i need to look like somebody else to be normal.
It upsets Tim, the hubby to be, that I think so poorly of myself. He always says he wishes I saw myself like he sees me.
Hearing other peoples words on this makes me feel a little better. Knowing that when I walk down the street there really might be another woman I pass thats thinking the exact same things as me.

 

[Muggsy]

Im nervous about showing cleavage to anybody but my significant other because Im afraid people will notice it and see only that. And it makes me feel overly exposed to have it hanging out there. Theres a rare occasion where I'll show it off but not usually

I hate my butt and I dont like wearing anything really tight on it.
Its a size bigger than the rest of me so its....prominent

I wish I had a big butt.... I'm latin and all guys here like the "j Lo" butt. my butt is small.... and flat!!! and It is hard for me to get a good pair of jeans, they are made for voluptous girls and I'm not.

 

[xtal]

I have bought a padded underwear to enhance the curve, or lack thereof, of my buttocks.

There, I said it, now I'm going to go hide.

 

[Saracene]

I've struggled with my body issues for years. I was always reluctant to go on the dancefloor because of my crippling self-consciousness and obsessed about my stretchmarks all the time. My Mum used to nag me a lot about my weight, which she thankfully stopped now (I hope). I know she meant me good but I don't think I've completely let go of the anger I've been feeling towards her about this.

I still obsess about my weight, but I also decided that I had to stop putting off enjoying things - like buying a new skirt or going on dates - before I obtain my "perfect" weight. And I also noticed that since I've started my bellydance classes I feel a lot more comfortable in my body as well; probably because every woman of every shape and size looks great shaking and shimmying,

 

[Liesje]

I have bought a padded underwear to enhance the curve, or lack thereof, of my buttocks.

I wear a padded push-up bra b/c I'm a size 36 A.

I can't wear anything strapless or anything really that's fitted in the chest area b/c it falls off.

 

[the soul waits]

I wear a padded push-up bra b/c I'm a size 36 A.

I can't wear anything strapless or anything really that's fitted in the chest area b/c it falls off.

Padded bra is my middlename.

 

[dandy]

Padded bra is my middlename.

mine too. actually, i prefer to call them bullet proof.



they're wonderful.

 

[Carmelu2fan]

weeeeeeeeee! go u2bonogirl!!!

see the thing is, is that it doesnt MATTER what anyone else thinks. Life is not about pleasing other people, its about living it for YOU, doing what you want and being kind and tolerant to people around you.

You only get one life, and who wants to go through it thinking other people think im ugly/scrawny/short/fat etc

I could say you're pretty (which i think you are! ), but i'm sure it won't make a difference. Just understand that all women are beautiful. And laughing, enjoying life, having a great personality makes your more beautiful, then a size 2 waist, big boobs and a perpetual surpised porno look or your face...

you want to be loved for YOU, not just for what you look like!

okies i've banged on enough... lol

Well said

 

[xtal]

I'm pretty "blessed" or "cursed" in that area. I'm a 38DD.
Often times I don't like my size. They make me look fat. And I can't wear anything that normal sized girls can wear because I'll look like a total hooker.
What I wish is that my butt can be a size bigger and I can be a 36C. With lip injections and a nose job.

It'll cost me!

 

[Carmelu2fan]

If I could get some cash for surgery and I was brave enough to go thru with it I would want them to take away my strech marks I would want to be a C cup instead of a small B cup and I would see if they could close the gap in my front teeth without me having to wear braces I wish this world wasnt so hung up on looks

 

[Liesje]

I'm pretty "blessed" or "cursed" in that area. I'm a 38DD.
Often times I don't like my size. They make me look fat. And I can't wear anything that normal sized girls can wear because I'll look like a total hooker.
What I wish is that my butt can be a size bigger and I can be a 36C.

I wish women could swap fat from above to below, or the other way around (in my case)!

 

[U2Girl1978]

For the past couple of years, I've become upset with the way I look. I used to be really skinny and now I feel like I've blown up. Everyone says I look good but I don't believe them. I think I've got a big tush and hips. I'm trying to eat right but it's hard when I'm sitting at a desk all day.

 

[Windmilllane]

I'm pretty "blessed" or "cursed" in that area. I'm a 38DD.
Often times I don't like my size. They make me look fat. And I can't wear anything that normal sized girls can wear because I'll look like a total hooker.
What I wish is that my butt can be a size bigger and I can be a 36C. With lip injections and a nose job.

It'll cost me!

Any pics.