The_acrobat
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Let me paraphrase this by saying that I am a happily married man with 2 beautiful, healthy and wonderful young children. I know I have a good life, and am grateful for them everyday.
But lately the worklife / homelife routine has become a bit tedious, and boring. I feel like my work has a way of spilling over even after I'm home. And I feel like my wife is calling me all the time while I'm at work, and I can't give 100% on either front. I take no time for myself, because honestly, there is none to have. My wife never wants to go anywhere or do anything, unless we bring the kids. I like spending time out as a family, but lets face it, you spend the whole time corralling your kids around, and not having much adult conversation. Plus, ALL my wife talks about anymore is the kids. It's like there's no point in bringing up any other topics because she's either too busy with the kids, or she's still thinking about the kids or kid related matters and isn't listening anyway. Our only reliable source of babysitting is my parents, and we hate to abuse their kindness. We usually have to use them as babysitters for something we HAVE/NEED to do, and never get babysitters for things we WANT to do. I can't even remember the last time we had a "date night". I'd love to do that sometime. Dinner, drinks, maybe even see a movie!
A friend of mine is in town for 2 weeks visiting. He is from here originally, but now lives in Hawaii. It used to be a weeklong celebration when he came in to town. Then we'd have 1 or 2 nights out while he was home. This time I haven't even seen him at all, and I'm pretty sure I won't since he leaves in 2 days. No big deal, stuff happens, but it's a sign of things changing. I feel like all my married friends are so hard to get on the same page, because everybody has to "ask" their wives if they can get together with their friends, and nobody's schedule lines up. But I can't really relate to my single friends anymore. They're always "on the prowl". I haven't been single in over 8 years, so I don't really understand what they're doing. Sitting around a loud, crowded bar listening to music I hate while not being able to hear the people I'm with is not my idea of a good time. Does that make me lame? Maybe to some, but I think being 31 and hanging out in the same bars as college kids is kind of lame, so whatever.
I am not yet at the point where my kid's activities will get me out and about and meet new adults. I live in a really small town, so opportunities to "branch out" are kind of limited. Opportunities of any kind are limited around here. If I want to drive to Columbus, there are endless possibilities of things I could do, but that's an hour away.
I'm not sure what the point of this rant is, or what to do about the situation. Anybody else ever felt similar??
But lately the worklife / homelife routine has become a bit tedious, and boring. I feel like my work has a way of spilling over even after I'm home. And I feel like my wife is calling me all the time while I'm at work, and I can't give 100% on either front. I take no time for myself, because honestly, there is none to have. My wife never wants to go anywhere or do anything, unless we bring the kids. I like spending time out as a family, but lets face it, you spend the whole time corralling your kids around, and not having much adult conversation. Plus, ALL my wife talks about anymore is the kids. It's like there's no point in bringing up any other topics because she's either too busy with the kids, or she's still thinking about the kids or kid related matters and isn't listening anyway. Our only reliable source of babysitting is my parents, and we hate to abuse their kindness. We usually have to use them as babysitters for something we HAVE/NEED to do, and never get babysitters for things we WANT to do. I can't even remember the last time we had a "date night". I'd love to do that sometime. Dinner, drinks, maybe even see a movie!
A friend of mine is in town for 2 weeks visiting. He is from here originally, but now lives in Hawaii. It used to be a weeklong celebration when he came in to town. Then we'd have 1 or 2 nights out while he was home. This time I haven't even seen him at all, and I'm pretty sure I won't since he leaves in 2 days. No big deal, stuff happens, but it's a sign of things changing. I feel like all my married friends are so hard to get on the same page, because everybody has to "ask" their wives if they can get together with their friends, and nobody's schedule lines up. But I can't really relate to my single friends anymore. They're always "on the prowl". I haven't been single in over 8 years, so I don't really understand what they're doing. Sitting around a loud, crowded bar listening to music I hate while not being able to hear the people I'm with is not my idea of a good time. Does that make me lame? Maybe to some, but I think being 31 and hanging out in the same bars as college kids is kind of lame, so whatever.
I am not yet at the point where my kid's activities will get me out and about and meet new adults. I live in a really small town, so opportunities to "branch out" are kind of limited. Opportunities of any kind are limited around here. If I want to drive to Columbus, there are endless possibilities of things I could do, but that's an hour away.
I'm not sure what the point of this rant is, or what to do about the situation. Anybody else ever felt similar??