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Rock n' Roll Doggie VIP PASS
The unusual title of this thread comes from this very real example I experienced Sunday night in Chicago.
I was in the Red Zone. A flirtatious, but height-challenged, young lady was next to me. She flirted with all the men hoping to get a piggy back ride (succeeding in getting one for one song). Her high-heeled shoes were killing her and as we were all standing, it was a bit tough for her to see without them. Fortunately, she was close and there was the huge screen. Plus, all four band members walked right by us (several times for some of them), so it's not as if her view was obstructed all night.
Still, by the end of the night, with only two songs remaining, she wanted to be by the rail. We were already close, so she just inched up a bit more and kindly asked two people if she could squeeze in or stand by the rail for a song. This couple (or apparent man and woman couple) flat out stated "no" and wouldn't let her in, even for a moment.
The poor girl came back crying. She said she asked nicely and they refused.
This got me wondering. First, when one asks a favor of anyone - stranger or friend - that person has a right to say "no". Just because we ask it doesn't mean we will get our way (otherwise, we'd all be asking our bosses for raises every day!). Second, asking someone to give up their spot is like asking someone to give up their seat. It's almost like saying, "Hey, you've had that nice seat long enough - now move and let me enjoy it." In other words, while she felt they were rude to say "no", it could be that she was the rude one.
That said, the flip side is that this is Red Zone. There was no "waiting outside all day" nonsense. Given the spirit of that section, one would think moving aside for a few moments wouldn't be that bad. Additionally, it was the end of the night, so at worst, they would be a tiny bit back for a song. And they'd really make the night for someone else by being so generous.
I'm torn on this issue. At Vertigo I didn't even have a spot by the rail, yet was asked to move by height-challenged people all night. For that spot, I did wait outside all day, so it's too bad they didn't. I was offended. But I was asked to move at the beginning of the show, not at the end.
So what would you do? Any comments? I posted a poll and am curious.
I was in the Red Zone. A flirtatious, but height-challenged, young lady was next to me. She flirted with all the men hoping to get a piggy back ride (succeeding in getting one for one song). Her high-heeled shoes were killing her and as we were all standing, it was a bit tough for her to see without them. Fortunately, she was close and there was the huge screen. Plus, all four band members walked right by us (several times for some of them), so it's not as if her view was obstructed all night.
Still, by the end of the night, with only two songs remaining, she wanted to be by the rail. We were already close, so she just inched up a bit more and kindly asked two people if she could squeeze in or stand by the rail for a song. This couple (or apparent man and woman couple) flat out stated "no" and wouldn't let her in, even for a moment.
The poor girl came back crying. She said she asked nicely and they refused.
This got me wondering. First, when one asks a favor of anyone - stranger or friend - that person has a right to say "no". Just because we ask it doesn't mean we will get our way (otherwise, we'd all be asking our bosses for raises every day!). Second, asking someone to give up their spot is like asking someone to give up their seat. It's almost like saying, "Hey, you've had that nice seat long enough - now move and let me enjoy it." In other words, while she felt they were rude to say "no", it could be that she was the rude one.
That said, the flip side is that this is Red Zone. There was no "waiting outside all day" nonsense. Given the spirit of that section, one would think moving aside for a few moments wouldn't be that bad. Additionally, it was the end of the night, so at worst, they would be a tiny bit back for a song. And they'd really make the night for someone else by being so generous.
I'm torn on this issue. At Vertigo I didn't even have a spot by the rail, yet was asked to move by height-challenged people all night. For that spot, I did wait outside all day, so it's too bad they didn't. I was offended. But I was asked to move at the beginning of the show, not at the end.
So what would you do? Any comments? I posted a poll and am curious.