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Old 04-03-2005, 06:18 PM   #16
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I think spanking shouldn't ever be the first and preferred method of disciplining a child, but as a last resort with warnings beforehand. Many kids know perfectly well what behaviour is appropriate or not in this or that situation but that doesn't necessarily stop them from being horrible brats.

My parents never punished me or my siblings physically when we were little, but when one time my brother stole $400 from my Mum's purse he copped some serious spanking from Dad.
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i remember getting spanked alot.........but i can't remember WHY or what i did to get spanked..........
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Old 04-04-2005, 05:59 AM   #19
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i don't think spanking is really necessary.
A good harp at them might ring a bell.
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Old 04-04-2005, 06:10 AM   #21
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If spanking involves me & Bono--I am for it. (Just kidding--seriously--I think spanking & hitting just leads to violence--I found the best way to discipline was to take privileges away--my daughter learned pretty fast to be good. I never had any real problems out of her. My mother made me sit in a corner in the kitchen for an hour and that hour seemed like a day--but basically I was a pretty good kid. Talking & being involved with your children really helps too!)
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when my parents took my privileges away i just acted worse because i had nothing to lose
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Old 04-04-2005, 07:17 AM   #23
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I don't think there is anything wrong with spanking a child as long as it is not too harsh or too often. I was spanked as a child and I turned out fine.
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I think spanking shouldn't ever be the first and preferred method of disciplining a child, but as a last resort with warnings beforehand. Many kids know perfectly well what behaviour is appropriate or not in this or that situation but that doesn't necessarily stop them from being horrible brats.

My parents never punished me or my siblings physically when we were little, but when one time my brother stole $400 from my Mum's purse he copped some serious spanking from Dad.

I agree with that. My dad always disciplined me by telling me I did something wrong and why it was wrong. If I did it again he would spank me.
Now, he was a big wimp and couldnt stand spanking his little girl but he did it anway. Just not very hard
I think the feeling of having let my dad down was more effective than the spanking, but I remember knowing that he didnt want to spank me. That made me feel really bad that I had done something to disappoint him to the point that he needed to "take me to the laundry room"
My stepmom had NO problem hitting me hard and that did nothing positive for me whatsoever.
I would do nothing and find the wooden spoon connecting with my arse with major velocity
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Old 04-04-2005, 07:34 AM   #25
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I agree as well.

I have cousins who were raised with "self-expression" as a top priority, and their parents would never spank them under any circumstances. Oddly enough, it was a conservative household, yet they grew up like brats. To this day, they seem to have no respect for anyone who asks a simple task to be done.
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Old 04-04-2005, 07:56 AM   #26
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I think physical discipline should be reserved for times when a child in physical danger--e.g. smacking a child's hand away from a hot stove. Other than that, I'm opposed to spanking, but not to discipline in general; I babysat for too many kids who never had to do anything they didn't want to do, and trying to get those kids to pick up a toy or go to bed at a decent hour was .

That said, though, there definitely has to be a balance between discipline and letting a kid do some exploration and having fun. I think my parents had a pretty good mixof that; there were things I was not allowed to do under any circumstances, but I also remember being let loose pretty frequently. I think it helped me grow up into a person who is creative and independent-thinking, but also responsible.

Anyway, though, I don't plan on spanking, I was not spanked, and parents who are frequent spankers scare me.
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Old 04-04-2005, 08:36 AM   #27
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I would hold spanking as one of those "ultimate punishments".

I am not opposed to spanking, but I have not reached the point where I've needed to spank my children.

Clear, direct expectations handle most discipline situations.
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way to go nbcrusader
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Yeah i was always warned multiple times as a child before getting spanked. did i heed those warnings? psh, of course not!
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Old 04-04-2005, 09:02 AM   #30
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I think needing to resort to physical violence says more about the parents than it does about the child. I was spanked plenty as a child and it never did anything but instill rage and stubbornness in me. If I ever become a parent I will try to find alternatives methods of discipline.
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