Kenya - Nairobibased, cultured affluent Gujarati Jain business oriented family (small family) invites proposals for their son, visiting India for matrimonials. He is smart, good looking, good natured, July 1963 born, 5' 6", educated, intelligent well - established businessman. He is innocent issueless divorcee. Alliance sought from fair, smart, slim, active, English speaking, family loving girls. He is looking for a single or an issueless divorcee. Divorcee with an infant child (male) is also welcome. Girls hailing from decent Jain / Lohana / Vaishnav / Gujarati / Punjabi or any good families are invited. Direct Email address for this particular boy : bakul@traveloursafaris.com or bakul2@rediffmail.com
LivLuvAndBootlegMusic said:I'm not sure how I feel about the advertising, but I've always been intrigued by arranged marriages. As weird as they seem to us, I think there's some appeal to the selflessness and being able to grow/learn to love someone.
Angela Harlem said:
It just feels wrong I spose.
LivLuvAndBootlegMusic said:
Like the ads are wrong or arranged marriage?
anitram said:I have a close friend whose parents have decided it is time to arrange a marriage for her. She is 23.
LivLuvAndBootlegMusic said:I would say that as long as all parties are consenting adults, I have nothing against arranged marriage. If someone wants, feel free to try to convince me otherwise (I'm really open to arguements here).
zoney! said:
How does she feel about it?
LivLuvAndBootlegMusic said:If the man agrees to let his parents find him a wife and if the woman agrees to let her parents find her a husband.
BonoVoxSupastar said:
How do you know if it's consentual when your culture tells you this is the only way it's done? Is it truly consentual?
Angela Harlem said:Its not just that (that I have a problem with) though I agree as well, but its the parents being so involved in who you spend the rest of your life with. This concept is so foreign to me. Parental approval of who you choose is/should be very important, but not their decision. It isn't their marriage. Fine for them to pick you some arsehole bastard (or the female equivilant) who wont love and respect you etc.
LivLuvAndBootlegMusic said:
If you want to then it's consentual. I consent to drink a can of mountain dew everyday b/c I want it, not b/c pop culture (no pun intended) says Dew is the "cool" pop and I should drink it.
BonoVoxSupastar said:
My point is that do these cultures or parents allow for anything else other than arranged marriages?