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Old 11-29-2005, 10:49 PM   #16
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I´m positive that in a couple of decades couples can go to get their yearly NGF shot. I wonder if its gonna help?
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Old 11-29-2005, 11:59 PM   #17
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Passion might not last, but love does I read myself that this passional feeling came back in cycle after a certain number of years.
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Old 11-30-2005, 12:41 AM   #18
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I agree with joyful. Could the body or heart cope with that kind of pressure constantly, longterm? I'd be guessing not.
That was pretty much what I was thinking. As much fun as it is in the short term, I don't think I could stand that giddy period for very long.

Then again I'm not terribly romantic in the first place.
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Interesting to think about but everyone is different as is their body chemistry. What do scientists know anyway? They are dorks!
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I guess it's easier and a "cop out" to say that a molecule is responsible for passion.

I know very little about all of this but couldn't one say that passion requires work and effort? From what I've seen, people lose passion and attraction for each other when the more difficult aspects of their relationships aren't working and they aren't making much of an effort. I'd say if you are still passionately in love w/ someone after many years of marriage that is special, and requires quite a bit of work. That ephemeral passion and lust for someone is easy, love isn't.
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many people simply don´t want to work for a relationship.
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Love isn't what you feel (entirely). It's what you do.
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Old 11-30-2005, 10:45 AM   #22
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I think the article is talking about infatuation more than love, guys.

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I think it's weird to call scientists dorks and say what do they know anyway. I mean they are doing tests in a lab, that's what they know. It's called a controlled study. They are talking about something that happens on a molecular level. I don't think we help by dismissing their studies. It's much more effective to say that it's not your personal experience.
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I think it's weird to call scientists dorks and say what do they know anyway. I mean they are doing tests in a lab, that's what they know. It's called a controlled study. They are talking about something that happens on a molecular level. I don't think we help by dismissing their studies. It's much more effective to say that it's not your personal experience.
You can think its weird...but I am still going to say it.
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Your heartbeat accelerates, you have butterflies in the stomach, you feel euphoric and a bit silly.
I agree with foray, joyfulgirl and indra--it seems very obvious to me that they're describing infatuation here, not the capacity to love someone and still feel sexually attracted to them after however many years. Longterm commitment can be hard work, yes, but we don't generally measure the results of that hard work by heart rate or butterflies in the stomach.

I suppose to some extent the above description also applies to sexual arousal, which may be the source of confusion here. But again, I think it's pretty obvious that that's not what they're talking about.
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I've only ever blushed once in my life. And it was over a boy. Not a nice sensation: I kinda prefer this steady-love-feeling.

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why can passionate dislike last a whole lot longer?

I don't know, I guess I'm foolish enough to believe that if someone can love you in the bad times as well as good, when you're sick, when you look like crap, when you're in a horrible mood, when you are angry at them, when you are real and not their idealized version of you..whatever-that would cause "butterflies" and passion etc. That's when attraction is based on real things not superficial things, and it has nothing to do with molecules/ biology.
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why can passionate dislike last a whole lot longer?

I don't know, I guess I'm foolish enough to believe that if someone can love you in the bad times as well as good, when you're sick, when you look like crap, when you're in a horrible mood, when you are angry at them, when you are real and not their idealized version of you..whatever-that would cause "butterflies" and passion etc. That's when attraction is based on real things not superficial things, and it has nothing to do with molecules/ biology.
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