Before the title of the thread gets changed..... These are not my words, they are the title of the editorial and a line from HER editorial:
[Q]By Maggie Gallagher
For all the professional progress women have made, "I am woman, hear me whine" could be the mantra of the postmodern educated woman when it comes to relationships, especially marriage. [/Q]
[Q]Its theme is that women have enormous power over men, especially the power to make your average, decent family guy feel miserably inadequate as a man.[/Q]
[Q]I know that more men today are more horribly irresponsible toward women and children than ever before. At the same time, never before have the good guys received so little appreciation from women, or affirmation from the larger culture, for their masculine contributions.
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[Q]In my neighborhood, you see lots of good guys working crushing hours to pay for the nice homes with the good schools, ferrying their kids on the weekend from their multitudinous, highly scheduled, developmentally appropriate activities -- and stopping by to drop off dry-cleaning or pick up take-out along the way.
None of which (in my experience) stops us wives from complaining about their emotional inadequacies, or the difficulties in keeping the little hubby "on task." Career wives or homemaking wives, it seems to make little difference.
Some women routinely treat husbands in ways that, if husbands responded in kind would bring the universal condemnation of all womankind on their heads.[/Q]
and in conclusion
[Q]The problem is not that working wives want more help with household chores, or that all women want husbands deeply involved in family life. The problem comes when a culture of grievance (and the illusions of power it gives) replaces the cultivation of gratitude. Most especially, when appreciation, approval and affection get translated as "subservience" rather than love. [/Q]
Thoughts anyone?
http://story.news.yahoo.com/news?tm...&u=/ucmg/20040811/cm_ucmg/iamwomanhearmewhine
[Q]By Maggie Gallagher
For all the professional progress women have made, "I am woman, hear me whine" could be the mantra of the postmodern educated woman when it comes to relationships, especially marriage. [/Q]
[Q]Its theme is that women have enormous power over men, especially the power to make your average, decent family guy feel miserably inadequate as a man.[/Q]
[Q]I know that more men today are more horribly irresponsible toward women and children than ever before. At the same time, never before have the good guys received so little appreciation from women, or affirmation from the larger culture, for their masculine contributions.
[/Q]
[Q]In my neighborhood, you see lots of good guys working crushing hours to pay for the nice homes with the good schools, ferrying their kids on the weekend from their multitudinous, highly scheduled, developmentally appropriate activities -- and stopping by to drop off dry-cleaning or pick up take-out along the way.
None of which (in my experience) stops us wives from complaining about their emotional inadequacies, or the difficulties in keeping the little hubby "on task." Career wives or homemaking wives, it seems to make little difference.
Some women routinely treat husbands in ways that, if husbands responded in kind would bring the universal condemnation of all womankind on their heads.[/Q]
and in conclusion
[Q]The problem is not that working wives want more help with household chores, or that all women want husbands deeply involved in family life. The problem comes when a culture of grievance (and the illusions of power it gives) replaces the cultivation of gratitude. Most especially, when appreciation, approval and affection get translated as "subservience" rather than love. [/Q]
Thoughts anyone?
http://story.news.yahoo.com/news?tm...&u=/ucmg/20040811/cm_ucmg/iamwomanhearmewhine
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