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Old 05-20-2003, 02:35 PM   #91
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What would you say if your boyfriend ceased being intimate with you, preferring to masturbate instead?

my ex did that a few times with me.
and when that happend, an arguement pretty much followed.
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Old 05-20-2003, 03:39 PM   #92
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What would you say if your boyfriend ceased being intimate with you, preferring to masturbate instead?


Its not about the action, it is how the action impacts the relationship.
I would say then that there were serious problems in the relationship that needed to be addressed. Masturbation is a completely natural thing and I expect it to be a part of my relationships. In fact, it has always enhanced mine. If it replaces lovemaking, that's another story.
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I voted YES. male vote. Its not like pornography cos its directly with another person. And its not just fantasy and self masturbation because the other person is responding.
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Old 05-20-2003, 04:03 PM   #95
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But hell no! Masturbation is not cheating!
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But hell no! Masturbation is not cheating!
But mutual masturbation when you can't see or hear the other person is?

What if you don't actually masturbate when cybering...I mean do people really sit there typing with one hand? In that case it's kinda foreplay, is that worse than porn?
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I don't consider anything cheating except oral sex or penetration with another person outside a committed relationship when it has been mutually agreed that the terms of the relationship do not include sex with other people.

Magazines, videos, phone sex, cybersex, masturbation, strip clubs...have at it, within reason (to be defined by the couple). If my boyfriend is having cybersex repeatedly with the same person, or if he is spending too much time with all these other things, then we have to talk because it points to problems in the relationship. The occasional thrill, though, can actually keep the home fires warm, in my experience.
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I don't consider anything cheating except oral sex or penetration with another person outside a committed relationship when it has been mutually agreed that the terms of the relationship do not include sex with other people.
So if your boyfriend tells you your best friend gives the best hand jobs on earth you'll say, well at least it wasn't oral or penetration, glad you enjoyed it?
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But hell no! Masturbation is not cheating!
Yes it is! Your letting another person, beside your partner, play w/ your joy stick.
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So if your boyfriend tells you your best friend gives the best hand jobs on earth you'll say, well at least it wasn't oral or penetration, glad you enjoyed it?
You got me before I had a chance to edit! No, anything involving another person in the flesh--sexual touching, hand jobs, mutual masturbation, kissing, etc...the whole realm of physical intimacy, in person, with another person would be cheating in my book.
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This gets to the core of what we call "cheating". Is it any one of a series of physical acts, or is it an activity where your partner is investing emotional energy in someone else?
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nbcrusader:

exactly. Imho cheating begins in the head and the physical thing isn't the most important part.

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Good question...but I thought we were just talking about sex.

Investing emotional energy in someone else and doing everything but could also be cheating. In that case, though, you could be falling in love with someone else.
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