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Old 04-08-2003, 05:01 PM   #1
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Hey! Twenty-Somethings! Over here!

Hey guys. I got this in an e-mail, and thought it was pretty relevant for some of the people here. I was going to post it in my journal, but I think more people will see it (and hopefully relate to it) here. Maybe this is a ZC thread? I'm rambling, I'm tired....


BEING TWENTY - SOMETHING

They call it the "Quarter-life Crisis." It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are many things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like. You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now.

You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met, and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you don't recognize is that they are realizing that too, and aren't really cold, catty, mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you.

You look at your job... and it is not even close to what you thought you would be doing, or maybe you are looking for a job and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you.

Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and are constantly adding things to your list of what is acceptable and what isn't. One minute, you are insecure and then the next, secure. You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life, but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away, and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.

You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you. Or you lie in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough that you want to get to know better. Or maybe you love someone but love someone else too and cannot figure out why you are doing this because you know that you aren't a bad person. One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap. Getting wasted and acting ike an idiot starts to look pathetic.

You go through the same emotions and questions over and over, and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision. You worry about loans, money, the future and making a life for yourself... and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender!

What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out.

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Old 04-08-2003, 05:07 PM   #2
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I can relate to all of the above
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Old 04-08-2003, 05:13 PM   #3
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Amen.
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Old 04-08-2003, 05:20 PM   #4
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haha, when i read the title of this thread i thought i'd come in and mention something about 20 somethings going through a quarter life crisis, but you beat me to it.

its crazy, the only thing you've known for 20 years is going to school, and then you graduate and pretty much start a whole new life. within a few years you make most of the decisions that will determine the direction of the rest of your life.

you have to decide on a job which also determines where you will live, which may be the place you spend the rest of your life. and you are supposed to find your spouse, who theoretically will be with you the rest of your life. maybe even pop out a kid or 2 by 30. so the mid 20's are the most influential time of your life as it sets up your whole future.

im 22 and graduating coming up, its a little scary
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That is so true! Sometimes I feel or hehe

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I went through my quarter-life crisis (I say "went" because I think I'm on the verge of being over it....I'll probably have another next year!!) early -- when I was 20/21 and had just gotten out of college. It sucked.
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i agree with that whole thing except for the following statement...

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Getting wasted and acting ike an idiot starts to look pathetic.
haven't quite reached that moment yet
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Old 04-08-2003, 06:18 PM   #9
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i related to every single thing in that e-mail. i know i am well in my quarter-life crisis right now.

oh how i relate to all
[q]You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met, and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you don't recognize is that they are realizing that too, and aren't really cold, catty, mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you.

You look at your job... and it is not even close to what you thought you would be doing, or maybe you are looking for a job and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you.


Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and are constantly adding things to your list of what is acceptable and what isn't. One minute, you are insecure and then the next, secure. You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life, but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away, and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.


You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you. Or you lie in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough that you want to get to know better. Or maybe you love someone but love someone else too and cannot figure out why you are doing this because you know that you aren't a bad person. uh i am at the point where a one night stand does look pretty good and not cheap. hahaha! --->One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap. Getting wasted and acting ike an idiot starts to look pathetic. [/q]
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you have to decide on a job which also determines where you will live, which may be the place you spend the rest of your life. and you are supposed to find your spouse, who theoretically will be with you the rest of your life. maybe even pop out a kid or 2 by 30. so the mid 20's are the most influential time of your life as it sets up your whole future.

im 22 and graduating coming up, its a little scary
A-freaking-men. I'm really feeling this right now.
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I have had quarterlifecrisis since the age 14.

I guess I won't live past 60.

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I have had quarterlifecrisis since the age 14.

I guess I won't live past 60.


same here



*edit* i should probably include the fact that i'm still not 20 yet...
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I've been in one since 21 methinks. It happened when I realized how young everyone at college looked....very freaky realization.

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