Awwwwwww *big hug* I just went through the same thing a few weeks ago. We're trying to reconcile but it's just not working, but we're surviving alright. The best advice I can possibly give you is to repost the reply I received in my "breakup" thread a few weeks back from Blueeyes. This is guaranteed to put a big smile on your face!!!
"OHHHHHH! SWWEEEEEEEEETIE!
c'mere! ((((((((HUG)))))))
Oh I'm so sorry! Well I can't give you a big ass bottle of wine, but you are a really sweet person and you'll get through it! It's always hard to break up with someone and I know it's a cliche but you will feel better eventually. I had breakups that went like this:
1)day of: Oh GOD! My world is broken, I can't believe we broke up. Usually this is said in a drunken stupor and followed by crying jags
2)The following week: Major guilt time. What did I do wrong, maybe I will never feel that way about someone again. I just made a huge mistake. During this time I also usually have to take gravol or something to sleep. I don't recommend it.
3)The NEXT week: Ok, ok, feeling a bit better. Starting to look around again. I usually start wearing clothes that are not sweatpants at this point
4) The NEXT NEXT week: I start to see what was wrong with the relationship and stop blaming myself.
5) After that: I start feeling better, I put down the ice cream spoon and the vodka, and the world looks a little better
Now I don't know if this will help you, but I did this for a friend and she liked it. There is a list of things to do after the breakup. Feel free to just laugh, but it cheered my ass up.
1)Get the post breakup haircut (don't let your buddy do it after a bottle of tequila, you will look like popmart bono)
2)Get a good breakup theme music cd: ATYCYB is a good one or I like anything by tori amos, or ani difranco but it's a matter of personal taste. Get something WITHOUT weepy love songs and DO NOT listen to Achtung baby. You are not ready for it grasshopper!
3) Get your friends to take you out for a post-breakup good time. Depending on what you like this could be a stripbar, a kareoke bar, a pub, or if you want a radical departure: something non-alcholic like a big tea party.
4) get some new clothes, some stuff that you like but Mr. Byebye would have hated. Be adventurous.
5) When you are ready, have a burning-stuff party. No not just any stuff (unless that's your thing you little pyro!) old relationshippy stuff. Even burning one thing will make you feel a little better.
6) Drool over other guys. Come on go wild! And PLEBA, my friend is the perfect place to do this!
7) If he was a jerk and I'm not saying he was, but it always helps to shrink-wrap his car. You will need 3 rolls of plastic wrap and a hairdryer with an extension cord.
I hope this helps you, I don't know if it did. If the above seems stupid to you, just take care Brenda!
Luv, Bluey of Doom"
(we were together for almost 3 years)
