FitzChivalry
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What do you do when you've been friends with people for over half your life; they're some of your best friends on the planet; you've been there for all of each others' milestones: birthdays, graduations, weddings, anniversaries, childbirth, etc.; you used to spend tons of time together, hanging out, having fun, but . . .
. . . lately you've come to the realization that their child is bratty, and that bratty behavior is keeping you from spending time with your friends or wanting to go over their house and bear witness to the disrespect and brattiness that is mostly likely to ensue. I'm not saying the child is a monster or demon or evil or anything. A good portion of the time he can be fun, loving, caring, and is a very smart boy. But my friends are not, and have never been, very strict or disciplinary with him. And the result is that now he is very smartass, disrespectful and whines until he gets his way . . . which he almost always does because with my friends No doesn't really mean No; No just means Until You Wear Us Down And Get Your Way.
Now, I'm single with no children. So I really have no idea how hard it is to be a parent and the amount of energy it requires. And I know that all children go through their rebellious periods and sarcastic phases. But to me this seems to stem more from the fact that his discipline his whole life has been very lax. The last time I was over, I could not believe how he back-talked to his parents (my friends), and he's only six.
And it saddens me because when he was a baby, infant and toddler, he and I were SO CLOSE! He was my favorite person on the planet for the first 3 or 4 years. And now, I find myself not wanting to be close to him because I don't want to have to see how bratty he becomes and gets away with it. His behavior really gets under my skin, but I can't say anything because I know it would hurt my friends' feelings and probably be something that would divide us even further. Especially since his Dad thinks he's the most perfect thing in this world and constantly tells him how perfect he is. I think my friend would be deeply offended and hurt if he knew what I really think of how his son is turning out.
I've just been thinking a lot about this these past few weeks and not really sure what to do about it.
Any suggestions? Especially suggestions from parents, because I know it's pretty much the ultimate taboo to tell a parent how to raise their child or what you think they're doing wrong.
. . . lately you've come to the realization that their child is bratty, and that bratty behavior is keeping you from spending time with your friends or wanting to go over their house and bear witness to the disrespect and brattiness that is mostly likely to ensue. I'm not saying the child is a monster or demon or evil or anything. A good portion of the time he can be fun, loving, caring, and is a very smart boy. But my friends are not, and have never been, very strict or disciplinary with him. And the result is that now he is very smartass, disrespectful and whines until he gets his way . . . which he almost always does because with my friends No doesn't really mean No; No just means Until You Wear Us Down And Get Your Way.
Now, I'm single with no children. So I really have no idea how hard it is to be a parent and the amount of energy it requires. And I know that all children go through their rebellious periods and sarcastic phases. But to me this seems to stem more from the fact that his discipline his whole life has been very lax. The last time I was over, I could not believe how he back-talked to his parents (my friends), and he's only six.
And it saddens me because when he was a baby, infant and toddler, he and I were SO CLOSE! He was my favorite person on the planet for the first 3 or 4 years. And now, I find myself not wanting to be close to him because I don't want to have to see how bratty he becomes and gets away with it. His behavior really gets under my skin, but I can't say anything because I know it would hurt my friends' feelings and probably be something that would divide us even further. Especially since his Dad thinks he's the most perfect thing in this world and constantly tells him how perfect he is. I think my friend would be deeply offended and hurt if he knew what I really think of how his son is turning out.
I've just been thinking a lot about this these past few weeks and not really sure what to do about it.
Any suggestions? Especially suggestions from parents, because I know it's pretty much the ultimate taboo to tell a parent how to raise their child or what you think they're doing wrong.