U2zoogirl said:
I'm an anti-social girl too... sometimes I'm mean with people just because, and when I find annoying people i can be so sarcastic ...
Also I always have a bad attitude when I met people for the first time. cuz i'm really shy. My best friend says that she was affraid of me the first day she saw me, cuz i looked agresive with other people... I was just protecting myself...
Woo-hoo!
It's good to hear. There is nothing wrong with it, really. There is room in this world for everybody.
I am mean on purpose, too, when people irritate me, which doesn't take long.
I am bitterly antagonistic but try to hide it (like everyone else is hiding things under smiles and courtesy and even laughing when you're supposed to laugh.)
I also dislike meeting people, hanging out with them, especially if I don't know them. I don't want to get to know them because it never fails...I usually end up not liking them for some reason. Oh, I can find the good in people, but I can always find some reason not to like somebody. This totally reminds me of a Seinfield episode when one of the guys talks about how he can always find a reason not to like a girl...for instance, the last girl smelled like soup.
I may be anti-social, but I'm happy. Go figure.
I too think that people are afraid of me until they get to know me. It took my mother-in-law years before the look of trepidation or uncertainty went out of her eyes around me and now she seems genuinely relaxed. Yeah, I think they think I'm going to spring on them...which, definitely, is in my potential...verbally, and in belief.
My husband says I'm a firecracker and people can sense that in me...that the slightest thing could set me off so they're afraid of me.
Which is so true...even though I often keep it inside in public. But, I think they can feel that furnace brewing underneath. And the thing is...ironically, I'm really quite nice to know if you get to know me, if you can get past the wimpy fear, and if I can tolerate you. The amazing thing is that some people have. Some people I've even found a connection with and outright like no matter how much we may disagree. But, in general, I don't like people, and often aren't even interested in them.
I judge quickly, that's for sure. But, I'm very astute and right-on. My husband says that I'm good at knowing exactly what other people need. And, I'll add, I'm good at knowing exactly what people are, how they are, and what I like and what I wouldn't like. I know myself too well to accept what I don't want, and I know other people too well to ever genuinely like them. Comes from years of experience, observance, a gift I have of knowing people and what's best for them, and deep retrospection.