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Old 02-24-2011, 11:48 AM   #1
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Men must speak up on abortion debate

Very thoughtful article published in Salon (and written by a man). Well worth reading all the way through.

Why men need to speak up about abortion - Abortion - Salon.com

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I've quietly watched the debate around reproductive rights and women's health for most of my adult life and, frankly, most of it seems very foreign to me. It is spoken about in such simplistic ways. I don't understand how people can throw around the word "murder" and talk about taking lives. By the same token, I don't understand how some people can be so unconflicted about being pro-choice. Having experienced the second guessing, the what ifs, the sense of failure and the guilt, I don't find anything simple or unconflicted about it.

But mostly, I don't understand how these issues are still simply referred to as "women's issues." The destinies of men and women are intertwined by sex, and pregnancy, and childbirth. It is time for more men to sack up and start taking responsibility for their end of the conversation.

These "women's issues" have shaped my life: my birth, my adulthood and the children for which I am forever grateful. So yes, I support women's health programs and a woman's right to choose.

Even though I know that none of these choices are made easily or without hurt.
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Old 02-24-2011, 11:51 AM   #2
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Isn't a big part of this whole issue in the US that men are speaking up on the abortion debate, maybe much more so than women?
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Old 02-25-2011, 06:31 AM   #3
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Indeed, and too often we're hearing from the ones who seem to want to restrict this stuff, failing to understand or sympathize with what women, the ones who actually have to experience the pregnancy or the ending of it and all the things that go with those circumstances, go through. I must admit I tend to get a bit squicky when men start talking about bodily issues that I will have to go through which they will never experience firsthand. And I think many women feel that way, and that alone makes a proper male/female discussion on this subject difficult and awkward.

However, it would be nice for men who do pay attention to the complexities of the issue to get involved. But they should perhaps speak more to the male population at large first. They should press the importance of men staying committed to their wives and girlfriends instead of bailing the moment the woman finds out she's pregnant, the importance of men being respectful to women and not pressuring/forcing them into intimate situations, to be more responsible in sexual matters. I think the more often men get that message, and show the women in their lives that they get the message, the easier it will be for women to not feel as alone in these situations. They'll have people to turn to, they'll have support and a sense that the men understand at least some of what's going on, and that might help them when it comes to making such difficult decisions about whether or not to keep a pregnancy going.

And everyone, male and female, should definitely continue to call idiots out for crap like this:

http://newsfeed.time.com/2011/02/24/...newsfeed-daily

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Old 02-25-2011, 09:05 AM   #4
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And everyone, male and female, should definitely continue to call idiots out for crap like this:

Anti-Abortion Billboard in New York City Causes Uproar Over Gender and Race - TIME NewsFeed
If the ones behind that billboard are idiots, then what about this?
Death Penalty for Miscarriages?

Yes, men are speaking up on the abortion debate...
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Old 02-25-2011, 11:52 AM   #5
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considering the biggest abortion provider in the world is a woman's very own womb, certainly "human involvement," maybe this idea has merit.
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Old 02-25-2011, 12:07 PM   #6
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Yeah, that's just appalling on many levels.

On the plus side, from what I've read, it sounds like this guy has introduced a bunch of batshit bills that never had/have a chance of passing.

On the minus side, how do assholes like this get elected?
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On the minus side, how do assholes like this get elected?
Tells you something about his constituents.
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Yep. One of those situations where both the question and the answer are depressing.
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If the ones behind that billboard are idiots, then what about this?
Death Penalty for Miscarriages?
You know, as vehemently as I disagree with the position, I can understand where someone might come from in arguing that abortion is murder and should be criminalized. What I can't wrap my head around is the sheer ignorance and/or overhwelming stupidity that would lead someone to (presumably) conclude that a miscarriage is the result of a conscious decision made by the pregnant woman, and therefore must be criminalized. I know several people who've had miscarriages, and each of them were devastated by it. Had there been some choice, they no doubt would've chosen to have a healthy baby.

I'd love to see this asshole stand in front of any of them and attempt to explain why they're criminals. It seriously blows my mind that people like this 1) exist, and 2) have been elected to positions of power. At some point the greater public should've realized that "hey, this guy is either too embarassingly, arrogantly ignorant or too stupid (or both) to be trusted with any political power."

Oops, didn't see your comments, cori.
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I'm not even going to give this crap a moment's though, I think I've hit my migraine quota for the week already, thanks.
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The idea behind that portion of Franklin's bill is that any woman who has a miscarriage would have to undergo an examination/investigation to make sure she didn't deliberately induce it herself (in which case, death penalty).

He's run unopposed since his first race, which probably has something to do with why he keeps getting re-elected (though his district is a fairly prosperous and diverse suburb of Atlanta, which I do find somewhat surprising).
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He's 100% correct-they're not "women's issues"



Hey at least Kanye West is speaking up



Kanye West took to Twitter to speak his mind about the hot button issue of abortion, and while not saying whether or not he thinks it should be legal, the rapper certainly took issue with some people who undergo the procedure.

"an abortion can cost a ballin' nigga up to 50gs maybe a 100. Gold diggin' bitches be getting pregnant on purpose. #STRAPUP my niggas!" he recommended to his followers.

Just to be clear, though, Kanye hasn't had the problem himself.

"It ain't happen to me but I know people" he clarified

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I would say he's griping about so-called "gold diggers" and that the cost is not for some sort of luxury abortion, but for hush money.

Honestly, I'm struggling to see how that's about abortion and not just another silly tweet from Kanye.
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Kanye West's tweet is just all kinds of vile, i'm sorry... i'm with Lily Allen on this one!
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I would say he's griping about so-called "gold diggers" and that the cost is not for some sort of luxury abortion, but for hush money.

i think that's probably what he was talking about.

still, Kanye: not helpful.
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