my friend has cancer

[Trinity3000]

He just got diagnosed, and it's terminal. He lives in another city so I haven't seen him yet, but I have spoken to him. It's hard to know that he is not going to be around much longer.

I feel angry because he is a bit of a legend in his 'scene' but I don't think he has many real friends. And those scenesters aren't going to be real friends to him and care for him. They are putting on a benefit gig for him! It's the stupidest thing I've ever heard of. What the hell is the point of that?

The guy is wasting away in hospital and they want to have an all day concert like it's fricken Live Aid or something. How's that helping anybody? Gahh.

 

[LikeNoOneBefore]

I am so, so sorry, Trinity.


My mom went through cancer, but she luckily got better. I can't imagine having a good friend go through terminal cancer. I'd be so torn up and just...wow. If I may ask, what type is it?

And yeah, scenesters aren't really good places to find true friends. I know he'll appreciate it if you come visit him and help him as much as you can. I don't know of any specific things you can do, but I know he'll want someone to talk to you and to just stick by them.

Stay strong! I don't know if you're the religious type, but if you are, pray! And I'll be praying for you guys, too. ray:

 

[indra]

So sorry about your friend.

As for the benefit concert I think it's because for most people there really isn't much else for them to do, but they want to do something. From your description of the people planning it, they don't really seem as if they would be very good at taking care of him (and let's face it, would you want a bunch of people you don't know really well being around you when you are very ill?), so putting on a benefit concert is their way of showing him and his family/close friends that they care. It's a tribute to him.

 

[Trinity3000]

Thanks guys, yeah I am a Christian, so I've been praying for him.

He might be being transferred to the hospital here, so thats good I guess.

His cancer is in his stomach, liver and pancreas. They can't remove it.

He's got 12 months tops to live. And he's 40. He's only just been diagnosed but already he's very sick, and wasting away.

 

[cobl04]

That is so horrible.

I went to a father-son thing once and one father, who was 36, stood up in the circle and said "I'm 36, husband to a beautiful wife and three beautiful kids and I've just been diagnosed with cancer. I have six months to live. I quie my job and spend every waking hour with my family."

Extremely moving.

Sorry to hijack the thread. My prayers are with you.

 

[redhotswami]

 

[Liesje]

A very good friend/college roommate died of cancer when she was 20 (I was 19). So I know there's not much anyone can say at this point that can really make you feel better. Hang in there.

 

[The_Pac_Mule]

wow im so sorry The best you can hope for is that by a miracle, someone discovers a cure, or at least a drug that can combat cancer

 

[JanuaryStar]

So sorry to hear this Trinity...

I have lost some people with cancer myself and know some that are diagnosed with cancer now, so I can only tell you to try and keep your hopes up that your friend won't suffer too much pain... Good luck with everything

 

[RedRocksU2]

 

[JCOSTER]

I'm sorry about your friend.

 

[Zoots]

I'm sorry to hear about your friend! Cancer and AIDS are still so freaking scary, I hope they find a permanent cure for it soon!

 

[tiny dancer]

I'm very sorry about your friend. I'll add him to my prayer list. ray:

 

[Lila64]

 

[BonosBaby12]

Im really sorry I have an aunt who is dealing with terminal cancer right now. Hope you are able to spend some time with your friend

 

[cruzila]

Oh hun, I'm sorry to hear of the news !!

 

[Angela Harlem]

 

[Trinity3000]

I'm in the same city as my friend now, and have spent some amazing times with him at the hospital. Once I got over how different he looks now, and the fact that he is leaving this world... I have been able to have really meaningful and silly times with him.

 

[verte76]

 

[Carek1230]

How are things going with your friend?