17, and counting....

[MooMoo!]

I know Im pretty much going on what everyone else does, and I should be patient/wait for the right time/person etc, but I feel at 17, by now I should have had a boyfriend. At least one. Not even a kiss. Nada.



I know Im no oil painting, (and I dont want to sound bitchy or jealous, even if i am...) but ive seen..."worse" (im talking personality wise as well as looks) people with me who seem to get whoever they want.

Having said that, I am very picky about who I like, and dont tend to socialize an awful lot. But it'd be nice to know someone likes you, if that makes any sense.


anyway...yeah.

 

[VertigoGal]

I'll be 17 in 6 months and I've never had a boyfriend. actually I've had 2 but I always forget to count them because it was immature stupid shit and I never even kissed either because I was repulsed by both of them. I've since learned fear of hurting someone's feelings is a shitty reason to agree to date them. haha

anyway. I'm a lot like you. I've been assured I'm not ugly, and I do my best to be happy and fun-loving around other people. I have guy friends- I just can't seem to find any that are attracted to me. I randomly attract a few freak types who hardly know me, develop an almost stalkerish obsession, and take months of the cold shoulder to go away. doesn't really make me feel any better, even though 'someone' likes me. I figure I'll find better guys in college, but yeah it's a bit depressing.

I understand how you feel, but just remember it's good not to let it get to you to the point that you act on it. I know plenty of girls who are less physically attractive than either of us most likely, by society's standards, and who have more awkward personalities. but they get attention from guys. by whoring themselves out. high school guys won't say no to anybody. it's really sad and pathetic. so uhh it could be worse.

I'm sure you'll be fine- I know how you feel though

 

[LemonMelon]

Believe it or not I've never really had a girlfriend. I have had a lot of friends that are girls (I actually tend to get along with girls better than with guys ), but I've just never been able to connect romantically with them. It sucks, but I have been able to learn a lot about women when just talking with them on a friendly basis.

My advice? Don't let it get to you. I'm 16, and feel your pain, but I have been able to be content with who I am, and I'm sure things will swing my way soon enough. Again, as you said, be patient, confident, and things will work out.

 

[Lancemc]

Don't worry about it. Everybody's different when it comes to this stuff. There's nothing to be upset about, just be the confident young woman you are and things will happen. Things always find a way to work out. And when it does happen, you won't feel like it should have happened sooner, or later for that matter, not if it's feels right. Does that make any sense? I'm not sure it does. But anyway, things should get easier when you get to college. Hah, uh, well actually, I can't say things are easier necessarily. My love life has been nothing but an emotional rollercoaster since I've gotten to college. But what I mean is that it's easier to meet people, as it's sort of a forces social situation. It's good though.

So yeah. I guess just don't worry about it too much.

 

[LemonMelon]

^ Even though this thread http://forum.interference.com/t167309.html may make it seem like he's not exactly a master in this field, listen to Lance. He speaks the truth.

 

[Lancemc]

Well, if you read all 21 pages of that you'll probably feel grateful you're single.

 

[LemonMelon]

Well, if you read all 21 pages of that you'll probably feel grateful you're single.

I did read about half of that thread. And, you're right, I definitely feel

able to be content with who I am

 

[Lancemc]

I did read about half of that thread. And, you're right, I definitely feel

Was it the first half or the second half? Could make the difference between you thinking I'm completely insane or just unlucky.

 

[LemonMelon]

Was it the first half or the second half? Could make the difference between you thinking I'm completely insane or just unlucky.

Both halves. The first 7 pages and the last 7 pages, roughly.

EDIT: I guess that would mean I read 2/3 then.

 

[AtomicBono]

I have guy friends- I just can't seem to find any that are attracted to me.

Yeah, I have a lot more guy friends than girl friends. Figures that I end up being attracted to a couple of them, but it never works out.

I'm 18 and I've never had a boyfriend either and I feel so damn lonely all the time. it seems like everyone else around me is either with someone in a serious relationship or fooling around...i'm neither. I've only made out with one guy, and I didn't even know his name it's just so damn frustrating. i have no self-confidence because of it, i really hate myself, find myself terribly unattractive, etc. and I know I'm not the ugliest person ever, I mean, I'm not deformed and I'm a little overweight but not necessarily fat (130 lbs...) but I can't get over this feeling. like I need to know that I mean something to someone.

and yeah, I'm pretty picky about who i like too. I'm in love with one guy and really like another and...that's it. Don't really have an interest in anyone else.

meh, I don't know

 

[bono_man2002]

20 in October and I still haven't had a boyfriend...which is a good thing, hey nothing against that kind of thing, but its for not me

In all seriousness , 20 in October....not a kiss, not a serious relationship....(I'm not whining.............much ), there's been two girls that I've really fallen for over the last couple of years, both situations ended up me really screwing up the friendship....one of them I now get along with, the other wants to have little to do with me....I'm avaliable to work for anyone who wants to feel uncomfortable with me , But I try to believe in the old saying of time heals all wounds.

Point is, I think you'll find someone when your least expecting it, and not looking for it, otherwise it could just be a forced thing....eh...ya'know?....

I hope I made some sense in there.

 

[MooMoo!]

Yea I know what you mean. I know a few, well, quite a lot of people who just seem to spend their time obsessing about guys, and some seem to just go out with the sole intention of "finding a guy". I really don't understand it, as I always think along the lines of things like that just happening, you cant make it happen yourself, yet these people actually DO end up going out with these random people they just literally go up to and ask out. ...but then they break up not long after, lol.

Actually there is this one guy I do like that I work with. hes really nice, not immature and works quite hard. I thought he was 16 but apparantly hes only 14, so yea. not good. Not that I have a problem with age gaps but 14 seems a bit young, even if he does act older...


Anyway, its nice to know Im not the only one. I do look around sometimesat everyone else and get a bit down about it, but like I say, thats just everyone else.

 

[annie_vox]

I'm 20 too and I only had one relationship wich lasted only a couple of months. Just a "doomed" thing that should never had happened. The point is: I like my independence, and I can't stand when people try to take control of my life... that's what happened, I felt like I was asfixiating. Then I see my parents relationship not going so well and I think: what's the point? But deep down I know I want to find someone who understands me... and sometimes I feel lonely and all. So I know how you feel... But what I wanted to say is that you should not worry about it... Just live your life to the ful and I'm sure someone right for you will show up sooner or later

 

[vivalapopedge]

i'll be 16 in five days and i've had two boyfriends, although one was when i was eleven and lasted like an hour and the other lasted for eight months, but he was my best friend, so we never did any "boyfriend/girlfriend" stuff because we were such good friends and it woulda been weird. i guess going out with him was a natural progression in our friendship, but it was strange because i didn't like him "like that", which i feel bad for because i apparently broke his heart and now he doesn't talk to me


when we had been going out for six months, it was in july and he was away and he called me and he was like "i love you" and i was like, "ummmmm, i have to go" thus making me the biggest bitch in the whole world


i think the reason i haven't had a "real" boyfriend is because kids at this age are into going out with someone and then after two weeks saying "i love you" which is soooo stupid and i think most boys know i would never do that, so they don't talk to me

i honestly don't know any boys i'm friends with now i would go out with, mostly because they're either gay/have a girlfriend. i'm not upset about it because even though it may seen like there's a lot of couples, there's more single teenagers than there are couples

 

[VertigoGal]

haha kara- something very similar happened to me!
this guy was like "i love you" (over AIM no less) and I was thinking to myself, no way in hell I'm telling him I love him (we'd been 'dating' for about 3 days). so I just said "me too" and signed off.

me too

 

[vivalapopedge]

haha kara- something very similar happened to me!
this guy was like "i love you" (over AIM no less) and I was thinking to myself, no way in hell I'm telling him I love him (we'd been 'dating' for about 3 days). so I just said "me too" and signed off.

me too

lolz, and modest too



ugh, i hate when people do stuff like that on aim or the phone, it's so impersonal
when my best friend asked me out onthe phone, i told him the answer was no unless he asked me in person
i am seriously such a bitch

 

[VertigoGal]

it's just a really shitty way to put someone on the spot.

and you are NOT a bitch

 

[Liesje]

I am very picky about who I like, and don't tend to socialize an awful lot. But it'd be nice to know someone likes you

I was the same way in high school. I don't really count my 8th grade boyfriend, since we giggled over holding hands and were more like best friends than bf/gf. Looking back though, I don't regret not having a boyfriend or dating in HS. A few of my friends did, and some of them are still messed up over broken hearts and abusive relationships early on. At the time, I always kind of wanted someone to at least show interest, but now I thank God I spared myself the drama. Having a close knit group of friends who preferred each other's company over boyfriends helped as well.

 

[MooMoo!]

Ok super WTF!! Some guy on my MSN who Ive known for quite a while and actually like, but was worried of saying so as he doesnt live anywhere near me just said he liked me, and not in a "will u be my gf lol" sort of way. My god, an actual NICE guy likes me!!


ZOO CONFESSIONAL FOR THE WIN!!!!

 

[Lemonchick]

I'll be 18 in three days and have never had a boyfriend either.
I don't think I've ever had anything remotely close to a boyfriend....for some reason I just have a lot of really good guy friends, but I don't think I could ever be in any way romantically involved with them...it would just be too weird. And whenever I'm slightly interested in a guy...chances are he won't be interested in me, because I've proven to be just "friend material" apparently.

I don't really feel that much pressure about getting a boyfriend, but sometimes I think that it would be kinda nice. I always seem to be the bystander in whatever relationship drama is going on, and I'm always the one people go to when they need advice...and since I have no romantic life of my own, I'm only happy to help. I just keep telling myself that someday I'll meet someone and something will happen...but sometimes it's hard to be positive when every single one of your friends seems to have some kind of romantic interest/history/drama/etc, and all they ever tell you is "you're lucky you don't have to deal with this." I'll decide that when I actually have SOMETHING to deal with.


and, MooMoo, that's great! Don't you just love the unexpected...