What if your child were gay?

[Doozer61]

2 of us in this picture are.

Would you love them unconditionally?

Would you try to change them?

Would you disown them?

 

[BAW]

*edited because Doozer fixed the pic

 

[LoveTown]

Dooz, thanks for starting this thread. As I have posted elsewhere my cousin killed himself 8 years ago because he was gay and felt his parents would disown him....

I can say that if I had a child and they told me they were gay I might take the news as a surpise but I know I would love them no matter what.

When I look at that picture I see three beautiful children with love and joy in their eyes...perfect in every way. The fact that two of them are gay does not take away from my feelings at all.

 

[MissVelvetDress_75]

2 of us in this picture are.

Would you love them unconditionally?

Would you try to change them?

Would you disown them?

I would love them unconditionally and support them. I would never try to change them nor would I disown my own flesh and blood.

 

[Doozer61]

thanks, Char, I don't know what happened!




i forgot the properties step

 

[carrieluvv]

all ya need is love.

they are still your children no matter what and they deserve to be celebrated

 

[dandy]

you guys were adorable!

as for the question: wouldn't matter, i would love and support my children and want nothing but happiness for them. nothing less than all children deserve.

 

[sallycinnamon78]

all ya need is love.

they are still your children no matter what and they deserve to be celebrated

Absolutely - well said.

 

[ILuvLarryMullen]

I would feel bad that I knew that their life would be harder, but that is all.

 

[A_Wanderer]

Have another child.

But I would deal.

 

[Doozer61]

you guys were adorable!

thanks dandy! that is me in the middle, my nephew who is also gay and my niece, who is married and has two kids. i think the picture was taken in the late 60's.

 

[nbcrusader]

Love unconditionally and support them

 

[Moonlit_Angel]

Would you love them unconditionally? Yes.

Would you try to change them? Nope.

Would you disown them? God, no.

That pretty much sums it up for me.

Angela

 

[Mr. BAW]

Christmas 1967 -Nana's front room; the thin green carpet, the front room window that bears my bee-bee gun hole and the bedroom door that was closed to hang the Xmas cards along with Nana's favorite black and white TV.....

As far as you brats, I still love each of you.......

"Bub"


(Doozer's pet name for Mr. BAW)

 

[Mark Freedman]

Re: Re: What if your child were gay?

Would you love them unconditionally? Yes.

Would you try to change them? Nope.

Would you disown them? God, no.

That pretty much sums it up for me.

Angela

What Moonlit_Angel said.

 

[MadelynIris]

Would you love them unconditionally? Yes

Would you try to change them? No

Would you disown them? No

 

[Doozer61]

Have another child.

But I would deal.

Wow! Thanks for your honesty. How would you deal?

 

[BostonAnne]

Re: Re: What if your child were gay?

Would you love them unconditionally? Yes.

Would you try to change them? Nope.

Would you disown them? God, no.

That pretty much sums it up for me.

Angela

Me too.

 

[Pearl]

Would you love them unconditionally? Yes.

Would you try to change them? Nope.

Would you disown them? God, no.

That pretty much sums it up for me.

Angela

I second that, and what ILuvLarryMullen said

 

[verte76]

I'd love them unconditionally. Children are children.

 

[tiny dancer]

Re: Re: What if your child were gay?

Would you love them unconditionally? Yes.

Would you try to change them? Nope.

Would you disown them? God, no.

That pretty much sums it up for me.

Angela

Same here.

 

[deep]

I'd love him with one condition








no log-cabin Republicans

 

[Irvine511]

i'd tell him to stop being silly, that it was just a phase and he'd outgrow it. then i'd look for the deeper issue: is this his way of showing his understanding that i, his father, never really loved him? if so, why does he have to be so *ridiculous* about it. is he looking for attention? if so, this is a silly way to go about it.

if he continued to choose to act upon his unnatural desires and continued with the practice of homosexuality, i'd give him a choice: either he can go to the Exodus ministry and they, with God's help and prayer, will help him conquor this terrible affliction; or, he can leave my house, immediately, and be cut off forever because i sure as hell didn't raise no damn perverts or queers.

 

[Macfistowannabe]

Unconditional love, no exceptions.

 

[MrsSpringsteen]

unconditional love, never disown or try to change

That's all I ever wanted from my parents, well that and some affirmation that I'm a good person and worthy of love. The fact that I'm straight should never make me any more worthy of love or acceptance from my parents or anyone else.

 

[Saracene]

Re: Re: Re: What if your child were gay?

What Moonlit_Angel said.

Ditto.

 

[u2granny]

One of my children is gay. I told them they needed t do whatever they had to to be happy and content. My feelings towards that child are the same now as the first moment he was held.

 

[DeadMansParty]

i'd tell him to stop being silly, that it was just a phase and he'd outgrow it. then i'd look for the deeper issue: is this his way of showing his understanding that i, his father, never really loved him? if so, why does he have to be so *ridiculous* about it. is he looking for attention? if so, this is a silly way to go about it.

if he continued to choose to act upon his unnatural desires and continued with the practice of homosexuality, i'd give him a choice: either he can go to the Exodus ministry and they, with God's help and prayer, will help him conquor this terrible affliction; or, he can leave my house, immediately, and be cut off forever because i sure as hell didn't raise no damn perverts or queers.

" a homophobe is probably the worst hobby ever, you'd think that you would use your energy more on burning crosses or putting on that hood that hides your cowardly soul" ..... me!

 

[LoveTown]

One of my children is gay. I told them they needed t do whatever they had to to be happy and content. My feelings towards that child are the same now as the first moment he was held.

you seem like such a nice person

 

[carrieluvv]

Irvine...i think..... is giving his own expirience.

*HUGS* Irvine ..that must have been so shitty.

Doozer...do you have kids of your own? I mean your gay....but gays may or may not have kids.
cuz i think its interesting the how the answers would vary depending on if you had kids or not.
- my neice said she was gay for a while and I know she had gay relations with other girls...this was a few years back -
(shes 20 now) and it was sorta shockin in a way
my Mom ( her grandma) was like " I dont thnk Sarash is fully baked yet" meaning.....Sarah didnt know what sexual orientation she was yet......but then she just startin goin with guys and now wants to marry one...to make a long story short.

I think teenagers today or more sexually expirimentational (<- is this a word?) because of what they are exposed to...girls esp are made to feel as if they have to be sexy...and parents are afraid of saying anything to them...all parents want is to protect thier children...and sometimes fear and frustration lead to anger and resentment and laying blame and its those things that lie close to the surface ...acceptance comes later...and hopefully reconciliation

ill stop my ramblin.....