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Old 04-10-2005, 01:23 PM   #41
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Kiss them and tell them they're gifts from God, as I would any child.
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Old 04-10-2005, 01:25 PM   #42
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actually, that wasn't my own experience, but it is true of people i know. i have a friend who's mother literally cut his face out of old family pictures, the whole "my son is dead to me" routine.
At that point, I'd cut my mother out of all my family pictures and declare her dead too. It works both ways.

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Doozer...do you have kids of your own? I mean your gay....but gays may or may not have kids.
cuz i think its interesting the how the answers would vary depending on if you had kids or not.

No I do not have kids of my own, however I have been in relationships with women that have had children. During my last relationship, I was priveledged enough to witness the birth of one of my grandchildren and to be blessed with two more. I often wonder how I would react, as a gay woman, if one of them were to confide in me that they might be gay.

I would hope that I would be a source of strength and love for them in their struggles. I would also hope that their parents would continue to love and support them no matter what.
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i have a friend who's mother literally cut his face out of old family pictures, the whole "my son is dead to me" routine.
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That's pathetic. I don't understand some people. to your friend.

to everyone in this thread who would love their kids regardless of what orientation they are, by the way . It's nice to know I'll never have to hear about any of you doing what Irvine's friend's mom did.

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I can't even imagine what it would be like to feel such disdain from your own parents. I hope before its to late they realize how wrong they are and learn to enjoy their child for the wonderful person they are.

I have two daughters and I know exactly what I would do if they told me they were gay. I would hug them and thank them for being honest with me and then tell them they that they could always come to me with anything. I am a christian and don't believe in homosexuality. But I live my life believing that all people deserve love and respect. People may not always do things they way that I would have them done, but that doesn't make them less of a good person. I can't imagine disowning any family member. This life is to short to be judging other peoples lives. That's Gods job, not mine.
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Old 04-10-2005, 11:13 PM   #46
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Oh if I was writing something that involved a parent disowning their gay son/daughter ~ the line "I cut you away like cancerous tissue" would go brilliantly.
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Old 04-11-2005, 05:38 AM   #47
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I can't even imagine what it would be like to feel such disdain from your own parents. I hope before its to late they realize how wrong they are and learn to enjoy their child for the wonderful person they are.

some of it is cultural. he is salvadoran, and it's simply a different culture. and they seemed to be a pretty crazy family to begin with, though that was more a result of who they were rather than their nationality.
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I would continue to love them and accept them, of course. I'd want them to know that their current or future partners are welcome to spend time with the family. I'd also be happy that they felt they could trust me (and their father) enough to confide in us.

I hope my future husband and I could create the kind of family wherein our children would feel comfortable and safe enough to come to us with that kind of thing.
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Would you love them unconditionally? Yes.

Would you try to change them? Nope, but not because I'd be content that they're gay. I wouldn't try to change them because I've tried to change people before, and people have tried to change me, and it never works. However, I would do the politically incorrect thing and pray for them. "Politically incorrect" is nothing new for me.

Would you disown them? No
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I would love them unconditionally, welcome their partner into the family and support them as much as I could. I wouldn't approve of it from a personal perspective, but that wouldn't stop me from loving them and praying for them.
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Old 04-11-2005, 12:13 PM   #52
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I can say that I would support my children and everything... but, until I have a kid, I am afraid I cannot give you my real answer. I hope I am that way, I truly do, but it is so hard to know...
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U2 @ NYC...I appreciate your answer....my kids have taught me about so many things
you have to learn about hope for your kid and as soon as you speak it you belive it too..
along with so many other things
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Speaking of the cut the face out of the picture thing, I have an aunt who does that whenever someone in the family dies. She somehow finds a way to blame their spouse for their death and gets them out of the picture. It's a shame, since in most cases it's not even true, and she has ruined many good family portraits
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Loving my child would have nothing to do with their sexuality. That's not important to me. If they were gay I would be just as supportive and hopeful as I would with any of my other children. I'd want them to be as happy as they possibly could be, whether or not it's with a partner, live life to the full and do everything they've always wanted to do.
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