BonoVoxSupastar said:
I guess we need some clarifications because I'm still hearing some very broad and generalized statements.
Is it possible to tell someone they look pretty or handsome, etc without flirting?
Is it creepy only when strangers do it?
Is there a double standard with men and women?
Just some random questions...
I think theres a difference between giving a smiple compliment and stepping over the line.
First of all, I think it has a lot to do with intention.
What are you really saying when you tell somebody they look good today?
I think when you know somebody enough its easier to give compliments without coming off as creepy.
And there might be a double standard with men and women, but I just hear a lot more about young girls being weirded out about men saying things to them than young men being offended by some horny older lady.
It would be just as offensive in my book.
Heres an example of two instances where people payed me a compliment and came off two different ways.
I work at starbucks. I see some of the same people every day. There was one customer that came in every morning and one day I was wearing my glasses. He noticed, commented on them. I said I dont wear them often because I look like a dork in them. He said that I didnt look like a dork, I look pretty in them.
That didnt creep me out because he wasnt just approaching me and telling me he likes how I look.
There was a different guy that came in that I had never seen before and he asked me if anybody had told me today how hot I am.
How am I supposed to respond to that? Its just rude.
So I told him yes, my fiance had, thank you very much