What Brings You Down?

[Macfistowannabe]

I hope we can have an interesting discussion from here on out.

To answer my own question, I am brought down the most by those I value the most in the event of a commotion, or in the event of a degrading comment. Others can bring me down as well, but I think it is more hurtful when you show others - particularly close to you - pieces of your heart and they seem to take it for granted.

I think in a way I am also capable of being my own worst enemy. If I let something rile me up, it drives me nuts. Often, we are responsible for our own thoughts, and obviously, our actions as well.

Your turn.

 

[No spoken words]

My friends being in pain or agony really hits me hard. I'm pretty good at shrugging off my own pain, but, when a friend, or family member for that matter, are hurting, by extension I'm hurting too.

 

[Macfistowannabe]

Yeah, I wish I added something of a similar vein before posting the thread. I find watching others suffer to be quite painful as well.

 

[No spoken words]

I'm sure everyone on here feels some modicum of pain when they are aware of the suffering of others. I just know that I never feel any worse than when that occurs with me. I also feel very....deflated, I guess....when lied to by someone close to me. But, again, most people feel like that, I'd imagine. Lastly, when I stand next to someone at a U2 concert in Anaheim, and the only song they get excited for is Elevation, I feel pretty blue.

 

[BVS]

Too much...

As a child I would often cry myself to sleep worry about those starving, oppressed, or anyone who had it worse than me.

I often wonder if I'm prone to being down more than others. I've spent my time on anti-depresents and will never go back on them.

Like Bono says;
You should worry about the day
That the pain it goes away
You know I miss mine sometimes

 

[indra]

Loads of things. Here's just one.

Very early this year I was offered the opportunity to be an artist's rep for someone I admire very much, and of course I accepted. Because it's a new venture for both of us we are starting at the very beginning, and I'm not going to make a whole lot of money from it right away (and probably will only ever be a part time thing really), but I think there is great potential (and as I said, I really admire this person).

Anyway, I was really happy and I called my sister to tell her about it. So, I'm all excited and telling her some of my ideas and she says, "that's not good enough" and proceeds to tell me that it is a waste of my time and energy which should be spent getting a "real" job and planning my retirement. She sure as hell knew exactly how to burst my bubble. I hung up the phone and cried.

What makes it harder is that now I can't use her to bounce ideas off of and I can't tell her about my successes either, as I don't want to be shot down again. And we are starting to see success -- direct sales, starting to get work in shops, even have a gallery interested in having an exhibition of this artists work. And I'm pretty much doing everything but the painting. But I can't tell my sister because it not going to be "good enough."

 

[Saracene]

Betrayal by someone I trust.

My own perfectionism often helps me to bring myself down, when I react completely out of proportion to what I perceive as a failure on my part.

 

[A_Wanderer]

I bring myself down.

 

[MrsSpringsteen]

hurtful words
hurts from the past
injustice/hate/bigotry
self doubt
other people, sometimes
people who have no sense of humor
arrogant, self involved people
dishonesty, phoniness, people being manipulated

 

[Doozer61]

hurtful words
hurts from the past
injustice/hate/bigotry
self doubt
other people, sometimes
people who have no sense of humor
arrogant, self involved people
dishonesty, phoniness, people being manipulated

 

[U2Kitten]

Any sad story, really, about people or animals. I get torn up by stories of animal abuse

I do let other people's problems upset me. If I don't know, it doesn't hurt me, but once I know, it drags me down too. I can also sense when something is wrong and someone won't talk about it, and that bugs me.

And a big thing that brings me down is being lied on and gossiped about unfairly by my own family. They piss me off, because there is no way to clear it up without looking like a lying gossip too. Once a false story gets spread around and you try to explain the truth, the people who heard it just think, oh sure, she's just trying to lie out if it. I have one brother who even tells people not to listen to a word I say because I'm a liar. Well, it's no secret that a liar won't believe anyone else, and HE'S the liar, and he's hoarding Mom's estate and lying about it, hiding under his churchy image. This makes me very sick and I feel so hopeless. It HURTS!

 

[lauren430]

people who are always negative

 

[U2Girl1978]

people who are always negative

I had a friend like that...I had to stay away from him because it was too much.

People who treat each other badly bring me down...

 

[foray]

Bad art.

foray

 

[financeguy]

What's being bringing me down quite a lot recently is the way the Internet seems to have become a free-for-all for every sicko and pervert. (and I don't mean discussion forums like this one, obviously, I'm talking about pornography and the like)

I'm honestly starting to think that we need much tougher regulation and policing of the Internet.

 

[Macfistowannabe]

If I may add more:
- those who abuse their power
- those who hold a grudge
- those who cannot be trusted
- those who abuse freedoms (financeguy's example inspired this bit)
- those who are unwilling to empathize

 

[the rockin edge]

george w bush

 

[indra]

If I may add more:

- those who are unwilling to empathize

When I first glanced at this I thought you posted "unwilling to emphasize" and all I could imagine is that you were brought down by women who don't wear push up bras.

It was good for a laugh anyway.

 

[Macfistowannabe]

When I first glanced at this I thought you posted "unwilling to emphasize" and all I could imagine is that you were brought down by women who don't wear push up bras.

It was good for a laugh anyway.

A nice smile is a little more important...

 

[Irvine511]

politicians who believe that human rights are only conferred by majority rule.

 

[jay canseco]

http://www.despair.com/



I must say that Interference has an unusually high percentage of very nice, uplifting people. I can almost always find something to smile about here.

 

[Macfistowannabe]

http://www.despair.com/

Wow, that's pretty depressing.

 

[nickypiemcg]

Too much...

As a child I would often cry myself to sleep worry about those starving, oppressed, or anyone who had it worse than me.

I often wonder if I'm prone to being down more than others. I've spent my time on anti-depresents and will never go back on them.

Like Bono says;
You should worry about the day
That the pain it goes away
You know I miss mine sometimes

seriously, as a child i would cry if i didn't get my own way. i didn't car what anyone else though

 

[dandy]

a short list:

people who only see the negative in life, who play the victim
self-centred, wilfully ignorant people
people with no sense of humour
the west's long history of paying lip service to human rights but never putting the money where their mouths are
needless pain and suffering
my bad habit of procrastination
snowstorms in april

 

[U2democrat]

there are things that make me angry, and then there are things that bring me down. i get angry A LOT, but rarely am i "brought down."

the election however stands out most for me. and this goes for anything-i put my heart and soul and labor into it only to see it gone in a matter of hours. that brought me down further than i've ever been...but i've since bounced back.
in that same vein, getting a bad grade on something that i thought i had done well.
as U2kitten said, any sort of abuse, animal or human.

 

[R8drgurl]

I work in for one of the poorest school districts in CA. It brings me down everyday when I see that there aren't books for students or certified teachers or lab supplies or windows in classrooms or test prep materials, etc. When I see military recruiters come to the school once a week vs. colleges that come once a year.

Of course, there are rewards that keep me going. It warms my heart when a student runs up smiling showing me a passing grade or when a homeless student shows up at school.

It makes me very angry and sad that we don't make public education a priority. Our children are precious and quality education should be a basic right in our wealthy country.

Other things that bring me down? Animal/human abuse and all the isms (racism, sexism, classism, etc....)

 

[DrTeeth]

Lately, it's not being able to live up to my own expectations.