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I serve MacPhisto
First, let me say I was hesistant to post this.
Second, it is true, so if it happened to me then it must happen to a lot of other people who never say anything of it.
Third, this does not change my beliefs on homosexuality.
And finally, this is a topic that has been posted in here a lot, but I have never seen what happened to me ever mentioned.
Last weekend, my neighbors threw another party which I attended, and there were a lot of people there to include a few other neighbors. There was a guy there from around the block whom I have ran into in passing and I met this guy briefly at the party.
After the party finished and everyone went home or wherever, I went home and decided to pop in the Boston elevation video. I went out for a smoke when I seen the guy from around the block lurking in front of my house. I recognized him, and asked him if he wanted a beer and if he'd like to check this video out real quick. He came in and seemed to enjoy the video and I thought everything was cool.
I must say that I was pretty drunk, but I am pretty friendly with everyone and didn't think anything of this at the time. I'd seen the guy before and knew of him so I didn't think he was a threat to me. Bad judgement though.
I became aware of him staring at me constantly and asking me odd personal questions. He then decides to announce that he was gay, and that he was very attracted to me. I tell him that I am straight, and try to take the focus off of me and ask him about himself and his hobbies. I even point out that Bono/U2 were very supportive of all people; gay, straight, white, black, pink, whatever.
Long story short, this guy persists. After going in detail on how he likes to prey on unsuspecting college boys, he then tells me he likes "straight jocks" and enjoys going to the gym with them and the locker room, etc. Then he asks me if I go to gay clubs and why I didn't have a girl there with me. And finally asks me if he can "do things" to me (perform oral sex). Oh yeah, he even asks me if I would strip for him.
This is where I am feeling violated, uncomfortable in my own freaking house because I let him in and he took advantage of my hospitality and used it against me. I politely booted him out, but I still feel strange about it. Strange because of how he pursued me when I made it obvious to him I wasn't interested. Strange because I have to drive by his house everday. Strange because I might run into him at the little gas station on the corner that he hangs out at for some strange reason.
Why did he do this? Why has this happened to me before, several times though not to the same extent. I do not try to act like a gay/bisexual man, or someone that lives that lifestyle. I may be friendly to everyone and understanding overall, but thats not an open invitation to anyone to say these things to me.
My other dilema here is that this is very unfair on two fronts:
1. If a guy like me were to do the same thing to a girl (tell her I want her to strip for me and give her oral pleasure) under these same circumstances then I would be in fucking jail and probably be facing criminal charges or daddy's shotgun or something.
2. This has happened to me before, and I wonder how many other people this has happened to? I would say that I do not hold this as a stereotype against gays/bisexuals, but it has happened to me enough to cause suspicion.
My point here is that I wonder if this occurs but is never reported because of shame, like the same reason I won't go around telling all of my buddies about it. Or if it is reported to authorities, then it is just "laughed off" and dropped. And if so why?
Is it a problem society has created, a little catch-22 to try and make up for how terrible we have treated gays as a whole in the past?
Second, it is true, so if it happened to me then it must happen to a lot of other people who never say anything of it.
Third, this does not change my beliefs on homosexuality.
And finally, this is a topic that has been posted in here a lot, but I have never seen what happened to me ever mentioned.
Last weekend, my neighbors threw another party which I attended, and there were a lot of people there to include a few other neighbors. There was a guy there from around the block whom I have ran into in passing and I met this guy briefly at the party.
After the party finished and everyone went home or wherever, I went home and decided to pop in the Boston elevation video. I went out for a smoke when I seen the guy from around the block lurking in front of my house. I recognized him, and asked him if he wanted a beer and if he'd like to check this video out real quick. He came in and seemed to enjoy the video and I thought everything was cool.
I must say that I was pretty drunk, but I am pretty friendly with everyone and didn't think anything of this at the time. I'd seen the guy before and knew of him so I didn't think he was a threat to me. Bad judgement though.
I became aware of him staring at me constantly and asking me odd personal questions. He then decides to announce that he was gay, and that he was very attracted to me. I tell him that I am straight, and try to take the focus off of me and ask him about himself and his hobbies. I even point out that Bono/U2 were very supportive of all people; gay, straight, white, black, pink, whatever.
Long story short, this guy persists. After going in detail on how he likes to prey on unsuspecting college boys, he then tells me he likes "straight jocks" and enjoys going to the gym with them and the locker room, etc. Then he asks me if I go to gay clubs and why I didn't have a girl there with me. And finally asks me if he can "do things" to me (perform oral sex). Oh yeah, he even asks me if I would strip for him.
This is where I am feeling violated, uncomfortable in my own freaking house because I let him in and he took advantage of my hospitality and used it against me. I politely booted him out, but I still feel strange about it. Strange because of how he pursued me when I made it obvious to him I wasn't interested. Strange because I have to drive by his house everday. Strange because I might run into him at the little gas station on the corner that he hangs out at for some strange reason.
Why did he do this? Why has this happened to me before, several times though not to the same extent. I do not try to act like a gay/bisexual man, or someone that lives that lifestyle. I may be friendly to everyone and understanding overall, but thats not an open invitation to anyone to say these things to me.
My other dilema here is that this is very unfair on two fronts:
1. If a guy like me were to do the same thing to a girl (tell her I want her to strip for me and give her oral pleasure) under these same circumstances then I would be in fucking jail and probably be facing criminal charges or daddy's shotgun or something.
2. This has happened to me before, and I wonder how many other people this has happened to? I would say that I do not hold this as a stereotype against gays/bisexuals, but it has happened to me enough to cause suspicion.
My point here is that I wonder if this occurs but is never reported because of shame, like the same reason I won't go around telling all of my buddies about it. Or if it is reported to authorities, then it is just "laughed off" and dropped. And if so why?
Is it a problem society has created, a little catch-22 to try and make up for how terrible we have treated gays as a whole in the past?