This "Love" thing is confusing me.....

DrTeeth · 08-30-2001, 01:21 PM

It is.

clarityat3am · 08-30-2001, 01:44 PM

What about it is confusing?

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SicilianGoddess · 08-30-2001, 02:03 PM

I tend to agree. Love and lust get confusing for me, as well as trying to make yourself love someone or trying to make them love you.

But who really knows what love is anyway.

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Got The Swing Got The Sway
Got My Straw In Lemonade

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DrTeeth · 08-30-2001, 02:04 PM

Well when you have a friend who has become more then a friend, but neither of you is in love...etc...

That sort of stuff,

confusing

**Diemen** · 08-30-2001, 02:08 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by DrTeeth:
Well when you have a friend who has become more then a friend, but neither of you is in love...etc...

That sort of stuff,

confusing

I know exactly where you are coming from, Dr. - and yes, it's extremely confusing. Especially when that friend has been your best friend for 10 years. It makes for pretty interesting thoughts of the future in one's head.

clarityat3am · 08-30-2001, 02:08 PM

I see. That could get confusing....

Sledgehammer · 08-30-2001, 02:15 PM

I'm confused too. I'm always falling in love with my best friends' girlfriends. Why I do I want the wrong person everytime?!?

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"I'm not afraid to die, I just don't want to be there when it happens", Woody Allen

**Diemen** · 08-30-2001, 02:17 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by SicilianGoddess:
I tend to agree. Love and lust get confusing for me, as well as trying to make yourself love someone or trying to make them love you.

But who really knows what love is anyway.

And I know where you're coming from, too SG

. Although I believe that I do know what love is, it's just that I've yet to experience it's true romantic form.

The love I do know is that no matter what my friend does, where she goes or who she's with, whether she's sick or healthy, whether she's feeling down or on top of the world, I will always be there for her, supporting her in every way I can and doing my best to make sure she's happy. And I know she'd do the same for me.

That, to me, is love. Not romantic love maybe, but unconditional I-will-be-there-no-matter-what love.

SicilianGoddess · 08-30-2001, 02:18 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by DrTeeth:
Well when you have a friend who has become more then a friend, but neither of you is in love...etc...

That sort of stuff,

confusing

Holy shite. I'm going through that exact scenario.

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Got The Swing Got The Sway
Got My Straw In Lemonade

Sicy's Website

Trash Can · 08-30-2001, 09:11 PM

Thanks to great books like "The Road Less Travelled", I now know what Love is.

Love is not the "puppy-dog, love at first sight, walking on the moon, damn I want me some of that, ohhhhhh she is so HOT" high that crosses my mind when I see an attractive woman.

That's lust. That's attraction. That's infatuation.

... dammit... Unfortunately that is not love.

Love is sacrifice.

It's hard to learn. At least for me.

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My love for you
It's in the things I do and say
If I wanna live I gotta
Die to myself someday.
Surrender.

LarryMullen's POPAngel · 08-30-2001, 09:31 PM

Love is blindness.

(And not just because of the U2 song, I've been there and seen it happen.)

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"Enough of this video bullsh**, I'm going to give you some culture. Know what I mean?" -Larry, ZooTv Era

"the soul needs beauty for a soul mate"

-April

**Bonochick** · 08-30-2001, 10:24 PM

I never experienced love until my fiance (I've never had any previous boyfriends or anything like that). For those of you who don't know, we met online over 4 years ago. We finally met in person earlier this year.

Though it can be risky meeting people from on the Internet at times, what was nice about this was that we were attracted to each other for all of the right reasons. We didn't spend 4 years talkin' to each other on the Net and the phone because we were physically attracted to each other...we talked because we truly cared about each other. We also learned so much about each other.

However, for the record, after meeting in person...I am also very physically attracted to him.

But I do know that it's the real thing. Even knowing that it may be over a year before I see him again...that's fine...because I love him, and I know that when we are finally able to be together again that it will be worth the wait.

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"I Can Lose Myself, You I Can't Live Without"

tiny dancer · 08-30-2001, 11:33 PM

love is never having to say you are sorry!!

Naya · 08-31-2001, 01:12 AM

bonovista · 08-31-2001, 10:50 AM

Gosh Diemen, you said it well..

I just happened to have married my best friend..So Paul now has become along with my kids, the focus of my life..

When you want to make the other person happy and put them ahead of yourself, well then that to me is true love..

I am quite lucky though, I still feel lust when I look at my husband, and attach that with the pure love that comes with it, then you got something spectacular.

Paul, when you read this, remember that Tuesday is garbage night next week..

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****Formerly known as Miss Bonovista..Now known as Mrs.Emeraldscorpio.****

Trash Can · 08-31-2001, 06:47 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by LarryMullen's_POPAngel:
Love is blindness.

(And not just because of the U2 song, I've been there and seen it happen.)

Sorry to disagree with you, but True and healthy Love IS NOT "blindness".

It is honest and very very open. It is knowing someone intimately and not being blind to what that person is and what that person does... and still choosing to love that person regardless.

If I am correct, "Love Is Blindness" is about the terrorism and bombings in N. Ireland. How these people can be "blind" to the evil they do, because of the "love" they have for their... whatever. Their "religion". Their politics.
It's insanity.

Just my two cents... yet again!

Peace

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My love for you
It's in the things I do and say
If I wanna live I gotta
Die to myself someday.
Surrender.

**Diemen** · 08-31-2001, 07:20 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Trash Can:
[Love] is honest and very very open. It is knowing someone intimately and not being blind to what that person is and what that person does... and still choosing to love that person regardless.

Well said, TC, well said.

LarryMullen's POPAngel · 08-31-2001, 08:20 PM

Ok, I'm just being totally misunderstood in this forum. Can anyone take a play on words??

I do know what love is, cause I've been in it before. I was with someone who understood me, who was open and honest and took me as I was but who didn't have blinders on.

You may disagree with that too, but I'm not sorry. It's how I felt and how he felt, and we made it work just fine.

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"Enough of this video bullsh**, I'm going to give you some culture. Know what I mean?" -Larry, ZooTv Era

"the soul needs beauty for a soul mate"

-April

mikal · 09-01-2001, 12:58 AM

April's right!

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"If peeing your pants is cool, consider me Miles Davis!"

LarryMullen's POPAngel · 09-01-2001, 01:03 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by mikal:
April's right!

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"Enough of this video bullsh**, I'm going to give you some culture. Know what I mean?" -Larry, ZooTv Era

"the soul needs beauty for a soul mate"

-April

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08-30-2001, 02:03 PM	#3
SicilianGoddess Rock n' Roll Doggie Band-aid Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Smiley Land ? Posts: 4,462 Local Time: 02:02 PM	I tend to agree. Love and lust get confusing for me, as well as trying to make yourself love someone or trying to make them love you. But who really knows what love is anyway. ------------------ Got The Swing Got The Sway Got My Straw In Lemonade Sicy's Website

08-30-2001, 02:04 PM	#4
DrTeeth Rock n' Roll Doggie Band-aid Join Date: Sep 2000 Location: The Q continuum Posts: 4,770 Local Time: 10:02 PM	Well when you have a friend who has become more then a friend, but neither of you is in love...etc... That sort of stuff, confusing

08-30-2001, 02:08 PM	#6
clarityat3am I Serve Larry's Stick Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: Rocky Mountains Posts: 2,996 Local Time: 04:02 PM	I see. That could get confusing....

08-30-2001, 02:15 PM	#7
Sledgehammer The Fly Join Date: Aug 2000 Location: Athens GR Posts: 292 Local Time: 09:02 PM	I'm confused too. I'm always falling in love with my best friends' girlfriends. Why I do I want the wrong person everytime?!? ------------------ "I'm not afraid to die, I just don't want to be there when it happens", Woody Allen

08-30-2001, 09:11 PM	#10
Trash Can Acrobat Join Date: Mar 2001 Posts: 399 Local Time: 09:02 PM	Thanks to great books like "The Road Less Travelled", I now know what Love is. Love is not the "puppy-dog, love at first sight, walking on the moon, damn I want me some of that, ohhhhhh she is so HOT" high that crosses my mind when I see an attractive woman. That's lust. That's attraction. That's infatuation. ... dammit... Unfortunately that is not love. Love is sacrifice. It's hard to learn. At least for me. ------------------ My love for you It's in the things I do and say If I wanna live I gotta Die to myself someday. Surrender.

08-30-2001, 09:31 PM	#11
LarryMullen's POPAngel Blue Crack Distributor Join Date: Jun 2001 Location: I'll be up with the sun, I'm not coming down... Posts: 53,698 Local Time: 04:02 PM	Love is blindness. (And not just because of the U2 song, I've been there and seen it happen.) ------------------ "Enough of this video bullsh*, I'm going to give you some culture. Know what I mean?" -Larry, ZooTv Era "the soul needs beauty for a soul mate"* -April

08-30-2001, 10:24 PM	#12
Bonochick Halloweenhead Forum Moderator Join Date: Nov 2000 Location: Cherry Lane Posts: 40,819 Local Time: 05:02 PM	I never experienced love until my fiance (I've never had any previous boyfriends or anything like that). For those of you who don't know, we met online over 4 years ago. We finally met in person earlier this year. Though it can be risky meeting people from on the Internet at times, what was nice about this was that we were attracted to each other for all of the right reasons. We didn't spend 4 years talkin' to each other on the Net and the phone because we were physically attracted to each other...we talked because we truly cared about each other. We also learned so much about each other. However, for the record, after meeting in person...I am also very physically attracted to him. But I do know that it's the real thing. Even knowing that it may be over a year before I see him again...that's fine...because I love him, and I know that when we are finally able to be together again that it will be worth the wait. ------------------ "I Can Lose Myself, You I Can't Live Without"

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tiny dancer Blue Crack Distributor Join Date: Jun 2001 Location: small town Pennsylvania, USA Posts: 96,451 Local Time: 09:02 PM	love is never having to say you are sorry!!

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08-31-2001, 10:50 AM	#15
bonovista War Child Join Date: Aug 2000 Location: the Bad Girls School where MissMac graduated from. Posts: 549 Local Time: 09:02 PM	Gosh Diemen, you said it well.. I just happened to have married my best friend..So Paul now has become along with my kids, the focus of my life.. When you want to make the other person happy and put them ahead of yourself, well then that to me is true love.. I am quite lucky though, I still feel lust when I look at my husband, and attach that with the pure love that comes with it, then you got something spectacular. Paul, when you read this, remember that Tuesday is garbage night next week.. ------------------ ****Formerly known as Miss Bonovista..Now known as Mrs.Emeraldscorpio.****

08-31-2001, 08:20 PM	#18
LarryMullen's POPAngel Blue Crack Distributor Join Date: Jun 2001 Location: I'll be up with the sun, I'm not coming down... Posts: 53,698 Local Time: 04:02 PM	Ok, I'm just being totally misunderstood in this forum. Can anyone take a play on words?? I do know what love is, cause I've been in it before. I was with someone who understood me, who was open and honest and took me as I was but who didn't have blinders on. You may disagree with that too, but I'm not sorry. It's how I felt and how he felt, and we made it work just fine. ------------------ "Enough of this video bullsh*, I'm going to give you some culture. Know what I mean?" -Larry, ZooTv Era "the soul needs beauty for a soul mate"* -April

09-01-2001, 12:58 AM	#19
mikal Blue Crack Addict Join Date: Nov 2000 Location: Black Lodge Posts: 26,416 Local Time: 03:02 PM	April's right! ------------------ "If peeing your pants is cool, consider me Miles Davis!"