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Old 05-12-2003, 09:48 AM   #1
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Strippergate... The Long Island High School baseball scandel

I put this here as opposed to Put 'Em Under Pressure because it's an issue that has gone beyond just sports... making daily appearances on all the nightly news talk shows.

I'm sure most of you have heard the story by now... 15 high school baseball players from Massapequa High School in Massapequa, Long Island, NY were on a school sponsored trip to Cocoa Beach, Florida, as many high school baseball teams do over spring break. One night, with no game scheduled till late in the afternoon the next day, the head coach of the baseball team gave the players a 1:00am curfew, and then went to bed. 15 of the 20 players on the trip went, with a parent, to the Sassy Merlot's 2 strip club. It's still unknown how they all got in, the club claims they used fake IDs, but I find it hard to believe that so many kids all had fake IDs handy. The coach found out about the trip 2 days later, and upon returning to Long Island, the coach immediately notified the Athletic Director of what happened. After an investigation, the 15 players who attended were suspended for the rest of the season, and both the head coach and the assistant coach were put on leave. Now the question is... who to blame? Is it right to suspend the 15 players for the remainder of the season, which has resulted in some of the players losing their athletic scholarships for college in the fall? Is the coach at fault, even though he left the kids under the supervision of a a parent chaperone? Does it fall on the strip club for letting the kids in? Is it soley the fault of the parent who actually took high school aged kids to a strip club? Or is everyone at fault?
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A strip club...how dare they. I think this is a case of Puritan morality going too far. It's not like they fucked the strippers or anything. Sure, it's regrettable, but I think this falls under the category of "overreaction." But I'm sure the school has some sadistic pleasure in ruining their lives over this. All I want to say is that, at the end of the day, who cares?

I think this accents our nation's obsession with sex.

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come on now... cut the "puritan" b.s. there's a certain way to behave when you're on a school sanctioned trip. going to a strip club is not a proper way to behave. if they snuck into a strip club on their own time, then i agree... who cares. this was a school sanctioned trip... big difference. playing sports in school is not a right, it's a privilege, not a right. and if one behaves improperly on a trip, the school has the right to punish accordingly. if a kid got into a fist fight in school and ended up breaking someone's nose, and was suspended and unable to play because of that... thus losing his scholarship, is it the fault of the school? massapequa high school plays by the rules of New York State's Section XI Code of Conduct... the same exact Code of Conduct i was held to when I was a high school athlete on Long Island. You know at the begining of the year that if you violate this code, there are consequences that could include suspension from athletic activity. everyone is at fault here... the parent, the strip club, the coaches, and the players. they had the oportunity to say "no." 5 of the players DID say no, they are still allowed to play. you reap what you sow. these kids knew before they went into the strip club that if they were caught there could be serious consequences, and they went anyway.
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come on now... cut the "puritan" b.s. there's a certain way to behave when you're on a school sanctioned trip. going to a strip club is not a proper way to behave. if they snuck into a strip club on their own time, then i agree... who cares. this was a school sanctioned trip... big difference.
Whatever. I guess if you're going for the principle of it all, then good. The school swung its Draconian sword and made its decision. I don't see the point of this thread then.

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Yes people should accept that their actions have consequences, but isn't it something of an overreaction to deny these students their college scholarships based on this incident? Sure what they did was wrong, sure there should be consequences, but in this case I think the punishment is absolutely disproportionate.
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Yes people should accept that their actions have consequences, but isn't it something of an overreaction to deny these students their college scholarships based on this incident? Sure what they did was wrong, sure there should be consequences, but in this case I think the punishment is absolutely disproportionate.
The suspensions may hinder a student's opportunity to receive an athletic scholarship, but the high school cannot take away already granted scholarships as punishment.
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the school did not deny the kids of their scholarships. the school suspended the players for behaving improperly on a school sanctioned trip. the colleges that were offering some of these kids scholarships took it upon themselves to withdraw their scholarship offers after the news broke that they were suspended.
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as someone who played sports in college, i can tell you that you are told constantly that as an athlete you are, at all times, a representative of the athletic department and of the school, regardless of if you're at a school sanctioned event or just at some random off campus activity, i.e. a bar/club, etc. any activity that would be construed as an "embarassment to the school" will result in appropriate consequences. trust me.. i know from experience. my sophomore year i was suspended for 1 game because i got a citation for an open container outside an off campus party. for a second violation i would have been suspended for "50% of the team's contests." a third would been an automatic suspension for a year from the date of the offense.

most colleges are this anal about their athletes behavior... sure, the big names like miami and st. john's let their athletes get away with more, because there's millions of dollars at stake. but any "normal" institution, where millions of dollars aren't at stake, are very strict with their rules on student/athlete conduct. this is why the colleges revoked the scholarship offers to these kids upon hearing of the incident.
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There should have been a chaperone. this was a school sponsored trip and the responsibility of those students come under the school and those adults who were to be chaperoning them.

i had a chaperone on every school sponsored trip i went on while in High School. the adults had an eye on us pretty much all day and night while we were in New Orleans for Mardi Gras for a parade. my friends and i were constanly being supervised and were not permitted to leave at all.
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There should have been a chaperone. this was a school sponsored trip and the responsibility of those students come under the school and those adults who were to be chaperoning them.

i had a chaperone on every school sponsored trip i went on while in High School. the adults had an eye on us pretty much all day and night while we were in New Orleans for Mardi Gras for a parade. my friends and i were constanly being supervised and were not permitted to leave at all.
It appears there was a parent on the trip to the club.

Even so, this does not surprise me. I hear plenty of stories from our local high school along the same lines.
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then i would hold the parent responsible if there was a serious crime violated here. the students should not have their college chances taken away from them for a night of innocent viewing pleasure. if they did something far more serious like bought a night out with a hooker, well then yeah, i would say they should be reprimanded.

it is stupid to take a scholarship away from these boys for going to a strip club. Big deal, so they saw naked chicks on stage. Gimme a break, these boys will probably attend strip joints in college. But the parent, who should have been watching them, should be held responsible. If the parents of the boys who went to this club are disappointed in the boys actions, they should talk about it to their child directly.

I would say the school however needs to re-evaluate who they allow to chaperone for these school sponsored events. and not only that it was spring break, they could have saw naked chicks on the beach or in the hotel rooms. so what they paid to get into a joint with fake id's. if anything maybe the school board shouldn't allow schools to schedule tournaments during spring break.

hell i knew girls who were stripping while we were seniors in high school. and i knew teachers who were paying to see them. morals are the issue here.
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Sorry, but this story has really been pissing me off lately. The coverage in NYC shows these parents saying "yes, it was a lapse in judgement but you shouldn't suspend my son." These parents are saying "boys will be boys." Well, what about the fact that some of them were not of age to be going in to a strip club -- thereby breaking the law. What about the 50% of the student body that is female and being ignored because, well, boys will be boys.

They deserved to be punished. I don't buy the boys will be boys, my son would never do something wrong, it was a simple lapse in judgement crap. Why did they not teach their kids BEFORE they left that its not ok to do something like that -- especially on a school trip?

I think in this case the losers are not the students that got suspended but the rest of the young women in the school who are being told its ok for male students to go to strip clubs on school-sanctioned events. It would be interesting to see how these male students treat female students in the school -- I'm assuming not very well.
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I agree. I get tired of the parent's abdication of responsibility with stupid phrases like "boys will be boys."

It is used for just about every misbehavior of their sons. Be it bullying, drinking or other violations of school policies.
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The suspensions may hinder a student's opportunity to receive an athletic scholarship, but the high school cannot take away already granted scholarships as punishment.
Thanks, nbcrusader, I obviously hadn't read the article closely enough.

I do agree with what other posters have said about what attitude those students have towards female students in their school. I was disgusted with my college's student paper recently for writing a review of a strip club that just opened in town...it practically encouraged students to visit there. A huge number of female students had already said they were concerned that a strip club had opened not far from college and said they were scared that they had to walk by this place to get home at night and were concerned for their safety.

I'm not sure that I think the punishment these students received for their actions is entirely justifiable, but I do think their actions were wrong and there should be some consequences.
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One of the chaperones took them. This sounds like the case of a parent that prefers to be a friend rather than a chaperone. The kids should be suspended, not expelled, and chances are they lost their scholarships because they were not playing against anyone, therefore, how could their abilities be evaluated.

The only person I feel for here is the coach.
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Sharky,

I agree it was wrong for the students to break the law by entering a strip club where they were underage. The students must be punished in some way.

Other than that, why are you concerned about the way the boys treat the girls at their school? Why does their going to a strip club suggest to you that they do not treat the girls at their school well? If the girls had done something on a similar level, would you be concerned about their treatment of the boys? Their not adults of course, but I think we may be a little judgemental about certain types of adult activity and their relevance to other behavior and activity.
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I think this is absolutely inappropriate and, moreover, everyone shares the blame here--minors or not, these "kids" were old enough to know better.

All I can say is that my women's choir in high school never got to go to Chippendales.
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First off, I think it is preposterous to assume that men who go to a strip club, particularly in a group context like that, somehow treat women negatively. The "group context" is something I particularly emphasize, because I have a feeling that quite a few just went to be social, rather than being enthusiastically in favor of going to a strip club--especially when you have a chaperone going with you. I probably know what I would have done in such a situation, and I probably would have been peer pressured into going, even though I have honestly zero interest and gratification from those kind of places.

The fact of the matter is that "boys will be boys," and I think that in this politically correct, post-feminist society, men get a disproportionate rap on behavior, out of vengeance. It's not okay for men to have pornographic magazines, but its perfectly proper for women to have graphic romance novels? I've seen enough "proper" old ladies carrying these around. Visuals are to men what text is to women, as research suggests. I stand by my statement that this is preposterous--political correctness gone too far, and I think it is about time we lightened up in this so-called "free" nation.

There are many other more minor punishments that would have been appropriate---perhaps detention, perhaps community service, perhaps "sensitivity training." Whatever. I think what did happen was too extreme; a knee-jerk reaction from moralist society.

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Other than that, why are you concerned about the way the boys treat the girls at their school? Why does their going to a strip club suggest to you that they do not treat the girls at their school well? If the girls had done something on a similar level, would you be concerned about their treatment of the boys? Their not adults of course, but I think we may be a little judgemental about certain types of adult activity and their relevance to other behavior and activity.
I know your question wasn't addressed to me, but I find it interesting so I'll reply anyway.

I do think strip clubs encourage men to have little respect for women. Strip clubs objectify women, they encourage men to see women as simply being there for men's gratification, they encourage men to see women just for what they look like and not for who they are. In addition, I'm concerned by the fact that in areas where a strip club/lap dancing club is located, there is an increase in violent attacks on women, I think that says a lot about the attitude some strip club patrons have towards women.

I'm not suggesting strip clubs should be banned, nor am I suggesting that every man who visits a strip club has a lack of respect for women. However, I do believe that men who have a decent attitude towards women, that is see them as an individual who is to be respected and valued for all their talents not simply their appearance, would be unlikely to attend a strip club which very clearly does not treat women with that level of respect.

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