Sexual Promiscuity

Hitman · 10-05-2001, 07:17 PM

Ahhh...the subject of sexual promiscuity.....

I have a question for guys.....

Would you object if you found out your 'serious' girlfriend had slept with in excess of 10-13 different guys? Would this make you any less likely to want to marry her?

For women: Does the amount of girls a man has slept with sway you one way or the other? Would you object or be turned on to a number of women he has slept with?"

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80sU2isBest · 10-05-2001, 07:47 PM

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Originally posted by Hitman:
Ahhh...the subject of sexual promiscuity.....

I have a question for guys.....

Would you object if you found out your 'serious' girlfriend had slept with in excess of 10-13 different guys? Would this make you any less likely to want to marry her?

It would make me seriously consider my decision to marry her. I probably would not want to marry her. I know the past is the past and we all make mistakes, but since I view non-marital sex as wrong, 10-13 sounds less like a mistake and more like a lifestyle. I just couldn't bring myself to marry her.

mikal · 10-05-2001, 07:53 PM

I'd definitely marry her! I love a girl with experience!

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Hitman · 10-05-2001, 09:15 PM

I certainly do not view pre-marital sex as wrong.......
If I did, I would certainly be on the wrong many many times.....
I know it's hyporcitical. I have slept with a fair number of women in my life.....but I wouldn't want the woman I marry to have had over 10 sexual partners...even over 4 or 5 I kind of don't like... I say this knowing I have a double standard, but, what can I say, that is just how I feel.....
Are there any other guys (much respect to 80s U2is Best -- I respect your view on pre-marital sex in general as I come from an Irish Catholic family) who actually believe and have pre-marital sex who have these contradictory feelings??????????

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Crzy4Bono · 10-05-2001, 10:39 PM

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Originally posted by mikal:
I'd definitely marry her! I love a girl with experience!

LMFAO at your status! ha ha ha (sorry mikal)

A harem girl who loves a girl with experience!

ha ha ha

(BTW, it would bother me if my boyfriend had a ton of partners - but what do I know? I've been married forever)

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martha · 10-06-2001, 05:31 PM

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Originally posted by Hitman:
Ahhh...the subject of sexual promiscuity.....

For women: Does the amount of girls a man has slept with sway you one way or the other? Would you object or be turned on to a number of women he has slept with?"

1. If he's sleeping with GIRLS, he should be arrested.
2. It depends on how many women he's slept with and for how long. If these have been serious relationships, and the number is reasonable (3-4), not that big of a deal. But, if he's a whore and sleeps around to prove what a stud he is, he can get the hell out of my life.
3. This has no bearing on my life right now. I've been married for a while and have no intention of unmarried.So I will shut up.

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bonovista · 10-06-2001, 09:19 PM

Let's say a person (man or woman) has had about 30 sex partners..Do you guys think this person can ever actually fall in love with anyone? What would you all worry about..besides if they have contracted a STD or HIV??

DoctorGonzo · 10-06-2001, 11:10 PM

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Let's say a person (man or woman) has had about 30 sex partners..Do you guys think this person can ever actually fall in love with anyone? What would you all worry about..besides if they have contracted a STD or HIV??

They obviously have a serious commitment problem. The root of this problem should be explored, if at all possible. It must be discovered and considered before any serious commitment is made to ensure that the other person in question doesn't end up as the space between partner number #30 and partner #32.

It is possible for this promiscuos person to fall in love, but their partner should take extreme care in developing any kind of long term relationship with them and have a clear idea of the issues the other person is facing before they go too far.

diamondbruno9 · 10-06-2001, 11:19 PM

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm............
As long as she wasn't a Porn Star..jk

The past would be the past..I would thread cauiosly and optimisticly..
(maybe w/could compare notes?)

forgive my spelling

Diamond..

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A|catura · 10-07-2001, 03:15 AM

Practice makes perfect!

Oh! and..... If at first you don't succeed, try, try again! lol!

*ahem* ... sorry

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dream wanderer · 10-07-2001, 07:44 AM

Hitman admits he has a double standard...I wonder why this is true of so many men? Why do they have a problem with this?

Why should it matter? They admit its not a religious thing...is it a cultural thing?

dream wanderer

martha · 10-07-2001, 09:20 AM

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Originally posted by dream wanderer:
Hitman admits he has a double standard...I wonder why this is true of so many men? Why do they have a problem with this?

Why should it matter? They admit its not a religious thing...is it a cultural thing?

dream wanderer

It's a guy thing. And guys, don't get all bent out of shape. Some of you don't have the problem, but many of you do.

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Achtung_Bebe · 10-07-2001, 10:15 PM

If one girl was enough for a guy then this wouldn't be a problem. True of girls being satisfied with one guy, too. Why is it some people just can't be satisfied with one person? It must be the whole 'thrill' of variety, or something... And I'm not speaking of everyone in general, just a select amount.

I once heard it said (and please don't think strangely of me for quoting this) that it's a good thing guys have two nuts, 'cause one is never enough.

I have come across guys with high partner numbers, and I certainly don't look down on them as people, rather if I were to consider a relationship with them it would play a large factor in my decision. It would naturally lower your sense of trust and faith in the relationship working out. If someone has a very 'fickle' past with relathionships, flings, whatever--then it may be hard for this person to settle. But also I do believe in giving everyone a chance to redeem themselves. The past does not tell a tale. I just make sure a person has the right intentions, and if they tell you they have changed, make sure it's not just a line they're putting before you.

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Angela Harlem · 10-07-2001, 10:31 PM

If a 20 year old guy had 10 partners previously, hes a hewhore. But if the guy was say 60, its suddenly not as strange.

I also dont agree that a guy that has had a lot of partners cant fall in love. Same with girls.

I also reckon ppl shouldnt sleep around, but if they, no biggie, Im not looking to hook up with no hewhore, so it makes no diff to me.

Im a Harem Girl by trade only. And only to Nic Cage and Elvis.

**Diemen** · 10-08-2001, 03:21 AM

I can understand the allure of having sex often. I mean, in all honesty, sex is extremely enjoyable!

However, I simply can't conceive of making love with someone I don't care deeply about. For me, the pleasure derived from it is secondary to the intense connection and intimacy with the other person. I really can't think of a way to be more intimate with someone than to make love to them. It's like saying "I love you so much that I give myself completely over to you - mind, heart, body."

So to answer the question, I would be a little worried if my girlfriend had a lot of past sexual partners, but the main thing that makes the difference is if those were from serious relationships or not. If it was sex just to get off, then I would need to have a good long talk.

LuvLady · 10-08-2001, 04:44 AM

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Originally posted by Diemen:

However, I simply can't conceive of making love with someone I don't care deeply about. For me, the pleasure derived from it is secondary to the intense connection and intimacy with the other person. I really can't think of a way to be more intimate with someone than to make love to them. It's like saying "I love you so much that I give myself completely over to you - mind, heart, body."

Ah that was sweet Diemen. You've managed to restore my faith in the male species!!

Klodomir · 10-08-2001, 07:55 AM

10 previous sex partners is probably pretty average for a single woman around 30 years of age. But to be honest, I have never asked that question. By the time I get around to wanting to sleep with someone, I know them well enough to have a good idea of what their character is, so I never get any unpleasant surprises that way.

You can catch HIV/STD/VD from anyone - so if you're only worried about that when you have an "experienced" partner, you probably need to reevaluate the precautions you take.

BTW, I'm okay with sex before marriage. I've been told I'm not "marriage material", so I would be pretty sad by now if I had waited, LOL!

80sU2isBest · 10-08-2001, 09:32 AM

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Originally posted by Klodomir:
10 previous sex partners is probably pretty average for a single woman around 30 years of age

Is this true? I hope not!

Klodomir · 10-08-2001, 10:30 AM

Oh, what do I know? I'm only guessing. I'm nowhere near there, but then again, I'm incredibly boring.

80sU2isBest · 10-08-2001, 11:00 AM

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Originally posted by Klodomir:
Oh, what do I know? I'm only guessing. I'm nowhere near there, but then again, I'm incredibly boring.

Then there should be more "boring" people like you! :-)

10-05-2001, 07:17 PM	#1
Hitman Acrobat Join Date: Sep 2000 Location: New York Posts: 429 Local Time: 03:42 PM	Sexual Promiscuity Ahhh...the subject of sexual promiscuity..... I have a question for guys..... Would you object if you found out your 'serious' girlfriend had slept with in excess of 10-13 different guys? Would this make you any less likely to want to marry her? For women: Does the amount of girls a man has slept with sway you one way or the other? Would you object or be turned on to a number of women he has slept with?" ------------------ You Just Can't Get Enough Of That Lovey Dovey Stuff... __________________

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10-05-2001, 07:53 PM	#3
mikal Blue Crack Addict Join Date: Nov 2000 Location: Black Lodge Posts: 28,295 Local Time: 10:42 AM	I'd definitely marry her! I love a girl with experience! ------------------ Macphisto worships me!

10-05-2001, 09:15 PM	#4
Hitman Acrobat Join Date: Sep 2000 Location: New York Posts: 429 Local Time: 03:42 PM	I certainly do not view pre-marital sex as wrong....... If I did, I would certainly be on the wrong many many times..... I know it's hyporcitical. I have slept with a fair number of women in my life.....but I wouldn't want the woman I marry to have had over 10 sexual partners...even over 4 or 5 I kind of don't like... I say this knowing I have a double standard, but, what can I say, that is just how I feel..... Are there any other guys (much respect to 80s U2is Best -- I respect your view on pre-marital sex in general as I come from an Irish Catholic family) who actually believe and have pre-marital sex who have these contradictory feelings?????????? ------------------ You Just Can't Get Enough Of That Lovey Dovey Stuff...

10-06-2001, 09:19 PM	#7
bonovista War Child Join Date: Aug 2000 Location: the Bad Girls School where MissMac graduated from. Posts: 549 Local Time: 03:42 PM	Let's say a person (man or woman) has had about 30 sex partners..Do you guys think this person can ever actually fall in love with anyone? What would you all worry about..besides if they have contracted a STD or HIV??

10-06-2001, 11:19 PM	#9
diamondbruno9 Mr. MacPhisto's Tub Scrubber Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Scottsdale, Az. USA Posts: 509 Local Time: 03:42 PM	Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm............ As long as she wasn't a Porn Star..jk The past would be the past..I would thread cauiosly and optimisticly.. (maybe w/could compare notes?) forgive my spelling Diamond.. ------------------ "..it's about breaking barriers, transcending boundries and conquering great divides"-Bono 1987 --------- An open letter to Bono from myself www.arizonaautoweb.com/bono/ [This message has been edited by diamondbruno9 (edited 10-06-2001).]

10-07-2001, 03:15 AM	#10
A\|catura The Fly Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: FYM - Aka S\|aney/Redpill Posts: 68 Local Time: 07:42 AM	Practice makes perfect! Oh! and..... If at first you don't succeed, try, try again! lol! ahem ... sorry ------------------------------------------- "I think every good Christian ought to kick Falwell's ass." --Senator Barry Goldwater, when asked what he thought of Jerry Falwell's suggestion that all good Christians should be against Sandra Day O'Connor's nomination to the Supreme Court

10-07-2001, 07:44 AM	#11
dream wanderer Acrobat Join Date: Aug 2000 Posts: 320 Local Time: 03:42 PM	Hitman admits he has a double standard...I wonder why this is true of so many men? Why do they have a problem with this? Why should it matter? They admit its not a religious thing...is it a cultural thing? dream wanderer

10-07-2001, 10:15 PM	#13
Achtung_Bebe New Yorker Join Date: Jul 2000 Location: Beneath the noise, below the din Posts: 2,859 Local Time: 09:42 AM	If one girl was enough for a guy then this wouldn't be a problem. True of girls being satisfied with one guy, too. Why is it some people just can't be satisfied with one person? It must be the whole 'thrill' of variety, or something... And I'm not speaking of everyone in general, just a select amount. I once heard it said (and please don't think strangely of me for quoting this) that it's a good thing guys have two nuts, 'cause one is never enough. I have come across guys with high partner numbers, and I certainly don't look down on them as people, rather if I were to consider a relationship with them it would play a large factor in my decision. It would naturally lower your sense of trust and faith in the relationship working out. If someone has a very 'fickle' past with relathionships, flings, whatever--then it may be hard for this person to settle. But also I do believe in giving everyone a chance to redeem themselves. The past does not tell a tale. I just make sure a person has the right intentions, and if they tell you they have changed, make sure it's not just a line they're putting before you. ------------------ Oh John, let's not park here. Oh John, let's not park. Oh John, let's not. Oh John, let's. Oh John. Oh.

10-07-2001, 10:31 PM	#14
Angela Harlem Jesus Online Join Date: Dec 1969 Location: a glass castle Posts: 30,163 Local Time: 02:42 AM	If a 20 year old guy had 10 partners previously, hes a hewhore. But if the guy was say 60, its suddenly not as strange. I also dont agree that a guy that has had a lot of partners cant fall in love. Same with girls. I also reckon ppl shouldnt sleep around, but if they, no biggie, Im not looking to hook up with no hewhore, so it makes no diff to me. Im a Harem Girl by trade only. And only to Nic Cage and Elvis.

10-08-2001, 03:21 AM	#15
Diemen Resident Photo Buff Forum Moderator Join Date: Sep 2000 Location: Somewhere in middle America Posts: 13,687 Local Time: 10:42 AM	I can understand the allure of having sex often. I mean, in all honesty, sex is extremely enjoyable! However, I simply can't conceive of making love with someone I don't care deeply about. For me, the pleasure derived from it is secondary to the intense connection and intimacy with the other person. I really can't think of a way to be more intimate with someone than to make love to them. It's like saying "I love you so much that I give myself completely over to you - mind, heart, body." So to answer the question, I would be a little worried if my girlfriend had a lot of past sexual partners, but the main thing that makes the difference is if those were from serious relationships or not. If it was sex just to get off, then I would need to have a good long talk.

10-08-2001, 07:55 AM	#17
Klodomir Refugee Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Denmark Posts: 1,198 Local Time: 04:42 PM	10 previous sex partners is probably pretty average for a single woman around 30 years of age. But to be honest, I have never asked that question. By the time I get around to wanting to sleep with someone, I know them well enough to have a good idea of what their character is, so I never get any unpleasant surprises that way. You can catch HIV/STD/VD from anyone - so if you're only worried about that when you have an "experienced" partner, you probably need to reevaluate the precautions you take. BTW, I'm okay with sex before marriage. I've been told I'm not "marriage material", so I would be pretty sad by now if I had waited, LOL!

10-08-2001, 10:30 AM	#19
Klodomir Refugee Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Denmark Posts: 1,198 Local Time: 04:42 PM	Oh, what do I know? I'm only guessing. I'm nowhere near there, but then again, I'm incredibly boring.