Old farts!

adamswildhoney · 07-06-2002, 08:41 PM

What is it with old people! This old lady got offended when I tried to help get into a restaurant. I was just opening the door for her and she got all pissy with me, tell me that she didnt need my help and that i should show more respect to elders.

melon · 07-06-2002, 09:08 PM

Here's where empathy comes in:

Imagine living your entire life active and independent. Then, through no fault of your own, you end up old and feeble, pitied by everyone around you and treated like a helpless little child. Of course, it wasn't right for her to get pissy, but I have a feeling she laments the loss of independence she once had and, for her own pride and self-worth, she wishes to have as much independence as she can.

Melon

Lilly · 07-06-2002, 10:59 PM

perspective is always key, as evidenced by melon.

adamswildhoney · 07-06-2002, 11:05 PM

yeah i guess so i wasnt trying to offend her. I said that I was sorry and she didnt say anything back

Stories for Boys · 07-06-2002, 11:27 PM

probably the last straw for her...i'd have been annoyed too, but i'd also feel really bad for her.....*sigh*......live whilst you can.....

zooropamanda · 07-07-2002, 01:45 AM

i don't think you did anything wrong adam's wildhoney however, calling them "old people" doesnt help for one, i suppose.
i think about this a lot. the older generation aren't given the respect that they deserve, its true.
i guess whether you were trying to be nice and help her didnt come across to her. she never asked for the help in the first place so i can see why she got upset.
i am going to hate it when i am in my later years and people treat me like im a child. im not saying you did this, adamswildhoney, but it happens to them all the time.
it happens a lot in western society mainly. other cultures seem to have more respect for those with wisdom and experience.

it must be very disheartening at times, but then again, there are just a lot of cranky, old bastards out there too! lol

bono-vox · 07-07-2002, 09:03 AM

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Originally posted by adamswildhoney
, tell me that she didnt need my help and that i should show more respect to elders.

Yeh......calling them "old farts" ain't too nice........she probably just wants to be independant..melon is right!

adamswildhoney · 07-07-2002, 09:18 AM

just forget that is thread ever happened okay! I would never call a elderly person an old fart to their face and i hope i didnt offend anyone!

bono-vox · 07-07-2002, 09:26 AM

LOL i wasnt offended- i just had to laugh at u helping this elderly person but then calling them "old farts"

adamswildhoney · 07-07-2002, 09:28 AM

good to know! My family refers to older people that way when we are talking to each other and i thought that other people might have done the same.

martha · 07-07-2002, 01:08 PM

Maybe she was just hungry. I'm pissy when I'm hungry.

bono-vox · 07-07-2002, 01:23 PM

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Originally posted by adamswildhoney
good to know! My family refers to older people that way when we are talking to each other and i thought that other people might have done the same.

Yeh they might...this is a forum where you can FYM...you cant get angry b/c im voicing an opinion

madamc · 07-07-2002, 02:27 PM

the lady should have been thankful. it's common courtesy to open doors.

pub crawler · 07-07-2002, 02:48 PM

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Originally posted by zooropamanda

...but then again, there are just a lot of cranky, old bastards out there too! lol

Yes, there was one in the bagel shop this morning. He was going off on the kids behind the counter because they were spending too much time helping another customer and not enough helping him. So he yelled at them for a while and told the manager that he was incompetent. I wasn't too sympathetic. I thought he was rude and obnoxious. But he got away with it because he's an elderly man.

Miss MacPhisto · 07-07-2002, 03:19 PM

Yeah, and women often act the same way torwards men who open doors for them.
It is just an act of courtesy. Letting a door slam in someones face isnt exactly respectful.

07-06-2002, 08:41 PM	#1
adamswildhoney ONE love, blood, life Join Date: May 2002 Location: Somewhere in NorCal Posts: 10,333 Local Time: 12:07 PM	Old farts! What is it with old people! This old lady got offended when I tried to help get into a restaurant. I was just opening the door for her and she got all pissy with me, tell me that she didnt need my help and that i should show more respect to elders. __________________

07-06-2002, 09:08 PM	#2
melon ONE love, blood, life Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: Toronto, Ontario Posts: 11,782 Local Time: 04:07 PM	Here's where empathy comes in: Imagine living your entire life active and independent. Then, through no fault of your own, you end up old and feeble, pitied by everyone around you and treated like a helpless little child. Of course, it wasn't right for her to get pissy, but I have a feeling she laments the loss of independence she once had and, for her own pride and self-worth, she wishes to have as much independence as she can. Melon __________________

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Miss MacPhisto Banned Join Date: Mar 2001 Location: Planet Pleba Posts: 1,957 Local Time: 12:07 PM	Yeah, and women often act the same way torwards men who open doors for them. It is just an act of courtesy. Letting a door slam in someones face isnt exactly respectful. __________________ __________________ ".....People of America - SHUSH-........." "Well you tell...Bonovista,that i said hello and that my codename is Belleview" - Bono before opening night of Anaheim Elevation concert Well tonight thank God it's them, instead of you... ^^ Life's a bitch, so i became one ^^

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07-06-2002, 10:59 PM	#3
Lilly Rock n' Roll Doggie FOB Join Date: Oct 2001 Location: back and to the left Posts: 8,523 Local Time: 02:07 PM	perspective is always key, as evidenced by melon.

07-06-2002, 11:05 PM	#4
adamswildhoney ONE love, blood, life Join Date: May 2002 Location: Somewhere in NorCal Posts: 10,333 Local Time: 12:07 PM	yeah i guess so i wasnt trying to offend her. I said that I was sorry and she didnt say anything back

07-06-2002, 11:27 PM	#5
Stories for Boys Rock n' Roll Doggie VIP PASS Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: chicago Posts: 5,876 Local Time: 03:07 PM	probably the last straw for her...i'd have been annoyed too, but i'd also feel really bad for her.....sigh......live whilst you can.....

07-07-2002, 01:45 AM	#6
zooropamanda Rock n' Roll Doggie VIP PASS Join Date: Jul 2000 Location: Smile, you're reading my post Posts: 6,515 Local Time: 06:07 AM	i don't think you did anything wrong adam's wildhoney however, calling them "old people" doesnt help for one, i suppose. i think about this a lot. the older generation aren't given the respect that they deserve, its true. i guess whether you were trying to be nice and help her didnt come across to her. she never asked for the help in the first place so i can see why she got upset. i am going to hate it when i am in my later years and people treat me like im a child. im not saying you did this, adamswildhoney, but it happens to them all the time. it happens a lot in western society mainly. other cultures seem to have more respect for those with wisdom and experience. it must be very disheartening at times, but then again, there are just a lot of cranky, old bastards out there too! lol

07-07-2002, 09:18 AM	#8
adamswildhoney ONE love, blood, life Join Date: May 2002 Location: Somewhere in NorCal Posts: 10,333 Local Time: 12:07 PM	just forget that is thread ever happened okay! I would never call a elderly person an old fart to their face and i hope i didnt offend anyone!

07-07-2002, 09:26 AM	#9
bono-vox Rock n' Roll Doggie Join Date: Oct 2001 Location: maze of your imagination, where the streets have no name, lol Posts: 3,436 Local Time: 06:07 AM	LOL i wasnt offended- i just had to laugh at u helping this elderly person but then calling them "old farts"

07-07-2002, 09:28 AM	#10
adamswildhoney ONE love, blood, life Join Date: May 2002 Location: Somewhere in NorCal Posts: 10,333 Local Time: 12:07 PM	good to know! My family refers to older people that way when we are talking to each other and i thought that other people might have done the same.

07-07-2002, 01:08 PM	#11
martha Blue Crack Supplier Join Date: Mar 2001 Location: Orange County and all over the goddamn place Posts: 42,555 Local Time: 01:07 PM	Maybe she was just hungry. I'm pissy when I'm hungry.

07-07-2002, 02:27 PM	#13
madamc Refugee Join Date: Jan 2001 Posts: 1,428 Local Time: 03:07 PM	the lady should have been thankful. it's common courtesy to open doors.