Mrs. Edge
Bono's Belly Dancing Friend
I'm not sure if this is a Free Your Mind or a Lemonade Stand question, but I'm putting it in here anyway.
OK. This will sound like a strange question, but I'm one of those people who likes to ask people for advice before plunging into anything.
Now that the distraction of the tour is over, I am left with a pile of debt and a few life decisions to make. One of these nagging worries is: do I start a family. I am 30 now, and this is something I really should decide on relatively soon, because I CERTAINLY don't want to be raising a teenager in my 50s/60s!
My question is, if you are a parent, what made you finally decide to take this plunge? Was it spontaneous, or did you plan it out carefully right down to the timing of the conception?
I live with my husband happily in our house, and enjoy my life as it is enormously. I love the freedom of being able to travel and go out on a moment's notice. I am constantly bombarded with people saying "If you have a baby be prepared to never sleep/travel/have any fun/money again!" Not a great advertisement for parenthood! Everyone says that unless you are DESPERATE for children, not to bother having them. Is this true?
My sister says that children are like messy houseguests who don't clean up after themselves and never leave. My brother says "don't do it Jess, you'll regret it!" My mother says that having a baby will make up for the lack of U2 excitement. I would also really like to get away from work and if I have a baby I'm guaranteed a year off. Also, one of my best friends is about to try for her second, and corny though it sounds, it might be nice to be pregnant at the same time and go through it together, and she can teach me all the ins and outs of motherhood.
Do you think that someone who is not really maternal by nature can suddenly have a baby and adore having it? I don't want to be a bad mother! (I have always been very anti-babies, but am slowly mellowing and beginning to find some of them rather cute).
I am totally split in two. I am worried that if I don't have a baby that I'll regret it later, and worried that if I DO I'll regret it later!
Any thoughts on this that you have would be HUGELY appreciated. Don't feel unduely pressured, I will ultimately decide what to do on my own, but I'd love your honest perspectives on this.
[This message has been edited by Mrs. Edge (edited 12-10-2001).]
OK. This will sound like a strange question, but I'm one of those people who likes to ask people for advice before plunging into anything.
Now that the distraction of the tour is over, I am left with a pile of debt and a few life decisions to make. One of these nagging worries is: do I start a family. I am 30 now, and this is something I really should decide on relatively soon, because I CERTAINLY don't want to be raising a teenager in my 50s/60s!
My question is, if you are a parent, what made you finally decide to take this plunge? Was it spontaneous, or did you plan it out carefully right down to the timing of the conception?
I live with my husband happily in our house, and enjoy my life as it is enormously. I love the freedom of being able to travel and go out on a moment's notice. I am constantly bombarded with people saying "If you have a baby be prepared to never sleep/travel/have any fun/money again!" Not a great advertisement for parenthood! Everyone says that unless you are DESPERATE for children, not to bother having them. Is this true?
My sister says that children are like messy houseguests who don't clean up after themselves and never leave. My brother says "don't do it Jess, you'll regret it!" My mother says that having a baby will make up for the lack of U2 excitement. I would also really like to get away from work and if I have a baby I'm guaranteed a year off. Also, one of my best friends is about to try for her second, and corny though it sounds, it might be nice to be pregnant at the same time and go through it together, and she can teach me all the ins and outs of motherhood.
Do you think that someone who is not really maternal by nature can suddenly have a baby and adore having it? I don't want to be a bad mother! (I have always been very anti-babies, but am slowly mellowing and beginning to find some of them rather cute).
I am totally split in two. I am worried that if I don't have a baby that I'll regret it later, and worried that if I DO I'll regret it later!
Any thoughts on this that you have would be HUGELY appreciated. Don't feel unduely pressured, I will ultimately decide what to do on my own, but I'd love your honest perspectives on this.
[This message has been edited by Mrs. Edge (edited 12-10-2001).]